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My self-summary
I grew up just outside of Houston, attended the University of Houston, and moved to Austin soon after I graduated in the hopes of getting into the local film or video game industries. I don't know when that road turned into the one I'm on. Actually, I do, I just felt like quoting Jackson Browne.

Equal parts geek, nerd, fanboy, and dork. I have some social anxiety, and detest small talk. I'd rather enjoy a comfortable silence than speak to fill the air.

I'm too liberal for the rest of Texas, but just a hair too conservative to most of Austin. That still puts me left of center, though, and I wear the SJW label with a great deal of pride.

I'm an agnostic, but religion-friendly. I have no patience for anyone, from any belief structure, who feels resentment, bitterness, or rage at anyone else's beliefs. That's a brand of negativity that I've been trying very hard to completely remove from my life.

I love Austin, but as I've watched rent climb %10 a year even in the worst parts of town, I've started to believe that this may not be the city for me. I'm looking longingly at Seattle, which is at least honest about its cost of living. That said, I miss Houston terribly, keep trying to find reasons to visit, and have considered moving back on more than one occasion, so if you're from Houston and I message you, that's why.

I'm an honest person. I don't like the modern game of pretending to be something you're not -- as far as dating goes, that's self-destructive because the truth invariably comes out. I don't play the hook-up game, and my ultimate goal is finding THAT person. The one I'll know I can take on the world with. If I meet great friends along the way, fine -- but I'm not here to collect bedpost notches or friends with benefits.
What I’m doing with my life
Kicking cancer's ass.

My last relationship ended years ago. I swore then that I wouldn't date seriously until I fixed some flaws I found in myself. Inertia set in and that went from goal to excuse. I gained a lot of weight.

I'm reversing course now. I'm starting to work out, and I've already lost 40 pounds. I'm forcing myself out of my comfort zone, expanding my circle of friends, and finally finding the guy I wanted to be, rather than the guy I became.

Oh, I work in insurance, in case you needed a more mundane answer to this question.
I’m really good at
Creating portmanteaus and neologisms while abusing commas and hyphens. My approach to the English language tends towards the postmodern. I've also discovered that my ability to interpret insurance paperwork is not a common trait, at least it isn't in my department. And I think math is delicious!

I'm also really good at overthinking everything. Yeah, I know, that's not always a good thing, but I'm a very analytical person by nature, and I find it's necessary to put that out there. I'm not a robot by any means, though I do tend to keep the walls up around people until I feel really comfortable with them. This is something I'm working on.
The first things people usually notice about me
Superficially: That I'm overweight. I'll put that out there now. I'm not proud of it, I don't like it, and I'm fixing it (40 down, 60 to go!), but it's been an uphill battle, and I'm a big fan of full disclosure.

I come across as very quiet and reserved. I didn't realize just how true this was until some friends from high school were shocked -- SHOCKED -- when I joined them at a bar after our reunion, and were even more shocked when I had a beer. Coworkers have been surprised to hear me sing during karaoke happy hours. I think this goes back to the small-talk thing, they assume that since I don't chit-chat, I don't like being social. Or something.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: A major point of shame for me is that I don't read like I used to. I love epic multi-volune fantasy, but I don't even read that often anymire. Midyear resolution: start reading non-fiction.

Movies: Casablanca, Sunset Boulevard, Almost Famous, Before Sunrise, Boondock Saints, Citizen Kane, Snatch, anything made by Charlie Kaufmann or Hayao Miyazaki. Is it mindless silly? I'll love it. Is it artistically creative? I'll adore it. Does it have superheroes making loud explosions. I'll enjoy the ride. I wind up disliking very few movies not made by Michael Bay, and I'll wind up hating it if Bay came anywhere near it. I love musicals. I've yet to see a bad musical (exception: The Apple). I do draw the line at attempts to "revive" my childhood by making live-action movies that do little more than smear feces on franchises that deserved better. Yes, Michael Bay, I'm looking RIGHT AT YOU.

