35 Northampton, United Kingdom
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My self-summary
Barely tolerable clever idiot, who reads too much, and needs to get out more. I am looking for a kind, intelligent, funny woman who will happily slink about with me sharing in-jokes, arguing affectionately, and generally enjoying 'stuff' together. I guess if you need someone to go to pubs, restaurants, gigs, record shops, book shops, picturesque cathedral cities etc, with, and then spend nights in watching films and telly and slagging it all off, then I would be perfect (sort of).

Likes: Girl bands (Sleater-Kinney, Vivian Girls etc), English novels 1900-1970, the poetry of Frank O'Hara, modernist architecture, Bourbon biscuits, strong sweet tea, banoffee pie, books about communist Eastern Europe, peculiar words.
Dislikes: Fascinators, cummerbunds, the backwards baseball cap, the many evil works of the onion (veg, not American satirical organ), Fearn Cotton, poor quality ale.
My friends would describe me as 'broadly male', 'occasionally tolerable', & 'frequently adjacent'.
What I’m doing with my life
Your mum.

I work in an office in local government, & it is considerably better than television had led me to believe. Damn the lying box. I have a degree and a masters in the sort of subject that is life-enhancing, brain-enhancing, but increases your employability by 0.9%.
Otherwise, I read, I socialise, listen to music, and do all the rather predictable things folk do. Oh and destroy my finances through the medium of vinyl-purchasing.
I’m really good at
Thinking (probably too much), reading, arguing, being interested in stuff. Feeling like a naughty schoolboy at a grown-ups party. I can play tennis too, but to say I'm good might be stretching it. Doing as my friend Emma tells me. You would too, trust me, she does teacher-face on you, and then you comply.

I'm also quite good at swinging between seeming serious and intelligent and seeming a total arse.
The first things people usually notice about me
I am entirely made of biscuit.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books- Julian Barnes, Jonathan Coe, Evelyn Waugh, Muriel Spark, Kingsley Amis, Graham Greene, Henry Green, Angus Wilson, Elizabeth Bowen, David Mitchell. plus, poetry, history, politics, biographies, anything on culture and society really. But honest, in spite of the reading, I'm a twerp really.

Music- The Beatles, The Smiths, My Bloody Valentine, Yo La Tengo, Sleater Kinney, Sonic Youth, Elliott Smith, Suede, Julia Holter, Real Estate, Sebadoh, Joanna Newsom, Indie generally, 60s, and Soul/Motown (Otis, Marvin, Ann Peebles, Smokey Robinson etc). I am obsessed with music and have been since 13, only books come close.

Films- Big Lebowski, Amelie, Woody Allen films, LA Confidential, Coen Brothers films, Juno, A Single Man

TV- Black Books, Spaced, Father Ted, QI, League of Gentlemen, Pete and Dud, The Avengers (60s British series, not Marvel), Stewart Lee, Sherlock, and any good docs I can find.
The six things I could never do without
My friends obviously.
My stereo,
CDs to play on it (though they number somewhat more than 6).
A wilful sense of disregard for propriety.
Red wine or real ale (something named after an animal, preferably involving a pun)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Anything I'm reading/watching/listening to, political stuff, how peculiar people are. British History since the Victorians, Cultural Ideas, What is a good book? Why is that funny? Cake, all that kinda jazz.
And currently, Why am I fascinated by Henry James, yet find his books tough-going?
The strange dynamics of human desire & affection.
The marvellous diversity of linguistuc euphemism for genital areas
Pouting: what the hell is that about?

People joining dating websites, and then writing nothing about themselves. What's that about? Is everyone else psychic and I missed it?

Who is actually voting for the Tories? I don't know them, do you?
On a typical Friday night I am
Usually at home, reading, or watching BBC4 music docs, thinking about what I can do, and who I can meet on Saturday & Sunday.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I once took one of my favourite ever albums back to the shop because I hated it, only to re-buy it two years later. So, yes, i reserve the right to change my mind.

Oh, and I'm made of biscuit.
You should message me if
you'd like to get to know me. This whole scenario makes me quite shy, so don't assume I'd message you if I liked you.....frequently my brain goes 'she's nice!', & then follows it with ' Jesus, what do I say?'
If you are a vintage-dressing redhead, then that world be good too. But that's a very slight preference, not a hard & fast 'type'.

(I don't have A-list, so if you like me, then just message me; I don't bite, honest)

Ps. Grammar & spelling are reasonably important to me, but I can forgive typos.