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My self-summary
PLEASE NOTE: I am ethically non-monogamous. See "you should contact me if" for more, but it basically says that, spread across more words. I am never closed to new possibilities.

A Northern lad who came to the big city to be among people and life.

I am much better-lit, hairy, and available for eye contact than my profile picture suggests.

UPDATE: I am exactly as well-lit, hairy and available for eye contact as my profile picture suggests.

FURTHER UPDATE: I am not so hairy any more. Eye contact and lighting levels roughly unchanged.

LAST UPDATE: I like this bit so I'm not removing it, but in a nutshell, I look like my profile pic, unless I don't.

What I’m doing with my life
I'm a game designer. I like working in all sorts of different forms, but at the moment I make physical, public play things that always seem to be about encouraging people to be more intimate with each other. I'm an aspiring web developer, writer (I blog, but not about relationships if you're worried)… I'm an aspirant. I aspire. I have a day job which is less interesting, but keeps me busy and deals with my shoe habit. (Update: I went freelance, which is terrifying on a daily basis.)

I used to run lots and cycle a bit, but I kind of lost my mojo at that, and I'm just getting it back. (Update: learned to swim really well, which has been delightful.) Acquiring skills is fun; re-acquiring them is possibly even more fun. I like to make things. I am particularly fond of the fact that the Spanish verb for "to make" is the same as that for "to do". I'm full of these nuggets.
I’m really good at
I have this uncanny knack of knowing, from a picture, whether two people are a couple or not. I have occasionally realised two people are a couple before the couple realises themselves. (My related weakness is that I have no idea when a couple is about to break up.)

I am a physics graduate, and can explain the weird physical stuff you ever hear about. If you ever wanted to ride the Understanding Quantum Physics Express, I'm the man to corner. The recent popularity of Brian Cox has, in many ways, been good to me.

Fixing stuff. Physical stuff, especially. Me and machines have a thing going on. Getting things out of the door, except for physical stuff, which never seems to move any closer to it.
The first things people usually notice about me
Probably my beard, which is now back. I guess it's that I don't look like my current profile picture? Ever? But I am definitely that guy?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Why does this bit always get so long? Five things in each group so you can ask about things, but no more.

BOOKS: Infinite Jest, The City And The City, The Drought, Vurt, Dossie and Janet generally.

FILMS: Dr. Strangelove, Brazil, Rollerball, Back To The Future, Shortbus.

SHOWS: The Wire, Deadwood, Max Headroom, TNG, Spaced.

MUSIC: post-punk, techno, clicky European indie, filthy pop, unusual disco.

FOOD: yes, yes, yes, yes, yes.
The six things I could never do without
A computer with some sort of data connection; a bike; an idea; a place to go; love.

I'm keeping one spare. Nobody thinks of everything.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
...what patterns can be seen in things, and whether they are real things or just a quirk of human observation.

On a typical Friday night I am
...enjoying a quiet drink with friends, cooking something new and preparing for a big run in the morning. Saturday nights are available for good times, dancing and causing a ruckus and/or rumpus. I give good rumpus. Apparently I am a very funny drunk, but nobody will ever explain to me why.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
There isn't much I'm not willing to admit really. I'm ridiculously open and honest. My name is right there.

I considered saying that my favourite film is "Mean Girls". I'll fight the corner of that film anywhere, any time.

My favourite perfume is not vanilla. I still like vanilla in perfume.

I didn't read your favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food. It was too long.
You should message me if
You're looking for friends, someone to listen or someone to talk gibberish (I am good at gibberish), to go on a bike ride with or to go on an epic weekend mission with. Or, you know, curious. If you're looking for any relationship whatsoever, you absolutely must be comfortable with polyamory, or ethical non-monogamy, or we'll just be wasting our time.

It really helps if you make things other than piles of money with your working hours. My definition of "make" and "things" is very liberal though, so try me.

If I keep looking at your profile and not messaging you, then I'm either a) composing something worth replying to; b) bottling out of messaging you because you're so fucking suave; c) working out where I recognise you from. Forgive me. If I have added you as a favourite and not spoken to you yet, it's because I'm thinking about sending you a message. OKC provides no other way of saving you for later reference, unfortunately. I don't IM here.

I also occasionally get snowed under, but I will get back to you if we've already been messaging. At some point. Promise.