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My self-summary
There were mainly two rules to my childhood: 1. Change into your play clothes 2. Don’t go farther than Mom can yell. It was a big backyard with plenty of mud and fun.

As Calvin would say, “If your knees aren’t green by the end of the day, you seriously ought to re-examine your life.”

High school was for athletics, clubs and friends. The success I enjoyed there still contributes to who I am now.

But in college, I was determined to find myself. I wore ragged Goodwill clothes when it was cool to wear A&F. There was poetry, philosophy and politics. There was the depression one feels when mourning the loss of youth.

In a desperate plea to do something outside of a hopeless cubicle, I hopped on a plane and taught English in Bangkok for three years. Southeast Asia became my backyard; there were still dirty knees but there was also weird food, ancient history and a perspective you can’t get being bound by our united states.

I returned for a MA in Psychoanalysis and turned my idealism to save the world into a concerted effort to make a small difference one person at a time. I consider myself very fortunate to do work that I find meaningful and engaging.

Now, I’m on OkCupid. *pause* Cambridge is my backyard now - and my play clothes are for rock climbing, reading, hiking, yoga and meditation.

But when I meet someone like you, I promise I’ll dress up. :)
What I’m doing with my life
I direct a program at a non-profit dealing with children's mental health. I've heard the call (and sometimes the occasional voice).

Also, I live in a Zen Buddhist community. It's a different lifestyle and I'm grateful for that.

Ultimately my life, professional and personal, is oriented around human development. I lead a contemplative lifestyle. I'd like to share that with someone.

(Read: I'm super uptight. Help!)
I’m really good at
Observing. Questioning. Reflecting. Growing.
The first things people usually notice about me
I once asked a girlfriend what was different about me on the first date compared to the other guys she had dated and she said, without hesitation, that she could tell I was "genuine."

Then she said, "but I'm with David now. Goodbye."

Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Lately I've been reading magazines: this month's Esquire is dedicated to a discussion of gender in culture - it's refreshing to have the topic appear in this context.

I just enjoyed an article in the Economist about the future of higher education in the US - namely it's excellence vs equity challenge.

Movies: Somewhere, The Visitor, Big Lebowski, Man on Wire, Vicky Christina Barcelona, Her, Stranger than Fiction, Jiro Dreams of Sushi and documentaries in general.

Music: Bonnie Tyler - "Holding Out for a Hero" - infinite loop.

Food: I got a grill for Christmas.

Places: My old apartment in Bangkok, the frog pond behind my childhood home, Central Sq. (I said it), Angkor Wat
The six things I could never do without
As long as it seems like an adventure, I could suffice with little.

Apparently my love life is an adventure.

What brings you here? :)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What influence, if any, what I do, say or think has on my mind or the minds of others.
On a typical Friday night I am
My week is pretty demanding - I found that yoga is a good way to unwind. Prana Power!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I think masculinity means getting up out of bed in the middle of the night when there's a crash in your girlfriend's kitchen.

I'm ready this time.
You should message me if
You'd like to swap intellectual conversation and intrepid adventure for playful affection and goofy-filled shenanigans.