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My self-summary
Very at home enjoying conversation with others. The more challenging and meatier the topic, the better! I have managed to avoid most of the side-effects of growing up while still (mostly) having my shit together. Sense of humour is a mix of dark, black and wrong/irreverent. I make fun of just about everything including myself, probably you, but I take as well as I give - I promise.

My outlook on life is a blend of anarchism, hedonism, and existential nihilism. I wish the world was much less hierarchical while begrudgingly acknowledging the need of some structure to exist, but not letting it get to me too much. I understand the privilege that the universe has handed me and do my best to hold that in mind when considering the world around me.

I'm a relationship anarchist. TL:DR more or less polyamory with an aversion to traditional structures and classification of relationships. I'm very into BDSM/kink and am a gentle/dominant/daddy type.

I value confidence, curiosity and self-awareness in others above all things. I most enjoy activities that stimulate thought. Board games, video games, puzzles, riddles, even problems. I think about a lot of things, sometimes too much which can lead to absent-mindedness on occasion. I hope this is more endearing than frustrating.
What I’m doing with my life
I work with IT/technology. I'm privileged to have a career that I’m at least somewhat passionate about. I’m often working on tech projects at home whilst listening to audio books. Trying to get out to more gigs/events. Gaming with friends. Making costumes for events/parties.
I’m really good at
Computer stuff, conversation, problem-solving, games, crafting props for costumes, making people smile/laugh - possibly my favourite thing.
The first things people usually notice about me
● Big shiny noggin.
● Beard.
● Holes in my lobes.
● Broad shoulders.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Neil Gaiman, H.P. Lovecraft, Julian May, Philip K. Dick, Neal Stephenson.

The Fifth Element, The Big Lebowski, Pulp Fiction, Snatch, American Beauty, Cloud Atlas, Lord of the Rings.

Jimmy Carr, Amy Schumer, Frankie Boyle, Sarah Silverman, Jim Jefferies.

My Cat From Hell, Black Books, Archer, Sherlock, Elementary, The Strain, The Blacklist, Orphan Black, Fargo, Game Of Thrones. Mr Robot, Sens8, Rick and Morty.

The Sundays, Cranberries, Darling Violetta, Lana Del Rey, Velvet Acid Christ, Sabaton, Nightwish, Gorillaz, Pink Floyd, The Cat Empire, Skrillex, Florence and the Machine, In Strict Confidence.

Mexican, Italian, Indian. I love a good, rare, steak too.

Life is Strange, Mass Effect, Bioshock, Borderlands, Deus Ex, Fallout, Elder Scrolls.
Six things I could never do without
● My cat.
● Quality linen.
● Intimacy.
● Air conditioning.
● Laughter.
● Honesty.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
● How and why the world is so fucked up.
● BDSM/Sex/Kink.
● How awesome cats are!
● Myself - in an Introspection / reflection / mindfulness sense.
● Whether the descendants of humanity will escape Earth before The Sun consumes it.
● Whether the prior preponderance even matters at all.
On a typical Friday night I am
hopefully doing something fun with someone I love. Be that a friend, lover, family member or my cat.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Not applicable. I'll admit damn near anything. Ask me! I double dog dare you ;)
You should message me if
● you like deep, stimulating, possibly random and definitely tangential conversations.
● you want a relationship that doesn't have to comply with social norms.
● you have compatible interests in BDSM/Kink and want to discuss, share, and/or play.
● you like cute dates and similar romantic type things.
The two of us