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My self-summary
I'm trying to think of how to express who I am to you. Which is challenging, as you know, having done the same thing yourself. Hmm.

Oh, I know! Picture something for me, if you will.

You have an evening to yourself, but aren't really up for "doing anything" per se. You find yourself aimlessly browsing Netflix, or your preferred equivalent, when you stumble upon a show that catches your attention, just for a few moments. It seems to be some sort of silly sci-fi nonsense or another; laser swords, ships on string flying in front of green screens, lots of cheap sets and what not.

You soon realise that in truth though, those elements are not reflective of the whole. The show starts to get to its point, and barely concealed underneath its fascination with spaceships and laser swords, it's really about important issues; how to live with each other, how we can be better than we are, ect.

That's me. That is exactly who I am; a constant battle between the slightly pretentious philosophy professor & therapist who wants to stay up all night talking about ethics, history, "how are you really?", and everything else in the world, vs the kid who just wants to play games, eat sweets and find someone to hug at the end of the day.

Which is all a grand metaphor, I know, but doesn't really tell you much specific about me. I've never been good at selling myself. So I asked my friend what she would say about me, and with a proviso that "your qualities aren't best shown in a snappy phrase but in your actions", here is what she said:

"Best things: You're an incredible listener, so much so that people want to drive to you late at night to hear your opinions.

You're utterly fair.

You pursue your interests and aren't ashamed of yourself or insecure. You make people interested in what you're interested in because you want to share the awesome things you know and find.

You're affectionate and make people feel valued and worthwhile."

If those traits interest you, come and say hi. :)
What I’m doing with my life
I've just moved to Dorking, so I'm looking forward to getting to know the area and local folk better.

And I'm happy to also say that my life's goal of becoming Tim from The Office is much closer to fruition now that I've actually been working in an office environment for the last couple of years.
I’m really good at
Understanding multiple sides to an issue, which is also a part of my being pretty good in a debate, I think. It's also a skill which helps out when advising friends on various issues. That said, I'm also pretty good at parsing information and decisively coming to a conclusion, whilst allowing for the possibility of being mistaken.

I'm not a bad writer, though I wouldn't go as far as to say "really good".

Oh, and not sleeping. It's 3:45 as I type this, and I doubt I'll be asleep for another couple of hours yet. Because my internal body clock is either massively faulty, or just kind of a dick.

And I'm seemingly pretty good at making folks laugh, once I know them a bit. Though to be honest I really only tell jokes for my own amusement - other people laughing is just a bonus.
The first things people usually notice about me
If I'm at work, then I presume it's the glasses and my overly polite demeanor. If I'm not at work, then I presume it's just the glasses.

If you're particularly curious, here is a full 20 seconds or so of what I look like in motion; secretly recorded by, and uploaded at the recommendation of, a friend:

Why not tell me what you noticed first, and I'll update this section accordingly.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
For the sake of brevity, I will try to stick to three for each category. Otherwise we would be here for quite a while.


- The Ragged Trousered Philanthropists. A book which is not only excellent in it's own right, but when I was younger really helped me to think about what I believed, and continues to be valuable to me today.

- The God Delusion. An imperfect book, perhaps, but on this list for similar reasons to the one above. Challenged me and, indeed, caused me to alter my position on the subject.

- The Fault In Our Stars. Because it's just a lovely book. Funny and sad all at once, and devastatingly effective at both.


- The West Wing. Simply one of the greatest shows ever made. Phenomenal in just about every way.

- Star Trek. A franchise that probably did more to raise me than my parents, which I do not say lightly. Long before I was reading books that made me think about who I was and who I wanted to be, there were these shows, asking me those same questions, and inspiring my answers to be better than they otherwise would have been.

- Firefly. Browncoats for life. 4 lyfe, yo.


First of, I should note that I mostly listen to hip-hop. Most people are rather surprised by this. I'm not sure why.

- The Cool, Lupe Fiasco. The Cool is simply my favourite album of all time. Wonderful wordplay, deep meanings and themes including the multi-song, multi-album story of The Cool, and it's easy to see why Rap Genius called Lupe "The Proust of Rap". Took me years to feel like I actually understood all of that album.

- Late Registration, Kanye West. Yes, he's an asshole. And an egotist. But also a genius. And this album was simply wonderful. "Drive Slow" in particular uses a saxophone sample that just shoots straight to the soul.

- The Marshal Mathers LP, Eminem. I assume that the reputation of this one precedes it, and that I need say no more, yes?

And finally, Games

-KotOR 2. Ugly, even for it's time, incomplete and buggy as hell. I loved this game despite all that. It's the game that first taught me that games could really be meaningful, and have something to say, and even allow you to say something in turn.

-Time Splitters: Future Perfect. On the other side of the coin, the finest silly, camp and funny shooter ever made.

- Journey. Simply the most beautiful game currently in existence, and the strongest example I've played of games as art.
You should message me if
Looking for a relationship and considering messaging me? Then you should. That is really the only criteria that matters. Anything else can be sorted out by talking to each other, which requires the sending of messages, it seems to me. So go ahead.
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