Incidentally, I may have a chip on my shoulder about Michael Bay, but the verdict's still out.

TV: I have a TV, but it doesn't pick up any channels. It's very good at connecting to devices, and I watch more Netflix than is probably healthy. I prefer to watch TV after a season had ended where I can watch without interruption in marathon mode. Some favorites: Doctor Who, Torchwood, Battlestar Galactica, Babylon 5, Deep Space Nine, Buffy/Angel, Firefly, and anything Bryan Fuller has done. I like most supernatural/horror themed shows, though I hated Charmed. Plot-driven Sci-Fi/Fantasy also ranks very high.

And let'' be honest. This flood of comic book shows? Right up my alley.

Music: Rush has been my favorite band since high school, but beyond that, my tastes bounce all over the place. I'm not a rap fan, and most country grates on my nerves. I also have a very powerful knee jerk reaction towards excessively electronic music -- especially tracks that replaced a real drummer with a computer. The bulk of my music collection is split 50/50 between theater soundtracks and 70's progrock, with the remainder being filled out by humor-based acts like Barenaked Ladies and Johnathan Coulton.

I flew halfway across the US to see Peter Gabriel and Sting, and I'd do it again.

Food: Sushi, cheese, and wasabi. I put wasabi in everything. Really. Wasabi queso is great. Chipotle burritos are like crack to me, I'd eat there 3-4 times a week, if they didn't make me such a fatass. Mexican and Italian are great. If it's spicy, I'll eat it. But no beans. Beans make me violently ill. I couldn't be a vegetarian if I wanted to.

Video games: I love RPGs, and most of my gaming time is spent on these. I used to World of Warcraft, and flirt with the notion of going back, but never do. I've picked up Grand Theft Auto games out of cultural curiosity, and they're enjoyable enough that I finish them, but I haven't touched any of the knockoff franchises. I hate shooters, unless they've got a fun gimmick. But all this said -- video games are the entertainment of last resort, and I'm most interested in reducing the time I spend on them.
Six things I could never do without
I hatehatehate the literal answer, and while I can in fact live without these things, I would rather not:

my iPod
air conditioning
Shipley glazed donuts

Six things I can do without: Aspartame, addicts, Trump supporters, misogynists, zealots, and the perpetually-defensive.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Dreaming up plot arcs for a webcomic I'm trying to think about one day writing if I ever find an artist.
On a typical Friday night I am
Decompressing. In the last year I've gone from being a total recluse to going out with friends 5 nights a week. I find this quite exhausting. So Friday's my decompression night, because Saturday's usually non-stop social stuff and oh my god I'm not used to that yet.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I identify strongly enough with Sheldon on the Big Bang Theory to feel awkward about it.

My biggest fear is H R Puffnstuff -- followed very closely by every other man-sized Kroft puppet. Seriously, nightmares. Major nightmares. Clowns are almost as bad.

I'm a cancer survivor. I had to sacrifice the ability to father children to get there, but my outlook is highly positive going forward.

While I live child-free, I'm not anti-children, and if I ever do meet the right person, am open to adoption and/or raising any already-living children as an equal partner.
You should message me if
You aren't put off by the ileostoma.

You're a non-smoker.

I wear the SJW badge proudly. You should, too.

You would love to join me in a duet of I'll Cover You (from Rent) or Meatloaf's Paradise by the Dashboard Light at a karaoke bar somewhere.

You love fantasy and whimsy the way Tim Burton does. Or if you like sushi and/or karaoke.

You want to root for Houston-based sports teams (professional and college).

You love musicals.

While I'm not a grammar nazi, if you don't even try, there's a better-than-even chance that I might grade your message and send it back.

Don't even bother if you're into illicit substances, Nigerian banking scams, or webcam shows. And if you're going to message me to tell me how beautiful you think I am, I HAVE A MIRROR! I SEE THROUGH YOUR LIES!
The two of us