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My self-summary
In the "Breakfast Club" of life, I'm mostly Anthony Michael Hall.
I try to throw in the occasional head-fake in the direction of Judd Nelson, but I'm not fooling anybody. If you're familiar with the series "Firefly" (the source of my profile name), I'm Wash, the dependable-but-not-battle-hardened, slightly goofy, good guy from that series.

Let's get the deal-breaker out of the way, shall we?
I'm married (to Rockasally on here) and we're polyamorous. I don't cheat, and I don't lie. If you have trouble wrapping your head around that, we're probably not a good match. The bottom line is that we've been married for 14 years, we're crazy-stupid in love with each other, but we don't keep each other on leashes. Well, okay, there WAS this one time that involved a leash, but we were drinking, and…

So... about me. Well, I like old movies, good books, Tim Minchin, girls in stripey socks, the oxford comma, and serendipitous bag fries. I know a little bit about a whole lot of things, and a whole lot about just a few.

There are two quotes that sum up how I try to live my life.

"Shared pain is lessened, shared joy is increased. Thus do we refute entropy." - Spider Robinson

"A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly. Specialization is for insects." - Heinlein

You'll find me often at burlesque events, south city music venues, hanging in The Grove with friends, or working behind the counter at Shameless Grounds, the business I own and operate with Rockasally.

When it comes to matters of the heart, I'm an open book. You can ask me anything - and if you're unsure of anything, or don't understand where I'm coming from, *please do* ask.

For the most part, I am a "take things as they come" kind of guy. That means, if you're just looking for a platonic friend, I'm all good with that. If there is chemistry between us, but no desire for a relationship, I think I'd make a pretty good "friend with benefits". And lastly, if you're looking for a serious, long term, loving relationship, I'm open to that possibility as well.

So there you have the bullet point summary. We can work out the underlying details as we go along. :-)
What I’m doing with my life
Spreading caffeinated love, good food, acceptance and honesty to the huddled masses. Well, trying to, in my own little way, anyway.
I’m really good at
Chopping mushrooms. Seriously. I can chop the HELL out of a mushroom. You should see me. Little bastards don't stand a chance.
The first things people usually notice about me
You know, I have NO idea. My red hair maybe?
My pointy goatee, probably? (They tell me that it's actually called a "Van Dyke", but I just say "pointy goatee" and skip the part where I sound snooty for saying, "It's not a pointy goatee - it's called a VAN DYKE, okay?!")
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Hmmm... les'see here....
Books: James Herriot's "All Creatures Great and Small" series is a perennial favorite. Most of Spider Robinson's stuff. Christopher Moore's stuff.

Movies: The original "Star Wars". (Han Shot First!) "Dead Poets Society". And a guilty pleasure one... Prince's "Purple Rain". Yeah, I'm so never getting a date now.

Shows, Music, and Food: I'm lumping these together. My tastes range WILDLY. I can't name favorites. Favorites would require me to specify a mood, or a mindset, and I'm not gonna let you fence me in like that. We've just MET, and already you're trying to pigeon-hole me! Well, I'm not going quietly.

Honestly, when it comes to food, I like a dirty-water ballpark hot dog, upscale sushi, Kraft Macaroni and Cheese, Veggie Lo Mein, and the Prime Rib at Kreis' on Lindbergh. If it doesn't move or fight back, I'll probably eat it.

In music and shows, my tastes are similarly varied. I like Chopin, Frank Sinatra, Lady Gaga, Rachmaninoff, Harry Connick Jr., Gogol Bordello, and Otep.

Some might call me scattered. I like to say that I enjoy a variety of experience.
Six things I could never do without
- Dogs
- Books
- Friends
- A sharp knife (Relax! I'm not a serial killer. Remember the mushrooms? Yeah. Like that.)
- Writing
- Pho and Cafe Sua Da. (That's two things, but I always have them together, so deal.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Work. (Curse of the small business owner.)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Wasn't the admission that I liked Prince's "Purple Rain" enough?
You should message me if
My poly/open relationship status doesn't freak you out, and you're looking to be friends or more with somebody who has a good mix of maturity and youthful zest-for-living going on.
The two of us