56Walnut Creek, United States
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My self-summary
I'm positive and bubbly, a fundamentally glass half kind of person with my efforts to practice gratitude deepening that. I laugh about the hard stuff in life without ignoring it - no easy feat. My energy, combined with me being a strong and soulful thinker, means I'm just plain out comfortable in my own skin. Meditating is helping me being even more in tune with myself.

I'm loyal and supportive in my relationships and even when I get busy always connect with friends and family. I try to break down our disengagement with each other in this culture; I talk with people in the grocery store line and say hello to strangers on the street. I also care about the community and world at large and act on it in terms of being part of social and economic justice movements.

I don't expect us to have identical interests and I bring a lot of openness to this adventure of dating. I'm most interested in a LTR on a measured, and fun, track.
What I’m doing with my life
Doing my part to build movements; connecting people and ideas; and bringing in a sense of humor, gratitude and adventure into everything I do.
I’m really good at
Hosting a brunch.

Making up songs with my kid spontaneously, which I've come to understand not everyone does. Why not?

Having my mind wander into the terrain of what is on my grocery store shopping list while meditating.

Making the mundane fun.

Moving effortlessly between insights on life, the world, our souls and politics.

Relating to many kinds of people and moving between different worlds.

Organizing things to happen.
The first things people usually notice about me
My upbeat and optimistic energy and often, a certain sparkle in my eyes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
This is dated but will update soon....Recent books: Octavia Butler's Kindred, Junot Diaz's This is How You Lose Her, a T.C.Boyle book, Diane Ravitch's critique of education and W.E.B Du Bois' John Brown. Just revisited Gloria Naylor's Linden Hills which is so intense. Historical novels relax me and take me out of the day to day so I'm going in that direction these days. I'd like to think I'm going to read Thomas Piketty's book but it's actually unlikely because most of my reading is at night and vulnerable to zoning out. Music - I lean more to R&B, soul, salsa. I love getting lost in dancing in a crowd and don't do it enough. I so exercise/dance a a few times a week. I'm a Scandal freak (I'm fighting it) and catch a few too many Bravo shows which I do recognize as a brain suck and I roll my own eyes at myself.

I've wanted to see more plays and I have been on a roll this spring: Fences, This House Will Not Stand, Amnesia, Raisin in the Sun, Children are Forever.

The good food and drink in the Bay Area is pure happiness. A stark contrast to my upstate NY upbringing - meat, potatoes and vegetables in plastic at the supermarket - although I periodically have a craving for starchy food covered in gravy. Please know you don't have to indulge me in that for us to be a match but you do have fair warning.
Six things I could never do without
My daughter, friends, our dog, and the East Bay hills - my go-to place to refresh and would hike more if I had time. But also romance, sex, and the ocean.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
That special person I hope to meet. How to build badass social justice movements. Meditating. How to be a great mom to an evolving teenager and all the racial nuances of being a white mom to an Black teenager.
On a typical Friday night I am
Going out for sushi of late. Or hanging out with friends gathering around the kitchen table to laugh and cook up the crazy novel we'll write about a post-apocalyptic Bay Area. If we connect, you can write a chapter if you like.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I don't think making out is just for teenagers.
You should message me if
You like what you read and something resonates (obviously) and you're smart, engaged, and passionate. I'm in a mixed race family with my child and my family overall so my comfort zone is more with men of color or white men who have relationships with communities of color. If you relate get in touch!
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