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My self-summary
Me and my wife are getting into polyamory but I'm more asexual-leaning and mostly looking for friends - possibly the kind that kiss and cuddle. I'm trans-identified, which means that even though I don't have any label in particular, a giant neon sign follows me around advertising to the world how transgendered I am.

I like reading, writing, and drawing. Lately I'm also getting into sewing and crafts. I like to make robes. Robes are the ultimate garment. If I could, I'd wear nothing but robes. That's not true. I'd also wear visual kei. But I like how robes can be masculine, feminine, and pure fantasy at the same time. I am also in love with my long blonde hair. It's like a comfort blanket growing out of my brain.

I spend most of my time with friends just talking. I can literally talk all day and never run out of things to say. Me and my wife spend our holidays that way. We talk about social justice, community building, literature, cinema, science, political economy, art, stories we'd like to rewrite, hypothetical societies, and the things we wish for in life. We're also obsessed with fancy tea.

Me and my friends run the Ottawa surrealist group. It's a great place for unhinged intellectual and creative exploration. Most of our guests are afraid they're not surrealist enough because they're not Salvador Dali or Andre Breton. We like to reassure them that Surrealism is for everyone and that creativity is an emergent, collective property of a society where everyone participates, not the exclusive domain of talented geniuses. We aspire to be the kind of group Communists would call radical extremists.

I like walking, biking, swimming, and the gym. I'm also super into the martial arts. Apparently there might be a martial arts school for queer-folk starting up, which sounds like the best thing ever. My shoulder and knee are a bit busted up though so doing these things can be tricky.

Besides friends, I would also like an arch nemesis - someone just as good as me at writing and art who's name I could spit in disgust as I shake my first. We'd always be trying to one-up each other and boast of our accomplishments. Then we'd get a ton of work done in a jealous rage and argue about why ours is superior. I'd really like that. I could also use a kindly mentor to be platonically infatuated with as I absorb their sage wisdom, or a protegee I could pass my mystic arts down to. Maybe for me learning is like BDSM with knowledge instead of pain. I'm not really into that latter. I prefer kind and gentle encouragement to dominance, but please enjoy yourself whatever you're into.
What I’m doing with my life
I wrote a novel, but I make most of my money doing art. It's not much money, though. I'd probably starve if I wasn't so loveable. Lately what I really want is make illustrated short stories. I'm also into game dev. and enjoy irrational, esoteric programming.
The first things people usually notice about me
A tall androgynous blonde with long girlish hair tends to stick out.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Dr. Seuss, Le Petit Prince, The Wizard of Oz, Alice in Wonderland, the Brothers Grimm, 1001 Nights, the Epic of Gilgamesh, Genesis, Aristophanes, Plato, Journey to the West, Outlaws of the Marsh, Romance of the Three Kingdoms, Dream of Red Mansions, Sei Shonagon's Pillow Book, The Hojiki, The Tsurezuregusa, The Book of Five Rings, Eiji Yoshikawa's Musashi, Beowulf, Gulliver's Travels, Machiavelli, Haruki Murakami, Kafka, The Bell Jar, Catcher in the Rye

Akira, Lone Wolf and Cub, the Maxx, Maus, Death Note, Understanding Comics and Making Comics by Scott McCloud, Scott Pilgrim, Osamu Tezuka's Buddha

Anything by Hayao Miyazaki (Spirited Away, Ponyo on the Cliff ...)
Anything by Stanley Kubrick (Spartacus, Full Metal Jacket ...)
Akira Kurosawa's period pieces (Seven Samurai, Yojimbo ...)
Seventh Seal, Lawrence of Arabia, Apocolypse Now
Groundhog Day, Royal Tannenbaums
30's Cartoons
Akira, Vampire Hunter D, The Last Unicorn

Steven Universe is the only show I'll watch.

Mostly just music from video games (chiptunes)... Kind of dorky...
Actually, Yellow Magic Orchestra and Joe Hisaishi too.
I also enjoy classical music.

Japanese, Korean, Chinese, Vietnamese, Thai, Indian, Middle Eastern, Greek, Italian, African... Let's just say everything
Six things I could never do without
1) My Sketchbook
2) Daydreams
3) Nature
4) A Good Bed
5) Hot Showers
6) Long Blonde Hair
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The toroidal topology of world maps in JRPGs.
Metaphysical arguments against solipsism.
Ents destroying Western civilization.
On a typical Friday night I am
Not sure what day of the week it is.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Ask and I'm pretty much an open book.
You should message me if
It pleases you to do so. I simply shall not stand for anyone to suffer by engaging me in correspondence!

On the other hand, if you happen to be a creepy pervert interested only in sex, I shall have to ask you not to message me. Otherwise I will be forced to hate you most exceedingly.
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