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My self-summary
"I drink iced cappuccinos because I like my coffee the way I like my women: cold, pretentious, and in glasses."

I am unusually bright, very independent, drily sarcastic, and effusively caring.

I'm amused that okcupid mostly recommends that I date people whom I already know, have already dated, or indeed am currently dating. But I guess once you start off with "polyamorous atheist who doesn't want children," you've immediately narrowed the field rather considerably. Fortunately, the people I already know are spectacular, so there are worse problems to have.

But that probably makes it sounds as if I am (or am interested in) casually dating a huge number of people, which isn't the case. I'm generally interested in serious, long term relationships. I just find that those are happier, more successful, and longer lived without that nasty business of monogamy involved.
What I’m doing with my life
I seem to do a fair bit of traveling. Most recently that's been a lengthy jaunt through England, Portugal, Spain, Monaco, France, and Italy.

In the past couple of years I've developed quite an interest in photography. For a long time I had happily been of the Set It On Auto school of photography, but then out of nowhere it seemed like a fascinating thing to explore, and I've been quite enjoying the process of learning.
I’m really good at
Listening. Processing. Overanalyzing. Embracing grey areas. Seeing the other side. Debate for debate's sake. Flirtation for flirtation's sake.

Shopping. Acting as consultant, stylist, and valet while we find a bias-cut cocktail dress in just the perfect shade to set off your eyes.

Mixing the perfect French 75.

Elegantly architected, globally distributed, linearly scalable system engineering, though I find that that doesn't really tend to come into play on dates.
The first things people usually notice about me
I have a very distinctive laugh. It once helped a lost cat find her way home from a block away.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Eugenides, Sedaris, Lethem, Vinge, Russo, Egan, Vowell, Waters, Noon, Murakami, Griffith, Vidal

Whedon, Sorkin, Fey, Thomas

Sleater-Kinney, Tilt, Michael Penn, Le Tigre, Portishead, The Decemberists, Rasputina, Suzanne Vega, Veruca Salt, Shivaree, Freezepop, Bitter:Sweet, Loquat
Six things I could never do without
Burt's Bees lip balm, white truffles, a 50mm prime lens, subtext, oxford commas, and a coordinating pocket square.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
A cult leader prophesied that if my mother didn't have an abortion, the child would be born some combination of blind, deaf, and evil.

I have normal hearing and excellent vision.
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