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My self-summary
I'm a writer, a cook, an explorer, a steadfast friend, a terrible liar, and a marginally effective flirt. I find comfort in simple things: a well-made meal, a cozy space, a sweeping view from the top of something I climbed, an intimate talk, the warm/sweet burn of a bourbon neat.

I'm fiercely independent, but still value friendship and companionship above all else. I'd love to find someone who feels similarly -- who doesn't need to be needed, but very much wants an enthusiastic co-conspirator for good conversation, laughter, home-cooked meals, and adventuring near and far.

I'm Midwestern to the core. Also ENFP/INFP depending on the day.
What I’m doing with my life
Eight months ago, I relocated to the Bay Area after 15 years in Chicago. I absolutely love it here. The people, the geography, the weather, the politics, the food, and the culture of innovation all appeal to me.

I just started a new job managing marketing and special projects for the internal food program at a big tech company with strong values around sustainability. On my first day, I nearly cried when I found out there was an employee-maintained community garden on the roof.

Spending a lot of time exploring my new East Bay surroundings, hiking with friends, and eating all the delicious food.
I’m really good at
- stringing words together
- cooking tasty food
- connecting people
- parallel parking
- killing houseplants

I'm really not very good at:
- sleeping in (although I try valiantly)
- budgeting at the grocery store
- hand-eye coordination
- remaining zen when it comes to Donald Trump
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Current reads: Bad Feminist by Roxane Gay and Between the World and Me by Ta-Nehisi Coates (I'm on a nonfiction/social commentary kick, but before this it was The Martian, so...yin and yang)

Current shows: Mr. Robot, The Night Of, and Thirteen (apparently my favorite genre is dark, twisty psychological drama). I'm also mildly obsessed with Samantha Bee, and I can't get enough of Viceland (all of it).

Current listening: NPR Politics Podcast, Dear Sugar Radio

Current eats: After cooking very little the past couple of months while my arm was in a cast (broken wrist, surgery, blah), I'm trying to get back into the habit of cooking healthy meals for myself. It's especially fun now that everything awesome is in season. I'm also on a quest for the perfect chocolate chip cookie recipe. Any suggestions?
The six things I could never do without
Morning tea
A sharp chef's knife
Travel in the works
My friend family
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to not die with regrets.
On a typical Friday night I am
Usually heading home to relax. Saturday night is for big plans (although sometimes it's also for cooking myself dinner and staying in. Leisurely cooking is therapy.)
You should message me if
You're kind, genuine, curious, engaged with the world and passionate about something.

You approach the world and other people with humility, while maintaining a quiet self-confidence.

You consider yourself a feminist, and aren't afraid to say so. Hot.

You use the right half of your brain frequently.

You agree that the truth is always sexier.

You take risks (calculated ones).

You want to explore a new neighborhood, try a hole-in-the-wall ethnic restaurant or get drinks at a swanky hotel bar, go to a talk on a subject we know nothing about or leave the city and get outside.