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My self-summary
I'm a total dork. I geek out about everything from the evolution or lack thereof of languages over time to sailing to video games and public policy.

I'm in an open relationship but not a polyamorous one. Labels are complicated and problematic, but hopefully useful?

I try to be genuine in every aspect, and surround myself in my life with whimsy, honesty, joy, and delight. To walk a path of social justice as an imperfect, improving ally and to try to make the world a better place.

I rock out in my chair to Van Canto and Vanessa Mae, to Freedom Call and Shostakovich.

I like sitting around in cafes talking about books and the nature of humor, and I like exploring steam tunnels and buildings that used to be munitions factories.

I consider all parts of the Bay Area that can be reached by some combination of Caltrain, BART, and Muni to be local to me.
What I’m doing with my life
Working as a QA Lead for a construction software company, focusing on process and automation improvements. Occasionally managing to make useful progress on editing my novel, or one of the several other side-projects (mostly video game related) that I have on the backburner. Reading books both old and new, and learning how to cook new foods (the citrus infused chili did turn out pretty tasty).

Trying to lose weight and get back in shape. With my family's history of diabetes and heart/cholesterol problems, my current state of physical health is not apocalyptic, but is still a problem.

Volunteering (in a technical capacity) for Democratic campaigns.
I’m really good at
Being really enthusiastic about everything. Laughing, emergency medicine, verbal sparring, cooking, enjoying peoples' company, video games, making (terrible) puns, watching das cursorblinken, cuddling, and learning intently from person and every occasion in my life.
The first things people usually notice about me
I have long hair and I, unconsciously, obfuscate in a polysyllabic fashion occasionally. I'm bouncy and grin a lot, and I giggle.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Anything by Terry Pratchett or Lois McMaster Bujold. Recently finished re-reading Wildbow's Worm, an absolutely amazing urban-grimdark superhero web serial. Have fallen in love with Marie Brennan's "Lady Trent" series, starting with "A Natural History of Dragons".

TV/Movies: Firefly/Serenity, Spaceballs, and The Princess Bride, again, among a host of others. Have been really, really enjoying the recent run of Marvel movies.

Food: Stir fry, baked chicken leg quarters, steak, sushi, chili... there's very little I don't enjoy cooking and even less I don't enjoy eating, but I do not eat bacon and I generally dislike cooked fish.

Music: Apocalyptica, Tom Lehrer, DragonForce, Jonathan Coulton, Shostakovich, Vanessa Mae.

Webcomics (Come on, it's relevant): xkcd, Schlock Mercenary, Girl Genius, Order of the Stick, Dresden Codak, Guilded Age. More recently: Wondermark, Scenes From a Multiverse, and PS238.
Six things I could never do without
Joy, delight, intimacy in all of its many forms, friends who challenge me to be a better person, hope, and a sense of humor.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Computers, all the amazing things we take for granted in our society, sex, kink, music, TVTropes (it will ruin your life!), questioning the nature of society, how awesome it is that companies are making sex toys that are actually well-engineered rather than shitty novelty items. The roots of preference, both in terms of the abstract (the notion of preference itself and the development of the manifestation of preferences) and the concrete (a particular person's preferences). The potential reasons for why a particular person does or does not reply to emails written one way or another. The best way to ask "what is your preferred gender pronoun" without turning it into a referendum on gender signalling and identity; how much I enjoy arguing about signalling and identity.

Why some of the double-bracketed phrases in my profile create tags, and some don't.
On a typical Friday night I am
Having Shabbat with my family. I don't practice much in the way of Judaism, but Shabbat has always been a family tradition sort of thing, and it's an excuse to spend time with my parents and siblings.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm quite kinky, though in an "in the bedroom" rather than "lifestyle" kind of way.

I have a deep and abiding love of certain genres of music that I cannot explain. Why do I love acapella covers of pop songs? Stratovarius's cover of Depeche Mode? I don't know.

I get a full STI panel every three months. Negative on all counts every time, but why be uncertain?
You should message me if
... you think that sometimes, a sunny day demands cuddling in Dolores Park with a book; and that sometimes, the rare storm demands cuddling on the couch with the fireplace going reading a book.

... you want someone to nerd out with!

... if you need an activity buddy, whether that's working out, watching movies/TV shows, going on hikes, urban exploration, board games, or a book club.

... you think "Whenever I see you, you set all my inodes aflutter. So how about we cd to your homedir and fsck all night long." is a hilarious-though-eye-rolling pickup line.
The two of us