Fontessa
46 San Anselmo, United States
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My self-summary
Since life isn't an exotic foreign film, there's online dating. But that's just fine because I only know two languages, and one of them not very well. I have a few things going for me, though: a fulfilling career, a healthy sense of humor, and passion. I know how to think, and I know how to let go and play, which are not mutually exclusive, by the way. A kind, fun, available, and curious man beside me is what I'm looking for. My needs are simple but important. You take good care of yourself, exercising regularly, and are okay with others taking care of you in a myriad of ways. You read. You laugh often. Good food matters (no foodies required). You like people, want to know them. You are open, honest, and care about stuff. You either love to cook or you love I'll cook for you. Commitment doesn't scare you. Through experience, I've learned the importance of honesty around this issue. I welcome directness. I'd like to be with someone who is capable of reflection and frequent laughing.

I'm fortunate. I'm close to my family, and we're all still here, healthy and hopeful and interested in each other--with some dysfunction thrown in for good measure. I like nice things, like everyone else, but I'm a teacher. No materialist here. I'd much sooner spend my money on food or travel, not stuff. (Well, maybe the occasional clothing item.) Good stories, kids, being silly, discussing politics, soft animals, books, plays, hiking, reading/writing, and dancing…well, there are a lot of things I love and things waiting to be loved, I'm sure.

Once I warm up, you'll see how passionate I am. As an English major, I always cared about literature. Ask me about human evolution, a topic that I had little interest in six years ago. Now that I teach history, I can't stop looking at everything through the lens of ancient history. That's why teaching is the best career for me, pushing me both to learn the facts and what they mean, as well as forcing me to examine how my own cultural lens affects my perspective. It probably goes without saying that children mean a lot to me. I'm convinced they keep me young by keeping me on my toes. They're pretty fascinating to watch as social creatures, too.

Basically, what I am doing with my life is teaching, learning, creating. Because I like to try new things, I can stay in my comfort zone, but also need people around me who have varied interests, who motivate me to try new things. Each day I'm reminded how humbling life is (which is not a bad thing) and being a work-in-progress, being with someone who feels the same, matters to me. This person doesn't have to love his job, but he does need something to get excited about, whether it's dust balls, fixing things, singing karaoke, or volunteering. Since I used to be an actor, I still cling to that conceit that "all the world's a stage," but I give myself a little more credit than Shakespeare once did for my role in it.
What I’m doing with my life
See above...Teaching, primarily. Then there's all the other stuff, which is hopefully where you come in!
I’m really good at
making eye contact with dogs
being inspired
adjusting to changes
straying from recipes
laughing
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Mexican, Thai, Sushi...a weakness for a good hamburger
Ted talks, NPR
Music: everything from Andrew Bird, to Ella Fitzgerald, to Jack White, to Hank Williams.
Dostoevsky, Zadie Smith, Wallace Stegner, Flannery O'Connor, Elizabeth Bowen, Michael Cunningham, Italo Calvino, Ian McEwan, Faulkner, Dickens, and Shakespeare, and on.
"Breaking Bad," "The Wire," "South Park," "True Detective," J.J. Abrams. PBS. I like crime fiction, TV style. Slightly picky there.
Coens, Hitchcock, Preminger, Almodovar...to start."American Beauty"; "Election," "Memento," "Wild Tales,""Donnie Darko," "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind," "Field of Dreams," "Amadeus"; "Mulholland Drive"; "The Best Years of our Lives."
Old movies --especially from the 70's, 30's and 40's-- I'm always interested in seeing ones I missed because I happened to born in the wrong decade.
The six things I could never do without
How can I answer this question without either sounding pretentious or unimaginative?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
A trip I want to take or one I took
Something I just listened to on NPR
Some question I won't ever have an answer to
The people in my life
What to eat and how to get it
On a typical Friday night I am
Enjoying the end of a full week--in whatever way the moment dictates or suggests.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I like foreign horror movies.
You should message me if
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