eg. almost famous, magnolia, eternal sunshine of the spotless mind, the fountain, big fish, equilibrium, the prestige, all jim jarmusch and studio ghibli films
I guess with music it's quite the same. It's an emotional thing with a longing for technical perfectionism. It varies from a minimal techno dj up to a full blown classical orchestra.
you're not married;
your're not on an adventure hunt while being in a serious relationship;
you're well over your last relationship and seriously don't want to talk about it;
you think we have at least a few shared interests.