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My self-summary
For people who will say my summary is TL;DR :
I would really like to say that I am a simple person enjoying life, but that's not quite true. I am a complicated person. Not that I want to be complicated. It's just the way I am, I guess. Quite busy too. And definitely queer. And femme. And polyamorous. You'll have to deal with it. But I am quite enjoying life. :)

And the long version starts here, for people genuinely interested in my "self-summary".

Okay, now, real issue : am I bi or pan? Or queer? Because it is up for debate, at least, for some people.

Let me break it down for you. I don't exactly like labels. But it's hard to function in a world where everything, down to the type of socks you wear, has a label on it. It's hard to go around saying "I don't like labeling myself" without having to define constantly one's identity. Therefore, I have chosen to label myself as queer, bisexual and pansexual, after years of just vaguely answer "I'm into the person, not their gender". I can relate to all three identities, depending of the definition you give them.

The issue of bisexuality vs. pansexuality is real : a lot of people perceive pansexuality as discriminatory, and often transphobic. Indeed, some people describe themselves as pan, meaning that they are attracted to men, women, and trans people. And yes, that view of pansexuality can be considered transphobic, as it marginalizes (again) trans as not proper members of either sex.

This is not my case.

Here is what I mean by pansexuality : I'm attracted to ALL identities, which means both male and female, yes, but also the specter of non-binary identities. For me, these are MANY very different identities, therefore excluding the term "bi", to replace it by "pan", which I find more inclusive in this instance.

You could argue that bisexuality could be about being attracted to binary (which includes both male and female) and non-binary (which includes a wide range of different identities) people, which makes only two different categories, explaining "bi". I wouldn't disagree with you necessarily. This is also one of the reasons why I don't completely reject my identity as a bisexual woman. (Important to note that some people consider themselves bisexual, not in the "standard" understanding of the word; for example, some people who identify as bi could be attracted to female and non-binary).

It is also much easier for people who don't know much about the LGBTQA+ to refer to my sexuality as "bi" than "pan"; though, depending of the context and the person, I usually give the whole speech and explain to them what I just told you.

I also strongly identify as a femme. I embrace my feminity wholeheartedly.

I am a fierce feminist, always wanting to further my understanding of the movement, of its origins, of its definition, and most importantly, of its flaws. I strongly believe in an intersectional feminism that recognizes and validates what women that are not white, middle class, cis-gendered and able bodied live.

ALSO, good to know : I am polyamorous! An identity that I have been flirting with since I came out, actually, and that I now live to the fullest.

FYI, I have a wonderful (mostly straight) man in my life, and we are happily in an open, polyamorous relationship. We would love to become a "trouple" with another girl, one day.

Long intro. If you're still reading, you're on the right track. ;)
What I’m doing with my life
I work in architecture, and eventually, I guess I'll be an architect. Architecture is a crazy mistress, but may I be damned, I love her. Though, sometimes (and when I say sometimes, I mean every second of every day), I want to continue studying, and probably do something about combining architecture with my first and foremost passion: literature. We'll see.
I’m really good at
finding sexual innuendo where there is none intended... I'm not so bad at drawing and dreaming about impossible projects, too.

Oh, and I'm really good at procrastinating.
The first things people usually notice about me
My hair. After all these years, I still cannot tame them. Oh well.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
That's too hard to sum up. I love so many movies and books.

Zola, Murakami, Orwell, Hemingway, Wilde, C.S. Lewis, Tolkien, Kundera, Lois Lowry, Jane Austen... These are all my favorites. Some of my favorite books ever are probably His Dark Materials (and yes I am aware this is considered for "kids", but consider re-reading it if you think it is. every time I read it, I find something new to it... I cannot get over these books), The Giver (remarkable) and The unbearable lightness of being (just perfect). Just to name these three. Oh, and I grew up with Harry Potter. Better get used to it. ;)

For the movies, I don't know why, but I have to admit I am quite in love with Mr. Darcy in Pride and Prejudice. Silly, yeah. I am a huge Kubrick fan, though. The Shining, A Clockwork Orange, 2001, Full Metal Jacket... I love them all. Love Tarantino, David Cronenberg, Darren Aronofsky, Peter Jackson, too. Always up to see a good movie. :)

Oh. And by the way. I'm a HUGE trekkie, doubled as a X-Men (and comics in general) fan. I'm also a very intense Whovian and a longtime Harry Potter fan. So really, I wish I could join Starfleet, while traveling in the Tardis, after graduating from Hogwarts and the Xavier's School for Gifted Youngsters. In other words: I'm a geek. And if you understood some of these references, then I'm glad and we might have delightful conversations in the future. But I don't mind if you are not a geek at all. We'll talk about so many other things. But you'll have to accept that I am irreversibly lost to some fandoms. Geek and proud. :)

Series/Shows, now. Star Trek TOS/TNG (obviously). Doctor Who (though I'm not even half way through all the seasons/episodes god there are so many). I grew up with comics, so I'll always be down to watch some Spiderman/Batman/Justice League/X-Men Evolution old episodes. I'm a big fan of the BBC series Sherlock. God. I.simply.love.Benedict.Cumberbatch. Mad Men and House are very close behind it. Orange is the new black is a delightful jewel and you must watch it! I started watching Outlander and it's good (and Jamie is good too). Game of Thrones (brace yourselves). I loved the serie Rome. I watch some reality shows from time to time with my best friend.

Music, now. Even harder. I'm not a huge dubstep fan, but I love electro. Generally, I will listen to almost anything from soundtracks to pop, from electro to classical, from Coldplay to Bon Iver, from Lady Gaga to Simon & Garfunkel. Oh, and I will always remain in love with Freddie Mercury. And Mumford and sons. And Florence and the Machine. And SOUNDTRACKS.

Food. Just don't put any black or red beans and I shall like it. :)
The six things I could never do without
BOOKS. A life without books would be like a closet full of clothes without light: still operable, but it's very hard to find anything.
MY COMPUTER. My life is on this computer. All I did in the last four years at least.
MY CURRENT NOTEBOOK. I just need to sketch/write random shit/note silly quotes.
A PIANO. I currently don't have one where I live AND I FIND IT VERY HARD.
MY FRIENDS AND MY SISTER. Yeah, they aren't "things", but I really don't know how I would get along with them.
Oh, and SEX. Sex is great.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Kirk and Spock getting it on.
On a typical Friday night I am
playing Catan with my best friend and his boyfriend, drinking wine. Or, you know, in the park, at a bar. No such thing as a typical Friday night.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I read a lot of gay fanfiction. Yes. I'm that kind of girl.
You should message me if
well, if you want to. Though, I just might not answer.

I'm poly, I'm bi/pan (we can discuss what it means if you are interested).

Not looking for random sex with a guy who can't understand women want to have orgasms and only think of his pleasure.

Not looking for assholes and douche people in general.

Just message me if you DO NOT (I repeat, do. not.) traditionally start your messages with something like, "I don't know what's cooking, babe, but it's hot." Or anything like that. Please.