53Alexandria, United States
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My self-summary
I'm lucky enough to be married to my favorite person in the world. But I believe that love is an infinite thing, not a zero-sum game. I've been polyamorous for more than two decades, though in recent years it's been more in principle than in practice. But 2012 has become my year to lift myself out of my ruts and expand my horizons. I'm looking to meet interesting women to connect with (for friendships, romantic relationships, play, what have you). Getting to know someone else is a great way to see the world through new eyes.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm on a quest to see and learn and experience as much as I can in one lifetime---people, places, ways of living, all of the world's diverse ways of expressing beauty and delight. The best days are when I wake up not knowing what's going to happen to me that day.
I’m really good at
Editing the written word. Packing things into cars. Remembering song lyrics. Being happy. Seeing the world with genuine childlike wonder. Parallel parking. Living out of a backpack. Loving the people I love.
The first things people usually notice about me
My big toothy smile, my Irish eyes, my freckles (in the warmer months)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
For some reason, most of my favorite authors are women (Ann Patchett, Susan Vreeland, Barbara Kingsolver, Ursula K. LeGuin, Sherri Tepper, Barbara Vine, P.D. James, Dorothy Sayers, Jane Austen), but most of my favorite poets are men (AE Housman, Rudyard Kipling, Robert Service, Billy Connolly, Lord Byron).

Favorite movies are harder to list (good new ones are always appearing). But any list of enduring favorites would have to include Enchanted April, All About Eve, Pan's Labyrinth, Zulu, Harold and Maude, The Hunt for Red October, the Lord of the Rings trilogy, The Tall Guy, High Fidelity, Winged Migration, and almost anything with Judi Dench, Helen Mirren, or Meryl Streep. As for TV shows, at various times I've been hooked on The Wire, Upstairs Downstairs, Firefly, Slings & Arrows, Wonderfalls, Babylon 5, Rome, the Sopranos, Poldark, and the various Planet Earth nature documentaries.

Musically I fear I'm mainly stuck in the 70s and 80s, with a smattering of 60s folk revival and more recent singer-songwriters. I love a lot of classical music from the 17th through 19th centuries as well as Celtic music. Anything with a violin or fiddle is a plus.

As for food, now that's one of my favorite subjects. I love complex flavors and diverse cuisines. My wife loves to cook and I love to eat, so it's a great combination. It's important to me to eat locally, humanely, and sustainably produced food (I do as much of my shopping in farmer's markets as possible). I do eat some meat, but only what I can buy directly from the small-scale producers. Except in certain circumstances, I prefer not to eat things that come from the ocean. The marine world is important to me, and I want to leave it intact.
Six things I could never do without
Well-written novels to immerse myself in
Quiet green places
Art museums
(Not in that order!)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What I need to do next (lots of to-do lists in my head and on paper), whatever interesting book or article I've read lately, what motivates people to act as they do, where I should travel next, what's for dinner.
On a typical Friday night I am
Hard to say what's typical. Lots of Friday nights are spent at home making dinner and trying to find something interesting to watch on TV. Others are spent eating out with friends, attending a lecture at National Geographic or a concert at Kennedy Center, playing board games (love me some euro games), or going somewhere for the weekend.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm a polyamorous person who's been monogamous for almost 9 years. That seems very odd to me, and I'm not sure why it happened.
You should message me if
You're a generally positive person who enjoys life, with an innate sense of curiosity about the world and wide-ranging interests. If you're reasonably self-aware and capable of expressing affection and other feelings without drama. If you like to talk and snuggle.
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