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My self-summary
I come and go on OKC...I remember it from the days when it was better known for the quizzes than as a dating site, so, yeah, I've been here a while. And I've met some really wonderful people on here, many of whom I'm still friends with. Still hoping to meet THAT person (well, THAT woman, if you want to get specific) that will understand, accept, and hopefully enjoy the jumbled swirl of different work and social circles that is my life.

I have a difficult time explaining what I do for free time...because, really, what I do for work is stuff that I used to do to relax from work. I'm a makeup artist/costumer/writer/theatrical technician-designer, so I get paid to spend a lot of time in my own imagination, and figuring out how to make what's percolating in my head become a reality. When I actually get time away from work, I like to go horseback riding, play volleyball or paintball, play card games or (selected) role-playing games with my friends...there's actually a lot of stuff I like doing, I'll try almost anything once. If I like it, I might even do it again. I've got a long list of 'trump cards' I can pull out when I play "Have you ever..." I rarely watch TV, passionately despise 'reality TV' (shining examples of people selling their souls for fifteen minutes of fame...or notoriety)--haven't had cable for a while and regular network television is pretty bleak when it comes to enjoyable fare. I do spend a lot of time with DVDs playing as background noise, however.

I don't smoke, drink, or use drugs. I've got friends who do, and while I cringe at the thought of what they're doing to their bodies, it doesn't change the fact that they're good people . I've had a lot of people ask me why I don't do any of these things...quite simply, I've never wanted to. I'm quite content being the designated driver.

I have very deeply-held religious beliefs...among the strongest of which is that each person has to find their own way in life. While I was raised LDS, I have friends of several different faiths, including a few of no faith whatsoever (unless you count faith in humanity). As long as you're being a good person, your religion (or lack thereof) are between you and God and it's not my place to stand in judgment.

I'm a confirmed omnivore, I believe in "Live and let live", "I don't mind if you do, if you don't mind if I don't", and in generally trying to show due respect to everyone around you. I don't believe in entitlements, political correctness, or the misguided need to deride and belittle people for the sake of entertainment. It's one thing if you're Don Rickles or some other comedian...but too many people have made it part of their daily lives.

There's a lot more to be said, but only to those who actually take the time to ask.

I am introspective, apolitical, and self-assured
What I’m doing with my life
I'm still trying to wrap my head around the fact that people are paying me to do what I do for a living (some pay much better than others...unfortunately, they're the ones that least often need my services). I spent a lot of years trying to figure out what I wanted to do with my life...and when I finally made that decision, the pieces just kind of dropped into place and doors opened up for me to keep moving ahead. I'm a firm believer in the notion that 'Nothing happens for no reason', and one of the reasons I spent so much time going from subject to subject in college was because, now, I use a little bit of all of it.

See some of my handiwork at

And, of course, on top of that, I'm still trying to grow, expand, learn...about options in my career field, about life in general, about the world...I've got a few dozen books that I've bought intending to read them, I just don't have as much time as I used to and old habits die hard. The joy with being a Jack-of-All-Trades is that when you find yourself annoyed with one project, there's always another (oddly enough, the curse of being a JOAT is that, no matter how many projects you complete, there always seem to be a dozen more waiting...)

So, I'm also trying to figure out how to selectively simplify my life. If you've got any helpful hints, I'm more than happy to hear them.
I’m really good at
Practical problem solving, designing, writing (apparently...I've gotten a lot of good feedback on my writing), working with animals. Special effects and theatrical makeup. Being a sympathetic listening ear or a good sounding board.

Being the last guy women date before they meet the man they want to marry.

I'm also good at being alone. I don't necessarily enjoy it, but I've got lots of practice. I'd rather be alone than be with the wrong person (or the right person for the wrong reasons). I'm not a hermit--I don't like large crowds but I do like spending time with friends, but I'm not going to build my whole life around what we're going to do this weekend. If something comes along, great...if not, I'm fine with entertaining myself (if I'm not stuck working on a show or something, already).
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm wiry, and have very intense eyes. I'm generally soft-spoken, and live my life on a pretty even keel.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Ummm...let's see...

A) Tolkien, Bob Asprin, Zelazny, Terry Brooks, Gates of Fire, McCaffrey, Tom Clancy, JK Rowling--sci-fi/fantasy and historical fiction, mainly, though I do enjoy occasional forays into historical non-fiction and biographies.

B) The Sixth Sense, Star Wars (not the prequels), Patton, A Knight's Tale, Young Frankenstein, Army of Darkness, Pirates of the Caribbean, Shaun of the Dead, The Fisher King, Pink Floyd's The Wall...uh, yeah...the list goes on, and yes, I do still have VHS tapes, though I am trying to replace them a bit at a time. Probably get done just in time for DVDs to become obsolete, too.

C) Aerosmith, Billy Joel, Queensryche, Rush, Foo Fighters, Queen, Blue Man Group...And a long list of others.

D) I don't really have 'favorite foods'. I try a lot of different stuff, much less picky than I used to be, and occasionally I try something that I just really DON'T like. Other than that, I'll try just about anything.
Six things I could never do without
Friends or family, and faith. Everything else I could get by without (unless you're talking about the practical stuff, like shelter, food, heat...) It would suck, but I could get by.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The miracles of life.

I spend a lot of time marvelling at the twisted paths by which I've arrived where I am in life, and celebrating the wonderful people that have chosen to walk some length of that journey with me (some, a little more than others...!)

On a typical Friday night I am
Ummmmm...I don't really have 'typical' Fridays. One week, I'll be in rehearsals, the next week I'll be working on a show, the next week I might be at my friends' place singing karaoke until the wee hours, the week after that I may be driving up to visit friends who live about an hour north of here, and working on their yard or riding their horses or playing games or making a video with them...

You might surmise from this that I'm ADD or something. Actually, I'm astonishingly focused, but I'm also a chronic multitasker. This does lead to occasional bouts of me being very forgetful, or absent-minded, especially when I have to shift gears unexpectedly...takes a little while for my mind to change directions.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I will sometimes get tired of looking at the Quickmatch profiles and just start rating people based on their pictures. Relax...unless you've got something downright hateful in your profile or pictures, I pretty much never rate anyone lower than 3 stars. (No, that's not the most private thing about me...there's plenty more where that came from. But that's what I'm willing to admit to here.)
You should message me if
Anything that I've said on here strikes a chord. If you're not freaked out by the fact that my line of work often involves me being the only fully-clothed individual in the room. If you can accept that someone can be driven, motivated, hard-working, and still not necessarily financially stable (c'mon...I work in the arts. Financial stability is the domain of people who pay to see my work...) If you're good with the fact that I feel good with my relationship with God, without having the overwhelming urge to try and talk me into changing it (or eliminating it).
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