Still with me? Cool! I try not to lead with my weird when meeting people face-to-face, but I see no reason to be coy on a profile. I'm looking for someone who shares my offbeat interests and lifestyle, and to do that, I figure I have to be upfront about who I am.
To get the biggie on the table first, yes, I'm very much polyamorous, and totally committed to that relationship model. I'm also very much single, as my current partners are all married, 2/3 of them live in other states, and I only see the one here in Seattle about once a week. So, I definitely have room in my life and heart for someone new. Being an introvert, I much prefer having a few deep relationships rather than lots of casual ones, but I've had my heart broken too many times to expect any partnership to become my life-long primary. I still have hopes, though...
I'm also a lifelong nudist. I would love to say 'card-carrying', but that's not true at the moment, as I've let my membership in my nudist clubs lapse, for reasons I would be happy to explain if you're interested. Still, nudism is a big part of my life - I haven't worn clothes at home in 35 years now - and I figure you ought to know that before you consider dating me. If you're not interested in hanging out with me in the buff, then we're definitely not made for each other.
Professionally, I used to be a software engineer, and founded a dot com online gaming company in the late 90's. It failed, like so many others, but I had enough left over that I didn't need to work for many years. Unfortunately, such a paradise couldn't last forever, so I am now self-employed mostly as Lyft driver, which gives me the three things I want from a job - no boss, being able to set my own schedule, and enough money to pay the bills.
Spiritually, I'm a committed atheist Wiccan with an interest in Buddhist and Tantric teachings, and have been since childhood. I'm rather more into rationalist show-me skepticism than trustful faith about lot of matters, but I've had my share of unexplainable synchronicities, so I try not to be dogmatic. In any case, I've come to the conclusion that things like deities, spirits, and spirituality are just as real and important - and as unreal, in a physical sense - as things like love, honor, and truth. And I'm *really* into love, honor, and truth.
Sexually, I'm extremely open-minded, GGG, way kinky, and have a high libido. I love touching and flirting and teasing and cuddling as pretty much a way of life, long before things move to the bedroom (or living room, or outdoors, or wherever). I'm mostly straight, though heteroflexible; while I don't actively seek out same-sex partners, I'm open to the possibility. I've been active in the BDSM community for many years as a top and Dom, mostly with long-term partners - pickup play with strangers doesn't interest me. While I really enjoy sex and play (they're my favorite hobbies), I'm way more into intimacy and energy exchange than just the physical sensations. I totally agree with Bianca Jagger's quote - “Unless there's some emotional tie, I'd rather play tennis". And I don't even *like* tennis.
My other, more mundane interests aren't quite so important in regards to a relationship, though if you don't share a least a few, I doubt we'll have much to talk about. At one time or another, my social life has centered around one or more of theater, SF fandom, roleplaying, paganism, BDSM, social nudism, and the SCA, though I'm not active in any of those communities at the moment. I'm deeply interested in reading, writing, relationships, history, astronomy, evolutionary biology, Aikido, archery, mythology, dog training, movies, and both computer and board games. I love animals, and while I no longer have any, I still stop to scritch every one I meet that seems even slightly friendly.
And finally, to toot my own horn a bit, I like to think that I'm honest, open, non-hypocritical, emotionally mature, and have an entertaining sense of humor. However, I try to let other people be the judges of those things, as I may have a wee bit of bias in the matter.
So there you go, that's me in a probably-too-long nutshell. If I sound like someone you'd like to get to know better, then I'd love to hear from you!
Except, I hesitate to admit, BDSM and sex, which have *always* interested me. I've studied a lot, have a huge library on the topics, taken lots of classes, and *love* getting more hands-on experience. Seriously. Kinky sex has been my primary hobby for over 35 years now, and I'm not the only one who thinks I'm really good at it. There's always room for improvement, though...
In fiction, nowadays I mostly read urban fantasy and erotica. My absolute faves are the Discworld, Harry Potter, and Dresden Files series, which are the *only* books I buy in hardcover the moment they come out. Otherwise, I like the Anita Blake series, old Anne Rice (especially the Sleeping Beauty trilogy), the Bernie Rhodenbarr series by Lawrence Block, Frank Miller graphic novels, collections of Charles Addams cartoons, and anything by Neil Gaiman. Historically, I come from SF/fantasy fandom, where my classic faves include Tolkein, Heinlein, Asimov, Neal Stephenson, Katherine Kurtz, L Sprague deCamp, Larry Niven and Ursula Le Guin, though I haven't re-read most of them in ages.
