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My self-summary
Here are some things that matter to me: Books and magazines -- I tend to prefer fantasy and science fiction, but I've certainly been known to read other things, such as medieval and Renaissance era history. I can tell fortunes with tarot cards and have been informed that I'm uncannily good at it. I love cats, esp. my kitty, Purrcival. As far as religion goes, I identify as Wiccan or pagan, but I'm perfectly open to being friends with/dating someone with another belief system.

I am honorable, intelligent, and generous

What I want:

I want to make true connections again -- the ones that leave me wondering where you've been all my life. I want to create virtual worlds with you and explore them in my mind all day, while my body is stuck at work. I want to find others with a truly medieval sense of honor and make unbreakable vows of loyalty that last forever. I want to find people who understand that it's okay to feel intensely about somebody, even when you've only spoken to each other a handful of times. I want a knight to my lady, a rogue to my mage, soulmates that I meet again and again, in each of my lives. If you ever feel like you're missing someone you've never met, it might be me.

What I don't want:

I'm not interested in casual hookups, especially with men. I'm bisexual and poly, but I don't want to do anything with a woman for her boyfriend or husband's sexual pleasure. Yuck. I am *not* sexually submissive, in any way, shape or form. For all the dominant guys who think I just haven't met the right "alpha male" yet, you will be politely refused, the first couple of times you approach me. After that, your advances will be met with outright derision. Consider yourself warned.
What I’m doing with my life
Trying very hard to juggle my day job as a librarian with being serious about writing. Two books that I've written have been published, and I'm working on following them up.
I’m really good at
Writing -- I've gotten two books into print (not self published, either!) and several magazines have carried my work.

Telling fortunes with tarot cards -- as I mentioned above, lots of people have told me that I'm uncannily accurate with my predictions.
The first things people usually notice about me
If they notice me at all (I'm shy!), they sometimes see that I have really odd and interesting silver jewelry. A lot of fantasy themes, (dragons, fairies), written words and stuff related to my spirituality.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books -- Fionavar Tapestry, Inkheart, Harry Potter

Movies -- Real Genius, Pillow Book, Boxing Helena, Drowning by Numbers, Trekkies, Committed, Stardust, Secret of Kells, The Wild Hunt, Mists of Avalon

Music -- Loreena McKennitt, The Cure, Rusted Root, Mediaeval Baebes, Blink 182, The Donnas, Kiva, Emerald Rose

Foods -- Ice cream! Anything sweet and/or salty
Six things I could never do without
Books -- I need books only slightly less than I need oxygen. I've always got a few going at a time and have to carry a huge bag with me everywhere, so I can fit a book or two in it.

Cats -- my fuzzy lifemates! I've always refused to date anyone that is severely cat allergic enough that they would want me not to have any if he/she lived with me. Sorry -- the cats are not negotiable! I don't have any children, but I think I would give up a child for adoption if he/she couldn't be in the same house with cats.

Tarot cards -- I love telling fortunes, both my own and other people's. Besides, I'm shy, and it's a great way to get people to interact with me. You have to talk to me if you want your fortune told!

Tea -- Ah yes, the ideal beverage. It's fantastic in all its forms -- black, green, or white, hot or cold. I would probably have sided with the English during the Revolutionary War if they threatened to take tea away from me.

Art -- I especially like the Pre-Raphaelites, Surrealists, and medieval manuscripts

Intellectual conversation -- I flee the staff room at work when people start talking about the weather, sports, brain-melting sitcoms, or reality shows. Yes, it means that I often eat lunch alone, but I'm okay with that.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Whatever I'm writing about! Most recently, that has tended to be a humorous fantasy novel that's sort of like P.G. Wodehouse meets Terry Pratchett by way of Downton Abbey. "I say -- we're being attacked by ogres!" "Goodness, I do hope they won't spoil our tea!"
On a typical Friday night I am
Crashed out on the couch watching a DVD, with popcorn and a martini -- by the time Friday rolls around each week, I am physically, mentally, and emotionally exhausted!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
What would you like to know? Seriously -- I'll answer any direct question truthfully.

Okay -- I've noticed that a decent number of people use this space to talk about their relationship history/outlook. I've been widowed since 2001, and that experience has changed how I look at the world in general, but esp. the world of love/dating/relationships. To begin with, I'm really, really against divorce. If I could have my lifemate back again, there is NOTHING I would not be willing to endure. Lying, cheating, drinking, drug addiction, physical/emotional abuse ... you name it, and I would DEFINITELY make that "deal with the devil" to have him alive and by my side again. So, at this point in my life, I'm somewhat angry at people who just can't seem to make their marriages "work out". Metaphorically, I think of myself somewhat like Jennet from the poem "Tam Lin". My job in a relationship is to "hold fast and never let go", no matter what shape my beloved is transformed into.
You should message me if
you're interested in any "geek" things -- roleplaying games, comic books, fantasy, science fiction, anime, etc.

you know what the Mabinogion is.

you know how to be a lifelong friend and have room in your life for at least one more of these. I have these really intense connections with some people I went to college with and a few others I met in my 20's. Everyone I've met after that time in my life seems to want to be little more than acquaintances.
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