Life can get busy sometimes, but good people are worth making time for. I'm in an open relationship with my husband, and I'm looking for someone to connect with, a woman who is eager to dive right in and explore; an instigator who'll help me turn funny ideas into great experiences. I'm creative, independent, sensual, and romantic. I am playful and openly affectionate with partners and close friends, but shy if I don't know you yet. Sometimes really bad puns come out of my mouth. I eat my vegetables, and would rather have a cup of herbal tea than beer or wine. Hiking and cycling are my favorite ways to relax and escape; I don't have a car. I'm ambivalent about makeup, fancy hair-do's, and nail polish (except for special occasions), but I'm a sucker for good hygiene, scents, and smooth healthy skin.
I have a strategy for staying sane and happy that seems to work most of the time: variety in exercise and activity, a healthy diet, and a good balance of alone time and social time.
Forming connections with and being inspired by new women gives me so much extra energy, I feel like I can take on anything. My wonderful husband and I have been doing this open thing a long time, and though it would be tempting fate to say we have it all worked out, we work really hard at open, honest communication, and we enjoy seeing each other happy.
- you have read this: http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/online-dating-advice-exactly-what-to-say-in-a-first-message/
seriously, oktrends is one of the best reasons to be on okcupid. Guys, not to pick on you, but the women who message me are MUCH better at this. Take that as a challenge.
Other than that, you are good with the fact that I am poly and I have a husband, and occasional other partners; if the safe sex discussion doesn't intimidate you; if you are curious about group houses and intentional community.
If you like to get drunk every weekend or binge on junk food, I am not the woman for you. But if you have creative ways to relax and connect with people, I want to spend time with you!
NOTE: If you are male, you'll have to be at least as awesome as my wonderful husband and my fun play partners for me to clear some time in my schedule.