But I read way more non-fiction that fiction. For light entertainment, I love Barbara Tuchman, Stephen Jay Gould, Richard Dawkins, Jared Diamond, and Scientific American, but those are just the tips of a very large iceberg. Specific recent faves include Sex at Dawn, Guns Germs and Steel, The World Without Us, The Ancestor's Tale, and Collapse.
Movies: I love movies. Besides having a large home collection, I see several every month in the theater. I have always enjoyed action, SF, action, comedy, animation, and cult movies, and have friends who have introduced me to the charms of horror. Whedon films and the MCU are always on my lists of must-sees.
My favorite movies - that is, the ones I have often re-watched - include Sherlock Holmes, Inglorious Basterds, Casino Royale, The Godfather I& II, Goodfellas, Big Trouble in Little China, The Incredibles, Sin City, Pulp Fiction, Star Wars (NOT 'A New Hope' - I mean the *original*), Casablanca, Catch-22, The Dark Knight, Chinatown, The Matrix, and (the standard against which I judge all other movies) Aliens.
I'm also quite fond of an obscure little vampire flick called Innocent Blood, which contains everything I could ever want in a movie (darkness, humor, love, trust, vampires, blood, action, nudity, sex, violence, handcuffs, and a strong female lead, all played by the delightful Anne Parrilaud of La Femme Nikita), *PLUS* is set in the Pittsburgh neighborhood that I used to live in!
Music: I'm not big on listening to music - I much prefer quiet. But when I do, I prefer classical and folk, with some classic rock thrown in. As far as I'm concerned, Loreena McKennit is the voice of the Goddess. I also like Clannad, Enya, Kiva, The Eagles, Pat Benatar, and (I hesitate to admit it) old Madonna songs. In classical, I prefer the late romantic tone poems of Debussy, Sibelius, and Richard Strauss.
Foods: Sushi. Dim Sum. Ice cream. Thai. Good steak. Milk chocolate - I know most chocoholics prefer the dark stuff, but so long as I get my Cadbury's, I don't mind being them calling me Mr. Philistine. I have discovered that I'm what they call a 'supertaster', which as far as I can tell mostly means that I'm way more sensitive to bitter than most people, which is why I'm not fond of things like coffee and dark chocolate. And while I'm not much of either a foodie or a cook, I'm learning, being prodded in that direction by a partner who's both, and surprised to find that I actually enjoy letting my mad scientist side free in the kitchen.
And in the 'they didn't ask but I'm telling you anyway department':
TV: TV has never been a big part of my life - the only reason I even bought an antenna was to watch Obama's inaguration, in fact. But I've loosened up in recent years, so I've been enjoying Castle, Arrow, Sherlock, Agents of SHIELD, Masters of Sex, Game of Thrones, Elementary, Dr Who, and Walking Dead. older series that I've loved watching older series such as Serenity, Bones, Battlestar Galactica, Heroes, Dexter, Family Guy, Buffy, Xena, Homicide, Monty Python, BBC Robin Hood, and of course Star Trek (both the original and NextGen).
Computer Games: I spent more time playing games than watching TV, mostly strategy and RPGs. My most recent time sinks have been Kerbal Space Program, the Fallout Series, Skyrim, the Mass Effect series, and Crusader Kings II. Older faves include Assassin's Creed, Civilization, the Fallout Series, the Dragon Age series, Dishonored, Half-Life and X-COM.
Board Games: Pandemic, 7 Wonders, Settlers of Cataan, Rummikub, Munchkins, Fluxx, Tales of the Arabian Nights, Arkham Horror, Last Night on Earth.
Webcomics: xkcd and Girl Genius!!!! Also SMBC, Schlock Mercenary, Questionable Content, Oglaf, and The Order of the Stick.
And last but definitely not least, computers.
But most especially, relationships. The way I see it, when I'm on my deathbed, I'm not going to look back and wish that I'd spent more time writing or watching movies or playing games - i.e. doing things with people in my head. Instead, I'm going to regret all the things that I never managed to do with the *real* people whom I love.
So, I spend a lot of time thinking about how I can do things that I love with people whom I love, and thus not have reason to look back and kick myself for having missed what's important in life.
But for right here, let me just state that when say I'm a nudist, I'm not kidding. I started going bare secretly as a kid, haven't worn clothes at home since I got my own apartment in college, have been going to nudist clubs and events for decades now, and all my partners for the last 20 years have either been - or became - at least part-time nudists themselves. On my travels, I try to stay in nudist clubs as much as possible. However, I don't impose my lifestyle on other people, and always put on a robe before answering the door.
Needless to say, nudism is kind of central to my lifestyle. If you don't want to deal with that, I totally understand. On the other hand, if you like going bare, too, then you're definitely someone I'd like to get to know.