EmrysTernal
29 Austin, United States
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My self-summary
The very first thing you need to know about me is that unless I get a bolt of inspiration or we have certain key things in common or if your match rating is really REALLY high... odds are I'm going to be WAAAY too shy to message you first. Take the initiative!

I'm a warm-hearted goofy ultra-nerd game designer, sex-educator, and kinkster seeking vibrant shared-interest-driven friendships that optionally might turn into a relationship later (again, not required). Some would call that a "queerplatonic" relationship, which has become my new favorite word. Will you be my zucchini?

For everyone else, I want a nerdy lover. Talk derivative to me and you'll become integral to my equation. Our movie nights will be TED talks, roleplaying will be with a twenty-sider, and we'll fall asleep snuggling with eachother's book collections. :)

A relationship starts easiest when you think of it as trying to find a best friend with whom you could trust your life, but (unless you're asexual) who you also want to fuck. We don't need to wrap it up in a bunch of other expectations at the start of a relationship. Find a best friend.

I'm currently single but polyamorous, which means that we celebrate when we make progress in other relationships (compersion) and comfort eachother when there's sadness in-kind.

Some Links:
Why Dating Is Fu*ked!!!
The Song that Best Captures Who I Am Inside: Pollyanna (Click here for the music) (Click here for the lyrics)
Most Recent Laugh: Markiplier Animated | The Itch
Listening to: Shirobon - Running My Head
KinkBasics.com (one of my websites)
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What I’m doing with my life
I want to find thoughtful worthwhile people in the cosmic infinite, befriend them, and bring joy into their lives. Throughout my life, I've experienced some profound non-religious spiritual events which have culminated in making me 100% certain of my purpose in life. I'm a "friendly solipsist" variant agnostic atheist.

I have a Bachelors Degree in Computer Science (with a Math minor). I work doing what I love (game design and sex education) and when you love your work, you never work a day in your life. I aspire to become a game design pioneer and master in my specialty.

Most of my social life involves the the Austin-area nerd scene and kink/BDSM scene. If either of those two pique your interests, you should probably message me right now.
I’m really good at
1. Keeping a cool head in adversity.
2. Putting my all into each of my passions.
3. Being decisive when the need is dire.
4. Game design instincts and intuition.
The first things people usually notice about me
1. I have really long hair that naturally drapes into curls.
2. My eyes are really striking and seem to change color.
3. Apparently I'm adorable when I'm flustered, and I have dimples. I've also been told that I have a rarely-seen sultry side.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I'm going to write a bunch here, but do you remember the lyrics to "Breakfast at Tiffany's"? Yeah, none of these lists matter and you can skip this section if you want.

Books: Discworld series (Terry Pratchett), Nuclear Bombshell series (John Zakour and Lawrence Ganem), Another Fine Myth series (Robert Asprin), Phule's Company series (Robert Asprin), Redwall series (Brian Jacques), and the Rats of NIMH series (Robert C. O'Brien and Jane Leslie Conly).

Movies: The Wizard of Speed and Time, Sleepless in Seattle (really, any movie with Meg Ryan and/or Tom Hanks... except Mazes and Monsters or any of the religious shit he's put out), The Truman Show, anything by Ghibli, and anything by Satoshi Kon.

Shows: Markiplier, Game Grumps, NCIS, House, M*A*S*H, The Daily Show, The Young Turks, Elementary, Brooklyn-99, Jessica Jones, Doctor Who (except for the sexist episodes Steven Moffat writes/produces), Law and Order: SVU, Avatar: The Last Airbender, and Star Trek: Voyager.

Music:♪♫♪ Everything from Pentatonix, Smooth McGroove, Ninja Sex Party, Andrew Huang (Songs to Wear Pants To), and Shirobon. Additionally, atmospheric music, ambient music, orchestral music (all kinds, including single-instrument), videogame OSTs, and anime OSTs.
Examples: Allegro Cantabile, All That I Want, Regain Control.

Food: My chicken broccoli cheese rice casserole, Milk Chocolate (of all kinds, including chocolate milk), American Buffet, Chinese Buffet, Bacon Cheeseburger, Pizza, ...pretty much anything really except seafood.

Anime (excluding movies): Detective Conan (Case Closed), Clannad (et al), Kanon, Pita-Ten, Fullmetal Alchemist, Dennou Coil (Cyber Coil), The Melancholy of Haruhi Suzumiya, Lucky Star, and Ghost in the Shell: Stand Alone Complex (et al).

