Emita81
35 Bristol, United Kingdom
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My self-summary
I'm an archaeologist, DJ and social dance teacher (blues), living on a narrowboat outside Bristol. I'm generally pretty cheerful, though with a bit of a sardonic sense of humour. I like intellectual conversations and geeking out over things I care about (archaeology, boats, dancing, stuff going on in the world, the idea that there might be an epic fire-zombie/golem-zombie showdown between certain brothers in the last GoT book). I quite often make jokes to cope with awkward situations. I don't always judge them well.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm currently a freelance archaeologist, as well as studying a post-grad research degree (part-time - it takes forever!) and teaching a bit at university. But I have been working in archaeology for 15 years now in various capacities and actually want to change direction. I'm not sure where, yet, but something more creative. I do a lot of dancing, and have been for a while - swing and blues, but mostly blues these days. Which looks like this (when really good teachers do it): http://youtu.be/sghrHxKeGhc. I've started fairly regular teaching in Bristol and DJing in other cities this year. I travel a lot for dance events in other cities and sometimes abroad - Prague, Slovenia, Tel Aviv/Bethlehem, Berlin have all been highlights. I also organise one in Bristol that coincides with the Harbour Festival - my biggest achievement with that was last year when we crowd-funded an extra band we found in a bar on the Saturday afternoon!

The boat takes a lot of time - there are always jobs to be done, bigger things and standard maintenance, but I also have to move at least every two weeks. There are a lot of things that make it a bit of a tough life, not least being NFA (no fixed address) and the various difficulties you encounter with prejudice and systemic bias, but when I'm at the tiller, or at the side hatch with a cup of tea on a starry night, there's really nothing like it! I really love it.

Other things I love: dancing, travelling, anything to do with palaeolithic archaeology, maps, books, good sci fi (books and tv - more Firefly than Star Trek, though I do love Voyager), dancing, hiking in the countryside/by the sea, going to interesting performances or exhibitions, dancing, singing, blues music, lots of other music, teaching/training, parties/dancing with friends, drinking tea/gin/wine/ale/cider/cocktails, dancing, cooking/eating great vegetarian food (Vietnamese is my current favourite). Did I mention dancing? It's quite a massive part of my life now and that's probably not going to change. Would you like to go dancing?

I love finding random things to do at weekends, like to go for a stomp in the countryside or a visit to somewhere historical/archaeological when I can, go to the Watershed or Cube to see foreign-language/independent/arthouse films, occasionally make it to the Old Vic for plays, read and listen to a lot of music (swing to make me happy, blues and lyrical stuff to help me feel sad or thoughtful – e.g. Tom Waits, Joni Mitchell, Elliot Smith, Nick Drake, Anja Garbarek – and classical to help me work).
I’m really good at
Identifying random metal objects people find in the garden, sciencey things, teaching/helping people (I hope), dancing/trying to get better at dancing, singing, dressing up in a vintage frock or raincoat and wellies, depending on the occasion and the weather, not taking myself too seriously, being silly, ranting about politics or discussing evolutionary theory in the pub . . . Driving my boat and getting oily in the engine bay. Also occasionally completely reinventing myself or packing a bag and heading off to the other side of the world for extended adventures.
The first things people usually notice about me
Apparently this answer should be my laugh. It is quite loud. Particularly when I'm flirting. Or nervous. Or feeling awkward. So figuring that one out should make for a fun first date!

Otherwise, short, gingerish lefty, a bit mouthy, sometimes grumpy. Maybe a bit of a control freak.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Doris Lessing, José Saramago, Virginia Woolf, Andrey Kurkov, Ursula Le Guin, Jack Kerouac, Philip Pullman, Neil Gaiman.

Treme, GoT, The Thick of It, Borgen, The Killing, Friday Night Dinner, Fresh Meat, Dr Who, QI, Black Books, Father Ted, Green Wing, the Mighty Boosh, Flight of the Conchords, Monty Python, Jeeves and Wooster, Blackadder, Fawlty Towers, M*A*S*H (Alan Alda as Hawkeye was my earliest crush, which probably explains my soft spot for men in 50s Hawaiian shirts). Radio 4.

Music, see above.

Films – prefer independent/foreign language/animation. Studio Ghibli, Ken Loach, anything with Jaques Tati, Almodovar. Amelie. Easy Rider, The Shining, One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest. Sean of the Dead. Classics, anything with Alec Guinness or by Hitchcock. Despicable Me.

Food – vegetarian, preferably non-British (Vietnamese, Thai, Indian, Italian, Spanish, Mexican), though I do a pretty good veggie sausage toad-in-the-hole . . .
The six things I could never do without
Family and friends (that's one!), my boat, music, dancing, green/old places/the sea/water, intelligent conversation. Rebelliousness.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Evolution, dancing, friends and family, places I've been or want to travel to, politics/how the world could work better if I was in charge ;-) (or nobody was in charge), stories, music, how on earth to manage all the things I'm doing at the moment, pay for things and still work on my thesis . . .
On a typical Friday night I am
Hunting down danceable jazz/blues in Bristol/further afield like a chrome-soled tiger! Or pub with skittles or bar billiards, or going to the cinema to see a strange surreal Czech film, or cooking vegetarian Vietnamese noodle soup and summer rolls for friends, with beers, wine or gin and tonic. Or lighting the fire, eating a pizza and knitting a new hat (not at the same time) in front of a film or box set (trying to stop the cat from 'helping'). Or climbing out onto the front of the boat to the gas locker in a howling gale with shampoo in my hair because the gas ran out in the middle of my shower . . .
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
For a sciencey person, it's a bit odd that I practice a bit of chi gong and occasionally do my own tarot readings. But tarot is all based on Jungian psychological principles about archetypes, symbols and the unconscious, you know! And chi gong seems to work for me - mind/body links, I think - the body can respond to metaphors in unexpected ways and placebos work even when you know it's a placebo . . .
You should message me if
You think I sound interesting, like intelligent conversation and a practical, independent woman! And you understand someone who is ultimately looking for an equal partnership that could be ongoing.

Or if you're any good with 12v systems/engines/welding. There's always something that needs doing!

Seriously, though, I am looking for someone who likes animals (I have a cat and he's young, so he's going to be around for a while - I don't know about you, yet), likes the actual countryside (not just the pretty bits), has chopped wood/camped/trekked/travelled somewhere they didn't have immediate access to wifi/heating/running water and liked it, thinks/reads, is creative/imaginative, compassionate/kind, practical, physical, thoughtful, conscious, confident, aware of privilege/lack of it and sometimes intellectual/geeky . . . There has to be at least one guy out there like that, right? Right . . . ?

One last thing. If the idea of ever having children has never occurred to you, go and date a 20-something-year-old. Women in their 30s do not have the privilege of not having had to think about it. Society and our bodies have been telling us we're supposed to have them for decades. I am not 'baby-crazy' and I want to get to know someone pretty damn well before breeding with them. But it is something I might like the option of in my future, and if that's not something you ever want, or you want to go on not having to make a decision about it for another 10 years, please fuck off.

I'm pretty sure no one fits all of these things, and am aware that feelings generally confound plans, but guys always go for things they are not qualified for, right (that's how you win presidencies), so I'm banking on receiving your applications anyway . . .
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