26Pahrump, United States
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My self-summary
confusing and confused mix of desert redneck, urban queer punk, and landlocked sailor hermit.

i collect skills because when i'm faced with the option of hiring someone to do a thing or figuring it out myself, i can't bring myself to hire someone (and usually can't afford it). case in point, i'm about to start building a very cheap, simple, liveaboard sailing barge.

depression is an issue for me, and i deal with it largely by being wittily, often sarcastically bemused in a despondent way. i'm near convinced that most things are (or could be, or will be) moot, but i don't feel or behave that way.

intersectional feminist, anarchist.

i strongly hold that emoticons represent a significant advancement in textual communication ;-)
What I’m doing with my life
i moved back here from portland, oregon (pahrump [just west of vegas], where i will be based until i've built my boat) to be with my family after my brother was diagnosed with cancer. we fought it for a couple years, but he died. now i'm going to put my life back together, which mostly means working on my sailboat until it's livable, at which point i'll sail into the sunset.

my partner lives in ohio. our relationship is open. i am actively seeking people to be around, including friends, comrades, and possibly sex partners. my sexual relationships tend to be close, lasting friendships that include sex, not romantic commitments.


building the sailboat is a huge, intimidating project which i would love to discuss/have others' opinions on/have help (or company) with. also, once the deck is finished i need to outfit the boat for long voyages, because i intend to find the inside passage and sail much of the world. not the touristy bits either. i'm open to having a sailing partner.
I’m really good at
fixing things. usually i break them a little in the process of fixing them the first time, but then i fix that too. picturing things. i am an almost purely visual thinker. sometimes i think this holds me back when i'm trying to consider things more theoretical than concrete.
i used to be really good at jazz guitar. now i'm okay.
i'm getting better at drawing. i'm a good amateur at technical drawings of necessity, but am working on expressive drawing as i attempt to create a comic.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
lotr, braveheart, serenity, can't think of more at the moment...
firefly, mushi-shi, blanking again, it's late...
streetlight manifesto, u2, Chopin, pearl jam, slothrust, dispatch, nin, blaaaaank...
general tso's chicken, pizza, seafood, bread, rice.
cheap red wine, scotch or jameson's, warm sake, brown beer, hard cider.
Six things I could never do without
corrective lenses
a project
books (can be audio lately)
deep sleep
I spend a lot of time thinking about

undermining capitalism and the kyriarchy.
what ideas i have accepted, where did they come from, what purpose do they serve, and whether they are acceptable to keep. how can i make myself the person i feel i must be to feel good about myself? what has shaped that person? how should i shape that person? would it be a cop-out to become a hermit? can i actually do good, or only convince myself i am doing good?

how everything is a scale, and i tend to picture everything on a bar graph from negative to neutral to positive next to the most closely related things on their own bars. like a skill level graph from an rpg.

is it better to commit to a thing or be competent at many things?
which martial art should i learn? (leaning toward muay thai largely because there's a place that teaches it close by)

should i continue to use this site to meet people, or give up on it and just be out more? if the latter, is it necessary to be seen in the same places consistently to make meaningful relationships in the physical realm? why am i so clueless about this basic life function?
On a typical Friday night I am
watching something, teaching myself programming, drinking, hanging out with my family, working on my boat.
You should message me if
you are open to meeting. i'm not opposed to chatting here, but my intention is to use this site as a way to meet people in the real world. i need to get out and about and make some connections :-)
you need help fixing something! particularly bikes or guitars, or other wooden things.
you know about boats!
you have a project you think i'd like to work on with you, or you want to help me with my projects.
you want to play music together, but won't judge me for being rusty and insecure.
you'd like to help me practice german, chinese, or french. my chinese is rusty and my french almost nonexistent, but especially in a penpal situation, i think i could make do and learn fast.
really any reason. i'm not in the habit of denying communication. if i think we shouldn't talk, i'll tell you that before ceasing our conversation.
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