I'm an active, intelligent, professional girl trying out online dating for the first time, so bear with me while I stumble a bit...
I'm a very active and outdoorsy person. If it's a nice day out and I have any amount of free time, I feel compelled to go outside and do something. Anything. Some of my most beloved possessions are my hiking boots, bicycle, and skis. I try to run 3 miles or more 5 days a week (Though it's definitely harder to make that happen in the winter), and I try to go on outdoorsy adventures every weekend. Even if I can't find people to go with, I've been known to go on nature hikes or long bicycle rides by myself.
I think my love of the outdoors also bring a good sense of adventure to my personality. I am a very adventurous person in all the ways that a person can be adventurous. I'll try anything once, whether it's a big scary ski trail, something new and quirky on a dinner menu, or going to see a band I've never heard of. If you're a person who isn't willing to try something new at least once in a while, I doubt we're going to get along. However, there are definitely some things that I know I like, and some things that I know I don't like.
Education is something that is very important to me, and not just in the formal sense of the word. Education takes place in many forms, and not just in a classroom or a lecture hall. I try to learn something new every day, whether it be reading a good book, flipping through the newspaper, meeting new people, visiting a strange new place, or even just finishing the last few boxes on a crossword puzzle.
I'm a very driven person, both professionally and personally. Once I set a goal, I pursue it relentlessly until it is accomplished. I think this outlook on life has really helped me find a good education, good job, good home, and most importantly good friends.
By day I sit in my office at work and mash a keyboard while listening to TED talks, and paying more attention to the latter. I do work for a theatre, however, and blasting "Barbie Girl" in the grid for awesome dance parties is also part of my grind.
By night I wear a lot of hats. And only one of them makes me look like a tiger. I'm an insufferable foodie, and I eat out far too often. Or not often enough. Depending on your opinion of foodies. Hint: The latter is preferable.
Also try to stay pretty active in campaigning for marriage equality. I'm privileged to know an organizer for the Family Equality Council, and I regularly participate in their fundraisers, pot lucks, and other events. Because there's no such thing as "gay rights". There's just rights. Except the right to an attorney. That's a pretty gay right.
I'm definitely slightly obsessed with museums too, especially art museums. Card carrying member of the MFA, and I have a special love for the Gardner too.
I put the "rope" in "proper".
I'm also super good at starting games of Rock/Paper/Scissors with other drivers when I'm stuck in traffic. Because life is too short to waste any time getting stressed out at THE FUCKING SHIT BITCHING DICK FUCKS THAT BLOCK INTERSECTIONS AND MAKE LIFE UNBEARABLE FOR EVERYONE BECAUSE THEIR FUCKING CAR IS SO MUCH MORE IMPORTANT... I mean... Scissors.
And for real answer... probably my green eyes.
Also that I'm really hyper almost 24/7, and that this song is constantly playing in my head:
I have impromptu dance parties by myself. It's pretty much the best thing ever, especially when other people join in!
Movies: The Devil Wears Prada, 10 Things I Hate About You, Pan's Labyrinth, Mar Adentro, There Be Dragons, The Way, Everything is Illuminated, Joyeux Noël, Titanic, Midnight in Paris, Star Wars, Mean Girls...
TV: Glee, How I Met Your Mother, 30 Rock, The Daily Show, Anderson Cooper 360, Friday Night Lights, The Big Bang Theory, Real Club Deportivo de La Coruña... And lately I've been kind of obsessed with Orange is the New Black
Shows (You know what, OkCupid? You said 'shows', not 'TV', so SUCK IT!): The Complete Works of William Shakespeare: Abridged, Les Misérables, The Glass Menagerie, Copenhagen, Hedwig and the Angry Inch, Cabaret, [Anything by Gilbert & Sullivan], [Anything NOT by Andrew Lloyd Weber], Three Pianos, Porgy & Bess, Rosencrantz and Guildenstern Are Dead, The Heidi Chronicles, Ok I should end this before it gets out of hand...