Comedians: Gabriel Iglesias, Eddie Izzard, Lewis Black, George Carlin, and Victor Borge (not necessarily in that order).

Games: Chrono Trigger, Shadow of the Colossus, Metroid Prime Trilogy, Morrowind (Elder Scrolls 3), Secret of Mana, Portal 1 & 2, Terraria, Jamestown, D&D 3.5e, Magic the Gathering, Artemis, Betrayal at House on the Hill... too many to count really. I'm a HUGE gamer (being a game designer does that), so if you have a problem with videogames in general (or wouldn't play with me) then we're not likely to become friends.
The six things I could never do without
Assuming a "lonely island" scenario with an infinite amount of the perishables (like batteries) and givens (like indoor plumbing):
1. A close friend (maybe you could be that friend?).
2. My recipe for chicken broccoli cheese rice casserole (it's that good).
3. Videogames, preferably stuff with high or infinite replayability (and cooperative play for item #1 :D ).
4. A large thick blanket with a giant pillow (sleep is awesome).
5. Internet access in some capacity (even if it's just enough to check my email and send emails).
6. Some kind of dictaphone (to keep a log of my experiences).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
These are the most important things I stand for:
• Equality for all races, ages, weights, genders, colors, creeds, ethnicities, and religions. Also the strength to stand up for the same, at any cost.
• The right for anyone to make the reproductive choices they wish with their body.
• Respect for the immense journey it has taken our society to get to the level of equality it has gotten to today, and awareness of how easy it is to slide backwards on that scale.
• Acceptance of alternative lifestyles. What happens between me and my partner is not the government's business.
• Peace, not violence. Defense, where appropriate. Honor for all those who serve.
• Basic civil rights for all. An end to poverty.
• Respect for humanity, the planet, and our place in both.
• Respect for knowledge and the pursuit of knowledge, and for those who must make difficult decisions from having that knowledge but actively seek it anyway.
• Understanding and tolerance of (albeit not agreement with) everything that doesn't fit into the above, because the above -- for me -- is not negotiable.

If you can't support all of the above to your last breath, we have no business being friends. I'm sorry, but that's the way that it is.

I spend a lot of time on game design, nerd culture, fencing, battle gaming, anime/manga, spirituality, philosophy, ethics, politics, magic, religion, sexuality, sensuality, videogames, and tabletop RPGs... oh man do I think a lot about those. I've been working on a futuristic D&D campaign. Feel free to ask me about it!
On a typical Friday night I am
I'm usually at home. I don't drink, so I don't go out to bars/parties much. That said, if I'm invited to something, I'm usually ecstatic and am honored for the opportunity. Sometimes though I just go out to Emerald Tavern or a munch or play party because as an extrovert I've become desperate for social energy.

My ideal Friday night is talking into the late hours with someone special about various intellectual topics. ^_^ I thrive on that stuff.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
(...in an online dating profile.)

I'm lonely. Relationships are nice, but close friendships based on shared interests would be better for me right now. If a relationship happens as a result, then cool, but it's not my primary goal right now.

This profile is a reflection of who I am inside. For most people, whether or not they'll click on my profile at all boils down to the attractiveness of my main profile photo... and that's sad. It's extraordinarily rare for someone to start up a conversation with me, and I tend to avoid starting up the conversation myself because meeting new people is scary!

Another private thing: although I'm a switch, overall I'm a bit submissive on-average.
You should message me if
I should get this out of the way first: I'm kinky.
Yes, I have a play room like from that movie (pictures are in my "Locations" album) but real play rooms almost never look like they do in that movie. I can answer any questions you may have about the real thing and even help you explore that side of your sexuality, but I'm not Christian Grey and you should not aspire to be Ana. Ana was a twit.

Just... message me. You will most certainly brighten my day. You should especially message me if you fit any of the following:

1. You remember the last thing that made you laugh so hard you nearly cried. (By all means, please tell me what it was!)

2. You've answered 200+ of my matching questions, and we have a match rating of 80% or more and an enemy rating of 20% or less.

3. You're kinky or curious (even if only remotely) about kink or BDSM. It's always awesome to chat with kinky or kink-curious people, even if we'll never actually play. I'd be happy to point you in the right direction to learn more about the lifestyle. Let me make one thing abundantly clear though: My sexual health is of paramount importance to me, so we're NOT going to have intercourse (even with protection) until we can share test results. I have a strapon dildo we could use, but we're not having intercourse. Kinky play or an evening of mutual pleasure are another matter entirely.
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