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My self-summary
I have another profile on here where I am vague and inclusive. In that profile, I have a variety of interests, and a wide range of people that I would like to meet. This profile is not that one. I made this profile to find a very specific person.

I am looking for a kinky, polyamorous, submissive or switchy, bisexual, sex positive, queer girl who understands how to negotiate and play well with others. It would be nice to find someone who is not new to all of this - someone who responds to the SSC vs. RACK debate with "this is stupid, can we just play already?"

I am not looking for "hipster kinky". I'm not interested in someone who thinks they're kinky because they have a tramp stamp and some cool boots, and have tried both positions.

My last several relationships have been with queer girls, and I've become spoiled. If you don't at least resemble one, you should probably let me drive. Anyone who doesn't understand exactly what I'm talking about (or who thinks it's a euphemism for toys and who is on top), should seriously just let me drive. With that said, I definitely prefer very feminine partners - and that is not a contradiction.

You should know that I have a submissive pet who has lived with me for the last 12 years. We are committed but not married, and I will be keeping her. She is extremely hot, service oriented, capable, and brilliant. She is about a 5.9 on the Kinsey scale and prefers women who are "Tall Dark and Pretty". Her preference would be to have a more Dominant woman around, but she's been known to get pretty attached to sweet girls. She has a few occasional lovers outside of the house (who are very easy to get along with), but prefers her primary relationships to be at home. It would be awesome to find someone who knew what to do with someone like her - but I'm primarily looking for someone I can play rough with.

I'm open to something long term or short term - casual or serious - light or intense. I understand the transient nature of connections, but I don't have time for anything that doesn't involve some kind of meaningful connection that makes our lives better in some way.
What I’m doing with my life
I am living my life. I am constantly redefining it. I am molding it and shaping it into something beautiful, and something that makes me happy. I'm perfectly capable of doing this on my own - but it's SO much more fun with company.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I always have a favorite kink dot com video. It changes so often that you'll have to ask me which one it is this week.

As for books: Leather Daddy and the Femme - by Carol Queen was pretty hot.
Six things I could never do without
I could do without anything within physical limitations - but why should I?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Logistics and calendars
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I tried monogamy once. I tried it all kinds of ways to make sure I wasn't doing it wrong. It doesn't work.
You should message me if
You speak my language and understood most of my terminology and references.

Or if you are a queer girl or resemble one in the sack, and have some feminine vibe about you

Or if maybe there's a little sex work in your past - or in your circle of friends

Or if you're the type that should be covered in tattoos, or all of your friends are - but you don't have any - and you understand why I included this

Or if we are more than a 95% match - just message me. This site seems pretty accurate about that. Every time I've talked to someone on here who was more than 95% match, we've been very glad we talked. Everyone I've met with that high of a match is someone who I've dated, played with, or is a good friend of mine. I want to meet more people like them, even far away ones.
The two of us