Now the other stuff =)
I'm 35, married, a father, 6'4, laid back, caring, generous, and these days, with my new son and daughter, often rather exhausted.
I like hugs, books and gaming.
Perfect strangers feel comfortable telling me their life stories and deepest secrets, I'm not sure why - but I try to listen and be there for them anyway.
My friend showed up at my house at two thirty in the morning with bloody feet once - we washed her feet, and she stayed with us for a week that ended up being a month and then a year. Then we moved, and she showed up again... I like that this happened =)
I've recently learned that I come with a warning when my friend talks about me "he'll either be very charming, or he'll sit in a corner and read the whole time." I thought this was just the opinion of one friend (and found it funny) but then another friend (from another state!) hand made me a pin that says "Polyamorous but I'd probably rather be reading"
I really do like to read...
I also work hard to make my home a place where people can feel comfortable and wanted and safe. Mostly, I guess, so they'll have a place to read.
I notice when people's breathing changes, when it changes (significantly) I tend to ask "you ok?" or something similar ... this annoys some people. And I'm sorry about that. But those people probably shouldn't breathe around me.
I like the webcomics xkcd.com, QuestionableContent.org and smbc-comics.com - check em out if you get bored at work... they're each good in their own way =)
I am zenlicious, hearth warm, and touchtastic
I am not sure why I keep up this profile, as I haven't had much time for a social life since having kids - they're my priority, but I guess I still hope to find people who understand and love and want to share their life like I (and my wife) want to share ours... so I'm hopeful and still read everything I get here as emails =)
Then I wake up the next day and do it again. It's not very varied right now, but it's a pretty good life.
On weekends we go swimming, to museums, to big playgrounds, to fairs or events, or stuff like that. I would probably spend more weekends in, but my wife is a big adventurer and wants the kids to be really active. (The weekdays are equally active with them, either with her or with a babysitter who helps us a lot during the week.)
Every other Sunday I take care of the kids on my own so my wife can have a day out with her friends, and on the other Sundays she takes them and I run a gaming group for an afternoon (table top rpg / pencil and paper style... but over a shared video conference setup since the group is spread out all over) which has been a lot of fun.
I don't really know how or when I could ever fit anyone into my life right now - unless they liked my kids and wife as much as I do - but hope springs eternal.
Math, colors, making connections, creative thinking, teaching, babbling, reading, hugging, holding, pleasing, waiting, regular thinking, learning and ... hmmm... uh... forgetting!
Movies) Harvey, Princess Bride, Sneakers, Boondock Saints, Iron Monkey, Singing in the rain, Thursday, Magic Kitchen, shoalin soccer, die hard, sliding doors, Serenity, My wife is eightteen, jet li), Danny kaye, Army of Darkness / bruce campbel, Wasabi, the court jester, many more ...
TV) I will show Firefly, Gargoyles and Trigun to my children... and some others I enjoy are: The new BBC Sherlock (excellent), Hunter x Hunter, Hustle, Coupling (british version), West Wing, Stargate, Angel, Black Books, Profit, House, Daily Show... I like TV but don't watch a lot these days, and only without commercials =)
Video Games) I would recommend to anyone: Phantasy Star 1, Deus Ex (1), System Shock 2, SW:KOTR... and I'm currently enjoying skyrim a lot (I liked fallout 3 and it's basically fallout 3 with dragons instead of laser guns... both of which are good =)) I like character development, immersion, interesting challenges, fun and good story .. if I can make a character I care about, and help it get better every time I spend time with it ... while doing cool stuff? that's good to me =)
Comics) Spiderman loves Maryjane, V is for Vendetta, Preacher, Authority, Hitman, Ultimate Spiderman, I disliked "brand new day" ... the bastards. In fact I haven't read much since then ... though that might have been the whole having kids thing too =)
Music) I like music, but I'm not a "music lover" - I like U2, tom petty, the band, dylan's "blood on the tracks", Cows with guns, Brain Bug, stones, some trance, van morrison, pop40 once in a while, lorena, alman brothers, enya, allison krauss, traveling wilburies, clapton, more...
Friends (of course)
computer access - I hate to say it, but it really means something to me =)
a chance to share the good things in the world with the people I care about,
water (not just for practical reasons - I just really like water...)
Truthfully - other than water, I probably could live with out any of those things - but I wouldn't like life as much then.
The main problem is not creaming mailboxes or small cars when the fourth wheel goes funky and makes it all pull to the right. If you've recently lost a mailbox and there were unexplainable tracks near by ... I apologize.
(I'm usually either in gaming with friends, or cuddling with family... not much going out with the babies here now =)
... how i miss my shopping cart snakes... *sigh*...
That said -
If you're constantly learning how to be a better person - and have made significant progress =)
If you've stopped caring about being different, or about fitting in, or about what others think about you - and now think about who you actually are and how you affect others.
If you like / seek progress and not perfection.
If you love me already, cause that's always weird, but it usually makes for interesting conversations.
If you're not in a hurry... If you're ok just hanging out, and adding a couple good people to your life for a while, and overtime sharing of ourselves, books, friends, shows, stories, time, until we know we're safe and good and can get to a place where we can make and share bigger risks and intimacies =)
If any of that sounds right? Drop me a line.
Or you know - if you just want to share a thought, I'll listen =)