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My self-summary
In a crowd, I either stand out or am invisible, depending on your point of view. I like to read books while eating lunch alone in restaurants. I enjoy playing board games with friends in cafés that have more seating room than customers. I listen to podcasts and play video games while I uber to work and write in my journal whenever I visit far flung locales. When I’m with friends, I love to debate philosophy and discuss whatever topic is at hand; when I’m surrounded by strangers, I mostly just listen to what others have to say.

Although I'm polyamorous, I'm interested mostly in just friendship for the moment, as my dance card is full. But I'm always open to meeting new people.
What I’m doing with my life
I have dedicated my life to the cause of effective altruism. At the moment, this consists mostly of earning to give, though I also work as a data scientist for an EA organization.

My long term goal is to do the most awesome things I can do that will most positively affect us all.
I’m really good at
Communicating technical information to a lay audience. I earn my living through communications strategy consultation; in effect, I get paid to communicate how to communicate effectively to communications departments. I’m rather proud of how meta my career choice is.
The first things people usually notice about me
The first thing people usually notice about me is how quiet I am. But that’s only because I tend to be quiet when I’m surrounded by strangers (a.k.a. the population of people-who-can-first-notice-things-about-me).

Once we get past the strangers stage, the most prominent thing people notice is my tendency to debate. I also sometimes get comments on my state of dress, if it happens to be one of the days I wear a kilt.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I won’t bore you with an overly long list, so I’ll instead just name one or two of my favorites from each category. Keep in mind that these are not necessarily my absolute favorites; they are just good examples of the kinds of things I really enjoy.

HPMOR, A People’s History of the United States, Adaptation, Arrested Development, Firefly, Black Mirror, The Expanse, Better Call Saul, Birdland, Tocatta & Fugue in d minor.

I especially enjoy rational fiction, philosophical fiction, and nonfiction (mostly science, philosophy, or math). Strangely, I'm not that into biographies, and I'm not quite sure why.

I enjoy video games enough that I actually co-hosted a podcast about them. You can check it out if you care about that sort of thing. Final Fantasy VI was my favorite video game, though the most-played games I'm into these days is probably on the Nintendo Switch, and the game I've spent the most time watching is StarCraft.

I should also note that I am vegetarian here, since I’m supposed to list my favorite foods. There is a nontrivial chance that I might become vegan in the future. (For ethical reasons, not health reasons.)

If you want more detail, feel free to browse my accounts on, or you can see blog entries on my favorite podcasts, my favorite tv shows, or my ‘likes’ on Facebook. I also keep a Philosophy Humor board on Pinterest.
Six things I could never do without
My phone, which gives direct access to nearly all the information we've gathered as a species. My headphones, so that I can listen to podcasts/music while on the metro. My Switch, which I use to unwind nearly every day. My glasses, which help me to see the world around me. My computer, upon which I work, play, and read constantly. And my guiltiest pleasure: high-quality bedding, without which I honestly sleep fitfully.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
…the ethics of how far you can take writing a horror novel. If a person is opting in to read a horror novel, they are consenting to some level of fear to be instilled in them, but I'm not sure how much fear-causing would be ethically permissible for me, as a writer, to instill. For example, would it be okay to expose horror-novel-readers to information hazards? How strong of an infohazard would be appropriate?

…thought experiments that may affect serious real world decisions, like low-probability high-impact Pascal's mugging scenarios, or acausal trade. I spend a lot of my free time looking into whether we should even take these seriously.

metaethical theories that are coherent and consistent over the long term. Specifically, I think about how to communicate how urgent this need is to other, better thinkers than me.

…analyses of possibly highly effective interventions that nonprofits (or even an individual effective altruist) could use to bring about more total utility.

…the relationship between advocacy movements and science-based organizations, such as the effective animal advocacy movement and data-based animal welfare orgs, or between fat acceptance and HAES.

…whatever content I'm currently consuming (e.g.: podcasts, videogames, fiction, nonfiction, fanfiction, tv shows, movies, &c.). I'm the kind of person that likes to talk about a movie right after seeing it and participate in subreddits on tv series I'm currently watching.

philosophy. Seriously, check out how many of my favorite podcasts are philosophy-related.

…whether I should have put in something more relatable in this section of my profile. (I've had multiple people say that this section of my profile scares away far more potential partners than it attracts. But that's okay with me; I'd rather get an initial message from someone who expresses at least a little interest in the topics I spend a lot of time thinking about.)
On a typical Friday night I am
Reading. Or writing. Or maybe playing a video game. I don't really schedule out these things. Sometimes I work pretty late, too.

But probably I'm just listening to a coursera lecture, or posting in the EA facebook group. Or on reddit. Or less wrong. Or whatever. Check if you really care.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
When I was younger, I had opinions and did things that I now consider quite abhorrent. The politics, ethics, and general personality of my past self are not something I’m proud of.

If you want to know more, feel free to google me; as far as I know, I’m the only "Eric Herboso" on the web. Just keep in mind that I’ve used my name publicly online since I was thirteen, and some of what I posted online way back when will not properly reflect who I am as a person today.

You can also see more on,, lesswrong/u/EricHerboso,,, or
You should message me if
I’m a strong believer in radical honesty, so I feel I should bring up a few things that might affect your decision on whether to message me. Keep in mind that I’m open to friendship with anyone who writes, but if you’re solely interested in a romantic relationship, then you’ll want to read through the following.

I adore spending time around children (my siblings are 10, 13, and 22 years of age), but I have no particular desire to ever raise children of my own. I'm not fully opposed to the idea, but, if left to my own predilections, I think I'd prefer not to have kids.

I'm philosophically polyamorous. I'm perfectly comfortable being in a relationship with just one person, but I'm equally comfortable being alone or with multiple people. Openness and honesty in this is key.

Like most poly people, my dance card is nearly full. Between friends, board game meetups, online gaming, work, volunteering, and spending time with my siblings, I have limited time available for meeting new people. If you're looking for someone that can spend every night of the week doing something new, then I'm probably not a good person to look to. Nevertheless, I adore meeting new people so long as they're understanding of this.

I'm somewhat asexual. While I enjoy sex, it isn't particularly important to me. I'm usually not the one to initiate sex in relationships. However, as a sapioromantic, I'm quite fond of physical closeness with people I find intellectually stimulating.

Finally, I’m a skeptic and a rationalist. While I appreciate good fiction, I don't get along well with people who endorse beliefs uncritically. If you're into ghosts, bigfoot, or the anti-vaccine movement, we probably aren't going to click.

If, after reading all that, you’re still wondering whether you should message me, then go ahead and message me! After all, what’s the worst that could happen? (c:

Oh, and even if we wouldn’t work romantically, I'd still love to hear from you if you think we might work out on a friendship basis. My social circles revolve around effective altruism, board games, video games, and philosophy. If you're interested in playing quality board games, joining a philosophy book club, or competing in Splatoon/Mario Kart/Smash Bros./Arms, then you may be just the kind of person I'm looking for. (My local board game group plays Pandemic, Ticket to Ride, Splendor, Dixit, Mysterium, Caverna, and several other high quality games. Message me if you're in the area and want to join in!)

All ages, races, cultures, sizes, and species should feel encouraged to get in touch with me. (c;
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