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My self-summary
I tend to love attention but am quite often struck by terrible shyness and social anxiety. I love people but sometimes want nothing more than to be by myself. I am endlessly patient when dealing with children. But that patience evaporates when an adult with a shopping cart is blocking the aisle because they can’t decide what orange juice to buy. I love living in a city with easy access to great bars, restaurants and culture. But, I grew up in the country, so I am quite often overtaken by an overwhelming need to see a tree that is not surrounded on all sides by concrete. I hate paying for fresh flowers at whole foods; I'd rather pick them. I am a creature of habit but will always consider a better a way of doing something.

Some might call me artsy. I’m certainly not beret-wearing artsy, but I’d agree that I’m creative. I am by no means a scrap booker, but I really enjoy making things, especially in the kitchen. I love the fact that if something is homemade, it’s entirely unique, without precedent. Art, music and books rock my world. Not sure how to explain it without seeming cheesy, but a good book, painting or song carries me to another time and place, taking me away from my current life, to a life I once lived or would like to live. The only speeding ticket I've ever gotten in my whole life was due to the fact that I was listening to a really absorbing audio book (And The Dark Sacred Night by Julia Glass). FYI, state troopers patrolling the Taconic State Parkway do not look kindly on speeding due to audio book distraction. They do not find it cute or charming or funny. I suppose they're just doing their job ...

When I first got on OKC, I focused on creating a really good advertisement for myself. However, I'm realizing that it's also important to include who I'm looking for. I'm trying to get better at asking for what I need. So here goes. I want someone who can commit confidently and wholeheartedly to things: their work, their interests and of course, me. I need someone who respects my choice of career and my decision to pursue a passion not a large paycheck. I need someone who understands that nine times out of ten, I'm not looking for a solution, I'm looking for a hug and some sympathy. I also need someone who can make me laugh, especially at those moments when I am just about to cry.
What I’m doing with my life
Working too much. Trying not to work too much. Looking forward to not working. When I'm not working, I get outside as much as possible. I love the outdoors and get grumpy when I have to stay inside all day. Walking in the woods is one of the most relaxing things I can think of. I love camping but it has to be the kind of camping where I can drive to the site because I like to have my creature comforts: my pillow, an air mattress, stacks of trashy celebrity magazines, and lots and lots of good food to cook and wine to drink. Favorite camping spots are Elk Neck, Cape Henlopen, and Promised Land. I love the beach. As long as I have a chair, a beach umbrella, snacks and a good book, I can hang out for upwards of 5 hours. Tubing on the Delaware River is the bomb. I want to get to the point where I'm an "expert tuber" which will involve having a cooler filled with beer floating alongside me and perhaps a waterproof radio.

I love travelling but haven't made it happen too much over the last 15 years or so. I went to grad school in England and I adored living abroad. It was wonderful to live in a different country for an extended period of time, to find a favorite grocery store, park, radio station. If I could've gotten a job in England , I would've stayed.

I can't think of many places in this world that I don't want to visit. I want to go back to all the place I've been: England, Ireland, Scotland, Europe, Korea, Greece, the American South and Southwest. But there are so many new places I'd love to explore, Scandinavia, Alaska, Prague, Japan, Morocco, California Wine Country. Lately, I've been daydreaming a lot about retirement, not so I can sit around but so I can travel, hike, camp, read and make complicated meals.

I am an NPR addict. Sticher changed my life. When I start up the app, it states the number of hours I've spent listening and it's something like 50 billion at this stage.
I’m really good at
parallel parking, bargain shopping, laughing until I cry, making other people laugh until they cry, playing with kids, downloading music, being the center of attention, cooking (but not baking), drawing bathes
The first things people usually notice about me
My eyes are two different colors
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Anything by Geoff Nicholson, John Irving, Ian Mcewan, Nigella Lawson
Films: Muriel's Wedding, The Commitments, Beetlejuice, Empire of the Sun, Trainspotting, Fargo, Junebug, Strictly Ballroom, Buffalo 66
Artists: Cindy Sherman, Egon Schiele, Waterhouse, Turner, Bosch, Rothko, Chagall, Brancusi, Matisse, Wyeth, Toulouse-Lautrec, Sargent, Julia Margaret Cameron, Bronzino
TV: Mad Men, Masterpiece Theater (Poldark!!), Happy Valley, Broadchurch (the Brit version), Northern Exposure
Podcasts: Wait, Wait, Don't Tell Me, Splendid Table, Selected Shorts, The Writer's Almanac, Dinner Party Download, The Moth
Music: Massive Attack, Throwing Muses, the Stone Roses, Jesus & Mary Chain, This Mortal Coil, Belly, Liz Phair (but just the first two albums), Tom Waits, Wedding Present, Magnetic Fields, Lucinda Williams, Emmylou Harris, Patty Griffin, Brandi Carlile, Neko Case, Cat Power, Arcade Fire, Bon Iver, Langhorne Slim, Mountain Man
Food: The Duck Fat & Short Rib Fries at Village Whiskey, Banh Mi, Artichokes, Pickles, Crudite, Lobster in any form, Avocados, Cheese, Oysters, BBQ, BLT's, Eggs Benedict, Chana Masala, Bi Bim Bap, Ethiopian, Bulgogi, Kebabs in England, Tsatsiki, Sushi, Chocolate with Sea Salt, Creme Brulee
Drink: Zinfandels and Malbecs, Bloody Marys, Mimosas, Victory's Golden Monkey, G&T's, Baileys Irish Cream & Hot Cocoa. And, actually, as long as it doesn't taste like licorice or coconut, I'll drink it. But, if I were to dedicate too much of this section to drink preferences, I'd probably be sending the wrong message.
Six things I could never do without
1. Music
2. Friends
3. Flowers (but not those gross bouquets from superfresh)
4. Good food & drink
5. My cat
6. Art
I spend a lot of time thinking about
World peace, of course
On a typical Friday night I am
Relaxing at home, cooking dinner and making plans for Saturday
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I don't ever read the business section
You should message me if
You find yourself visiting my profile more than once.
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