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My self-summary
THEY ALL LAUGHED WHEN I SAID I COULD FIND LOVE ON OKCUPID! I scanned profile after profile with no response, until after many years of searching, I discovered the secret of DATING SUPERTECHNOLOGY! Now, the ones who turned me down are LITERALLY BREAKING DOWN THE DOOR! READ ON TO LEARN THESE FORBIDDEN SECRETS!
What I’m doing with my life
I grew up in Pennsylvania. Then I lived in Seattle for a long time. Took a wrong turn and ended up in the Chicagoland area. Planning on escaping Illinois in the next several years. Don't know where but somewhere I can watch the sun set over water. I'm a natural health care practitioner, Jungian, writer, sometimes artist.
The first things people usually notice about me
I generate a sense of excitement by TYPING IN ALL CAPS!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
"I love everything from dive bars to the opera!" No, seriously, I hate the opera, corporate chains, and overpriced foodie destinations. I like dive bars, independent coffee houses, and great food hidden in unassuming strip malls. I like movies that have plots, dialogue, and minimal to no CGI. Things that slow down your brainwaves and explore relationships and real life not the earth exploding yet again. Black and white, film noir, femmes fatale, antiheros not superheros.

I read a ton and across a broad spectrum. Reading is eating and writing is breathing.

Music I love a lot of music mostly I'm tuned into KEXP if that gives you an idea. I also love podcasts and spoken word. Joe Frank is god.

Do we really need to like all the same stuff? I'm willing to check out what you're interested in and have a new experience and hopefully you feel the same way.
Six things I could never do without
don't follow
don't believe
don't consume
don't watch

-Terence McKenna

Do you really care what consumer items I think I'm entitled to? I didn't think so! Now that I think about it, this is kind of a reactionary answer. Although probably true. But OK, I really value art, or maybe I should say having an artistic perspective. Or a spiritual perspective. Or intellectual. Maybe just a well-developed and engaging point of view. Ok that's not a "thing" but it's something that makes things interesting and I can't really live without it and if you're like me you can't either!

Thinking about it even more, I have to say that we really are living a golden age in terms of the types of food that are available to us, and I really have to get down on my knees and thank the baby Jesus everyday for that!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What are the qualities that make a man mature and masculine, but still engender a youthful perspective. (Some ideas: being able to take responsibility, being able to take a joke, being able to get out of the comfort zone without going into the stupid risk taking zone). Permaculture, art, psychonautics, old music, comix, zines, literature, and other pretentious and unpopular ideas.
On a typical Friday night I am
I'm also going to be honest here, I'm not so much of a late night person anymore. Sunday Funday is a different story though. I dig waking up, working out, getting coffee, having a few cocktails at brunch, and herbs in various permutations and combinations.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
(Nearly) every woman's profile on here emphasizes "no FWB's!" Yet I haven't had any problem with finding this situation. I would genuinely like to find someone to be a partner in life.
You should message me if
Do you find the suburban "way of life" to be, like, majorly bogus? Do you find the city fun, but increasingly beginning to resemble an overpriced hipster Disneyland? Can you live a life without $20 cocktails? While you're sitting in traffic, are you dreaming of moving to a small town in the UP or northern Wisconsin, starting a business, buying a house for cash, growing your own vegetables, raising some chickens? I'm talking about getting out of the rat race, off the corporate treadmill, and just mellowing out. I'm talking about lowering the overhead, getting back to basics over here. Getting into some voluntary simplicity, having some space to breathe, some time to write or make art or music, can you dig it?
UPDATE: Wow, a lot of you really resonate with the anti-consumer lifestyle stance! So there is hope. But, I'm on here to meet people, like IRL. So instead of passing a million messages back and forth, I'm just going to start going places and inviting everyone to come with me! For example, next week I'm going to CAKE. If you like zines, outsider and weirdo art, crudely drawn tales of gender nonconformity, self obsession, and sexual fixation, this is the place! I'll be going on Sunday. Maybe I'll write a scene report afterwards.
The two of us