Food: Anything and everything. Meatasaurus. Anti-vegetarian. Pro-PETA. People Eating Tasty Animals. Spanish, sushi, Indian, Galician seafood, New England seafood, seafood flavored seafood, Ethiopian, Mexican, Cuban, BRUNCH! Now I'm hungry...
(BTW, Spanish food is by far the best food in the world. Of the top 10 restaurants in the world, 3 are Spanish , including the #1 spot (and none are French. Suck it, frogs!). And Spain's McDonald's have the McRib (and beer). That is one country that knows what is good about food.)
(BTW.2: Picky eaters are some of the most furiously tiring people in the world. I'm an omnivore. Sure, I have a few things I really don't like to eat, but I can count them on one hand. And they're very easy to avoid, since they're mostly garnish/condiment related. I prefer people with a similar palate. Sorry vegetarians/vegans. I'm not saying I won't ever date you, but I'm never going to try veggie versions of real food. Except for Morningstar veggie chicken patties. Because those things are awesome. But otherwise... in a world that already includes bacon, why would I ever settle for something that "almost" tastes like bacon? I mean, seriously?)
Adult beverages (Because this really needs to be a category, as I think it says way more about a person than what television shows they watch: WINE: Albariño, Godello, Caiño Tinto, Mencía, Loureira, Riesling (with dessert usually). BEER: The darker the better. Sam Smith Imperial Stout, BBC Coffeehouse Porter, North Coast Old Rasputin, Porter Square Porter. LIQUOR: Not much. Vodka and orange soda in a Dixie cup is my pregaming standby for cast parties. I'll drink pretty much any liquor though, as long as it's good. I'm not picky, even if it's not what I usually choose to drink. Except gin. I hate gin.
Music: Train, The Avett Brothers, Junior Senior, Badly Drawn Boy, Saturn Missiles, Polyphonic Spree, The Shins, Arcade Fire, Shovels and Rope, Say Anything, Imagine Dragons, Bus Stop, Ben Folds, Colbie Caillat, Scissor Sisters, Black Eyed Peas, André 3000, Jamiroquai, Divididos, Gipsy Kings, Rodrigo y Gabriela, Berrogüetto, Siniestro Total, Carlos Núñez.
Rawking-out-Gaby-in-the-ZipCar-mode: Train - Drive By
I'll listen to pretty much anything. Except metal. Sorry, but "power chords" and grunting at a microphone don't constitute music.
I also judge a lot of musicians based on more than just their music.
Classiest person ever.
(And okay, this is probably the sixth time I've had to fix that link. YouTube keeps changing it. If it's broken again, just search "Billy Joel Vanderbilt" on YouTube)
Oh, and why is it suddenly the cool thing to be introverted? Is it just me, or are a ton a of people identifying as introverts lately? And, more often than not, 'introverted' is really just something people use as an excuse for having no social skills and being a boring blob of blobness.
Also, I'm an insufferable foodie. I often have little internal head debates with myself on which country's national cuisine is the most influential in the world (no, France is not even close to the top). I have three candidates that I often find myself unable to pick a firm winner between.
(For the purposes of the above internal head debate, I don't count American cuisine as a national cuisine, as it is so regional and so influenced by other countries' national cuisine. Secondary internal head debate on that topic to come...)
What I HOPE my typical Friday night entails... hmmm.... Watching 'Mean Girls' and playing the Mean Girls drinking game.
English is my third language, so my inner monologue isn't. Which means I dream in my first language. And I can't speak comprehensible English for about 5 minutes after I wake up.
(Also, I've actually emailed the staff at OkCupid to add my first language to the list of languages you can list on your profile. True story.)
Annnnd... my full legal name is seven words long? Because I'm just that cool. (No hyphenates either!)
So here's the 10 rules for messaging me:
1. College educated. I may sound snobby saying this, but I have no interest in dating someone who doesn't have at least a 4-year degree.
