43Santa Monica, United States
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My self-summary
I am, to coin a phrase, kinesiosexual -- only attracted to girls I can dance with. If you have dance training or have partner-danced since your early 20s, we should chat.

I've been dancing for over 20 years. I'm out partner dancing three nights a week. The other nights I do stretching or conditioning workouts for dancing. You would join me in all those activities.

I'm single, 6'1, trim, athletic, objectively handsome/hot (better in person than the pics, I'm told), well-dressed, and young for my age in appearance and energy.

Romance-wise, I seek a long-term (i.e. life-long) bond with a very submissive, intelligent, charming, graceful, industrious, self-aware girl, 20s to mid-30s, petite to average height, and slender to athletic build.

Beyond dance, I delight in philosophical conversation, theatrical-quality tomfoolery, walks in the city and country, and absorbing and pondering the universe together. I'm an intense fellow, a native New Yorker; you might enjoy me more if you're a Right Coaster yourself.
What I’m doing with my life
Off the dance floor, I'm an ambitious high-tech entrepreneur, working in new territory. (No, not a web site or phone app!) I'd appreciate a gal who's technology-literate.
I’m really good at
I'm an avid, athletic partner dancer. I've picked up a variety of ballroom and folkloric forms over the years -- blues, salsa, swing, contra, contact improv, samba, various african, hip-hop, tap... What I most love is to weave a mix of these into an improvisational duet with a gal who can match me. Preferably barefoot on a clean, silky, hardwood floor. If you lack ballroom experience, but have a background in artistic dance (jazz, modern, lyrical) plus excellent rhythm and dramatic flair, I can teach you the rest.

As a romantic partner, I'm loving, responsible, unfailingly honest, curious, nurturing, devoted, vulnerable. I crave the deepest possible intimacy. But I'm also demanding, possessive, protective, fatherly. Eventually, I'd like my girl to work for me, as I love collaborating with a partner.
The first things people usually notice about me
If dancing solo, you'd notice a tall, graceful fellow blending an entertaining mix of samba, modern, broadway, and music-video.

If partner dancing, you'd notice a dapper, enchanting gentleman mesmerizing a graceful, playful partner.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I devour the NY Times daily online. I don't have a TV, but watch a bit of tennis online.

Music: anything with an irresistible dance hook... It Wasn't Me by Shaggy is a great example.
Six things I could never do without
A creative, energetic dance partner.
A brilliant idea no one's thought of.
A workable plan to realize said idea.
A cup of cocoa with a handful of cashews.
A challenging strength & conditioning workout.
An otherworldly connection with you.
Deep and diverse people in my life.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What's disappointing about the world, and people, and how it could be improved. I'm likely to share such things with you; don't take this as negativity.
On a typical Friday night I am
Taking you to a dance.
Stretching and warming up with you by the wall.
Easing into our duet gently.
Gradually increasing the range and tempo of our dance.
Turning you, lifting you, dipping you.
Taking opportunities to press my lips to your neck.
Caressing you suggestively but subtly.
Coming to stillness with you.
Beaming at you, embracing you, kissing you.
... and if you were my committed partner ...
Taking you home.
Showering with you.
Doing you cruelly.
Curling around you in bed.
Plunging together into an exhausted sleep.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
In the bedroom, I am ferocious, even cruel. Honestly I often wish this wasn't an essential feature of my sexuality, as it limits me to women with a taste for darkness. But I seem to have been, as they say, born this way.
You should message me if
You like to chat! I find IM useful to establish basic compatibility and trade backgrounds... and links to dance vids :-)

You're willing to go dancing after a drink on the first date. I'm better at showing a stranger who I am with the language of bodies in motion than mere English.

You wish to belong to someone exceptional. I may flirt avidly on the dance floor, but I won't take you home with me unless there's a strong chance you'll remain there. I won't suggest sex or kink unless you seems like a superb long-term candidate.
The two of us