37 San Francisco, United States
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My self-summary
I am sometimes snarky but usually mellow. Receptive to people, places and things. Driven but full of wandering thoughts. Simple yet savvy, analytical yet poetic. I'm always looking for the art in what I do. I may have a 9-5 job, but I have had many sleepless nights, fleshing out an idea, a design, a story or at certain times even a poem or a song. When I travel, I never need nor want a travel plan. I love urban adventures, and can embrace my drunken nights just as much as the sober ones. I prefer to be challenging than plain nice. I am likely to be more liberal and open-minded than I appear. I wouldn't say I am free-spirited, but perhaps I am slowly working my way there.
What I’m doing with my life
The last few years have been for me a time of soul-searching, experimentation and slow but steady growth: taking on less conventional work in tech in favor of research and social-technological entrepreneurship, backpacking and expanding my knowledge of additional languages, trying to be more dedicated to making music (and alas, failing miserably =-)), challenging myself with entirely new passions (a fusion of martial arts, meditation and related practices) and exploring a bit of my spiritual side. Been good, been bad, got worse, got better... and made some wonderful friends in the process. Nevertheless, I feel that there are still too many things that I don't fully understand in myself and in others and that I am still anxious to explore further.

After a couple of years of grad school in Ann Arbor, I moved to the bay a little already two year ago to start a new adventure. Looking to share tapas at the new hip place around the corner, find the perfect pho in the tendernob or perhaps form a neo-alternative-progressive-folk band? Do holler.
I’m really good at
Empowering others and making others feel accomplished or better about themselves. (I am an ENFJ. That is what I do.)

Also, making out the best of a dating situation. (If I haven't said it yet, please excuse the bad puns.)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Music: Ryan Adams, Black Sabbath, Gillian Welch, Led Zep, Miles Davis, Stone Temple Pilots, Duke Ellington, Tori Amos, Beirut, Ani DiFranco, José Gonzales, Hendrix, Fiona Apple... And, of course, tons of obscure bands most hipsters never heard of (*tongue in cheek*). Trying to improve my Spanish through the likes of Julieta Venegas, Ojos de brujo and Amaral.

Movies: Modern classics and cult films like Good Will Hunting, Alien, As Good As It Gets, Man On The Moon, America History X, Leaving Las Vegas, Ten Things I Hate About You, The Princess Bride, Back To The Future, This Is Spinal Tap and Kill Bill. Utterly silly, root-of-all-evil rom-coms like Sleepless In Seattle, You've Got Mail, Kissing Jessica Stein and (500) Days Of Summer. Assorted major foreign films such as La vita è bella, El secreto de sus ojos and the Three Colors trilogy. I am also an avid fan of student and indie films.

Books: I barely read fiction these days, although I grew up reading Orwell, Golding, Chekhov, Kerouac and the like. Nowadays I skip between books on marketing, economy, data science, psychology, spirituality, etc. I adore poetry by such poets as Frank O'Hara, Emily Dickinson, Rilke, Plath, Bukowski and Sharon Olds.
The six things I could never do without
A smile on a dog.
Free hugs.
Stolen kisses.
Timeless four-chord songs (and the musical instrument to create them or play them).
Wicked conversations over beer or whiskey.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Not copying anyone else's line for this box. I thought it was an original thought that I spend much of my time thinking about my next meal. I stand corrected.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've been a bad, bad boy.

Also: I read profiles, I reply to messages, and I don't use Tinder.
You should message me if
You are a member of NOFA (No Flakes Association) in the bay area. That means you remember how you were taught in kindergarten to be kind to others, even if they're supposedly just tiny virtual boxes in your world. Some people here seem to forget that.

You are a rad poet or an artist of any sort, a social or political scientist versed in faux pas, or just someone who has nothing in particular to say but knows twenty different ways of saying it.

But seriously, you should just offer to hang out in real life (just say that you think I am cool and offer to buy me a drink - I will totally fall for it) because that is the kind of sincerity and down-to-earthness that I appreciate.

IMPORTANT: A woman I briefly dated recently turned out to be a closet racist, the kind that Martin Luther King clearly and unequivocally considered a bigot, so I just had to say this: Being educated and liberal doesn't make you tolerant. Being tolerant is what makes you tolerant. I prefer people who stay curious and acknowledge how much they've yet to learn about this world.

** This (short award-winning film) melts your heart:

*** Love is not who you were expecting. This is why.

**** You understand that it's better to be candidly curious, open and vulnerable with your dates. This is why.