2. Can't emphasize this enough... You know how to write a message. This has two parts - first of all, you know how to WRITE. I know it's the internet and some conventions of language fall to the side of the road, but seriously people... put some pride into the words you write. And secondly, know how to write a message that is interesting. I'm just putting this out there: If you write a message that consists of just "hey what's up?" or similar language, I am not going to reply to it. End of story. I will put exactly as much effort into reading a message as you put into writing it.
3. I'm not going to meet you for drinks tomorrow night. I'm just not. I've met a few guys from this site, and it's been a nice experience, but I really prefer to talk to a person for at least a week before exchanging numbers and meeting up. If that's a dealbreaker for you, then you're a dealbreaker for me, so thanks for playing.
4. Read my profile. Thanks for saying I'm pretty, but I'm not on this site for you to blitz through my pictures and nothing else. And trust me on this... It's very easy to tell when someone hasn't read my full profile. A lot of your dumb questions are answered up there ↑↑↑...
5. Opposites attract. I'm not interested in dating someone who is just like me. I like being in a relationship with someone who has an intellectual base that is very different from mine. Don't get me wrong, I love sharing common interests, and that's VERY important, but I also love learning about new things and experiencing new interests with a partner, and so should you. If you think you're exactly like me, chances are I'm not going to like you. EDIT: My 'opposites attract' theory is not open to people who believe in creationism (seriously, how are there that many college educated people in and around Boston who actually believe in that nonsense...) or believe that homosexuality is a choice and thus marriage equality is immoral. Those aren't differing intellectual bases or opinions... you're just wrong.
6. Be confident in your personality and culture. Own where you are from, and be proud of it. One of the biggest turn-offs in someone are those who try to co-opt the culture and heritage of other peoples. First of all: Hipsters, go suck your own dick and don't message me. Second of all: I don't care how long you were there... studying abroad doesn't count as having lived abroad. I'm a Spanish citizen, and I haven't lived in Spain since I was a kid. And trust me, I've spent A LOT of time in Spain since then. When people tell me they "lived" somewhere (aka studying abroad) it just shows a complete lack of pride in their own heritage, and is a total turn-off. I don't care if you're originally from West Nowhere, Nebraska. OWN it, and love it. (NOTE: Props to people who have legitimately lived in a foreign country.)
7. Be willing to be a partner. A relationship is a partnership, not an obligation. While chivalry isn't dead, and while I definitely appreciate a guy holding a door open for me, I even more appreciate a guy letting me pay for dinner. I'm a feminist at my core, and I'm not a doll who is going to march to your drumbeat. It's 2015, and if you can't be willing to make a relationship work on equal footing with your partner, you're probably not someone I'm going to get along with.
8. Be intellectual. Know how to talk about something other than yourself. Know how to talk about something other than what you went to college for. Someone who teaches me something is a huge turn on, but an even bigger turn on are people who can have intense intellectual conversations about totally abstract topics just for the sake of having an academic discussion about something.
9. Be confident and ambitious. I never sit still in my own life, career, and education, and neither should you. It's a big sign of a person's personality if they don't want to keep on climbing the professional, social, and academic ladder.
10. Message me if you are willing to accept all of these as rules. I'm sorry if I'm being rudely blunt, but none of this is "optional" for me. Sort of tying into rule #9... I'm not here to "settle". I have a ton of optional rules, trust me. But these 10 are ironclad RULES. I honestly don't think they should be too hard to follow, and I have no problem writing this site's longest "you should message me if" section to say so (seriously, where's my trophy?). I really think everyone should make this section this detailed, because "you should message me if... you have a sense of humor and a nice smile" just doesn't work. I know what I want, and so should you. So now that you know what I want... if you think what I want is also what you want. FUCKING MESSAGE ME ALREADY!!! IMs work too...
(And bonus rule number 11: Message me if you know where it rains in Spain. Because it's not on the plain. And extra points if you get this reference...)