39Chicago, United States
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My self-summary
I love life, and putting passion into it. I'm emotionally strong, comfortable with myself and generally happy. I am in an open relationship.

I will take you at your word. I'm a bad liar. I return pens to their rightful owners.

I will respect your privacy and personal space. I wait until you're done talking.
What I’m doing with my life
Just started working in my dream job. It keeps me busy! Bear with me if I am slow getting back to you.

When not working my ass off, I also enjoy:
riding my bicycle all over Chicago;
eating doughnuts
meeting friends for tabletop role-playing games
going to lots of workshops
exploring coffeeshops
I’m really good at
Enjoying simple pleasures, like a cool breeze on a hot day
Making people feel good about themselves
Learning from others
Creating memories
Making lists
The first things people usually notice about me
I really don't know; I feel like I blend in well. Perhaps my beard and my bicycle, but who doesn't have those things these days. Mine are particularly nice?

I pretty much always have a couple of books with me in case I ever want to sit down and read.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: The novels and short stories of Flannery O'Connor and William Faulkner; Whipping Girl; Bowling Alone; Killing Rage; All the Names; Blindness; SAS Survival Handbook; The Dimond Age; Screw the Roses, Send me the Thorns; Delta of Venus

Movies: Raising Arizona; The Transporter; Shortbus; 28 Days Later; Kill Bill; Shaun of the Dead; To Kill A Mockingbird; Muppets Take Manhattan; Ghostbusters; Secretary; Bring it On; Aliens; The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

Music: Screaming Females; Fugazi; Belle & Sebastian; The Smiths; The Pixies; The Specials; Ted Leo; Sleater-Kinney; Elvis Costello; Sick Of It All; Le Tigre; Johnny Cash; Public Enemy; Sonic Youth; Sinead O'Connor; Motorhead; Joy Division; Gang of Four
Six things I could never do without
In no particular order:

fantasy novels with swords and magic (even if I haven't had time to read one in a while)
emotional and physical connections with others
late-night conversations with friends
20-sided dice
my bicycle
SPF 30 sunscreen
I spend a lot of time thinking about
the people I care about
how to live every day to the fullest
comic books
gender and other binaries and how to smash them
how to avoid getting hit by a car while biking in Chicago
where I should go camping
class issues and capitalism
escape routes from whichever room I am currently in
On a typical Friday night I am
planning where my next bike bike ride will take me
at a party with friends
playing video games and listening to music

maybe all three in one evening.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have a fetlife account. I want to be more intentional about exploring my kinky side.
You should message me if
you aren't interested in "escalator" relationships. My physically intimate relationships look a lot like the rest of my friendships, with the bonus of kisses. I'm looking for friends or more, but not intensely emotional relationships.
Message me if you want to meet up for coffee or something else. I'm always looking for more people to ride my bicycle with, or to do some climbing.
Witty conversation is appreciated.
Have a good head on your shoulders.
The two of us