Equal parts geek, nerd, fanboy, and dork. I'm very, very awkward socially. It doesn't help that my brain tends to work faster than my mouth, but that's not why. I'm not good at small talk or introductions. Get me into a real conversation and I'm golden, but chit-chat just to fill the silence drives me crazy, and I'm not any good at it.
Politically liberal, but personally conservative. I don't have piercings or tattoos, and I eat meat regularly. While I love college football, I'm not a Longhorn fan, in fact, I'm quite the opposite. I've been told I live in the wrong city because I hate burnt orange, but let's be realistic: I'm too liberal for the rest of the state. I strongly believe that you have the right to do whatever self-destructive thing you want, as long as you don't harm anyone else, or put yourself in a situation where hurting someone else is likely.
I'm an agnostic, but religion-friendly. I have no patience for anyone, from any belief structure, who feels resentment, bitterness, or rage at anyone else's beliefs. That's a brand of negativity that I've been trying very hard to completely remove from my life.
I love Austin, but as I've watched rent climb %10 a year in the bboonie, I've started to believe that this may not be the city for me. I'm looking longingly at Seattle, which is at least honest about its cost of living. That said, I miss Houston terribly, keep trying to find reasons to visit, and have considered moving back on more than one occasion, so if you're from Houston and I message you, that's why.
I'm an honest person. I don't like the modern game of pretending to be something you're not -- as far as dating goes, that's self-destructive because the truth invariably comes out. I don't play the hook-up game, and my ultimate goal is finding THAT person. The one I'll know I can take on the world with. If I meet great friends along the way, fine -- but I'm not here to collect bedpost notches or friends with benefits.
My last relationship ended years ago. I swore then that I wouldn't date seriously until I fixed some flaws I found in myself. Inertia set in and that went from goal to excuse. I gained a lot of weight.
I'm reversing course now. I'm starting to work out, and I've already lost 40 pounds. I'm forcing myself out of my comfort zone, expanding my circle of friends, and rediscovering the guy I was before I drowned in my insecurities.
Oh, I work in insurance, in case you needed a more mundane answer to this question.
I'm also really good at overthinking everything. Yeah, I know, that's not always a good thing, but I'm a very analytical person by nature, and I find it's necessary to put that out there. I'm not a robot by any means, though I do tend to keep the walls up around people until I feel really comfortable with them. This is something I'm working on.
I come across as very quiet and reserved. I didn't realize just how true this was until some friends from high school were shocked -- SHOCKED -- when I joined them at a bar after our reunion, and were even more shocked when I had a beer. Coworkers have been surprised to hear me sing during karaoke happy hours. I think this goes back to the small-talk thing, they assume that since I don't chit-chat, I don't like being social. Or something.
Movies: Casablanca, Sunset Boulevard, Almost Famous, Before Sunrise, Boondock Saints, Citizen Kane, Snatch, anything made by Charlie Kaufmann or Hayao Miyazaki. Is it mindless silly? I'll love it. Is it artistically creative? I'll adore it. Does it have superheroes making loud explosions. I'll enjoy the ride. I wind up disliking very few movies not made by Michael Bay, and I'll wind up hating it if Bay came anywhere near it. I love musicals. I've yet to see a bad musical (exception: The Apple). I do draw the line at attempts to "revive" my childhood by making live-action movies that do little more than smear feces on franchises that deserved better. Yes, Michael Bay, I'm looking RIGHT AT YOU.
Incidentally, I may have a chip on my shoulder about Michael Bay, but the verdict's still out.
TV: I have a TV, but it doesn't pick up any channels. It's very good at connecting to devices, and I watch more Netflix than is probably healthy. I prefer to watch TV after a season had ended where I can watch without interruption in marathon mode. Some favorites: Doctor Who, Torchwood, Battlestar Galactica, Babylon 5, Deep Space Nine, Buffy/Angel, Firefly, and anything Bryan Fuller has done. I like most supernatural/horror themed shows, though I hated Charmed. Plot-driven Sci-Fi/Fantasy also ranks very high.
And let'' be honest. This flood of comic book shows? Right up my alley.
Music: Rush has been my favorite band since high school, but beyond that, my tastes bounce all over the place. I'm not a rap fan, and most country grates on my nerves. I also have a very powerful knee jerk reaction towards excessively electronic music -- especially tracks that replaced a real drummer with a computer. The bulk of my music collection is split 50/50 between theater soundtracks and 70's progrock, with the remainder being filled out by humor-based acts like Barenaked Ladies and Johnathan Coulton.
I flew halfway across the US to see Peter Gabriel and Sting, and I'd do it again.
Food: Sushi, cheese, and wasabi. I put wasabi in everything. Really. Wasabi queso is great. Chipotle burritos are like crack to me, I'd eat there 3-4 times a week, if they didn't make me such a fatass. Mexican and Italian are great. If it's spicy, I'll eat it. But no beans. Beans make me violently ill. I couldn't be a vegetarian if I wanted to.
Video games: I love RPGs, and most of my gaming time is spent on these. I used to World of Warcraft, and flirt with the notion of going back, but never do. I've picked up Grand Theft Auto games out of cultural curiosity, and they're enjoyable enough that I finish them, but I haven't touched any of the knockoff franchises. I hate shooters, unless they've got a fun gimmick. But all this said -- video games are the entertainment of last resort, and I'm most interested in reducing the time I spend on them.
Six things I can do without: Aspartame, addicts, Trump supporters, misogynists, zealots, and the perpetually-defensive.
My biggest fear is H R Puffnstuff -- followed very closely by every other man-sized Kroft puppet. Seriously, nightmares. Major nightmares. Clowns are almost as bad.
My grandmother used to say "give me some sugar" whenever she wanted a kiss on the cheek. This has made "Pour Some Sugar on Me" take on a whole new level of awkward.
To that end, the little patience I had for smokers has evaporated. Smoke, both forst and secondhand, is a leading contributor to bladder cancer. I simply can'' afford that risk anymore.
I wear the SJW badge proudly. If that gave you a ladyboner, I may want to marry you.
You would love to join me in a duet of I'll Cover You (from Rent) or Meatloaf's Paradise by the Dashboard Light at a karaoke bar somewhere.
You love fantasy and whimsy the way Tim Burton does. Or if you like sushi and/or karaoke.
You want to root for Houston-based sports teams (professional and college).
You love musicals.
While I'm not a grammar nazi, if you don't even try, there's a better-than-even chance that I might grade your message and send it back.
Don't even bother if you're into illicit substances, Nigerian banking scams, or webcam shows. And if you're going to message me to tell me how beautiful you think I am, I HAVE A MIRROR! I SEE THROUGH YOUR LIES!