48 Pittsburgh, United States
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My self-summary
I'm a funny mix of tastes old and new, art high and low, conversation goofy and serious. I'm a left-leaning music historian who values values: respect for all people, always. Honesty, openness, communication, hard work, inspiration, creativity, thoughtfulness, and being in the moment--these are some things I am and strive to have.

I grew up near Boston, have lived in the Midwest for eight years, in California for twelve, and Germany for one. No kids, never married, though I want both a family and marriage one day.

I consider myself in good shape in every way--physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually.

I'm most myself when I'm goofy and funny. I'm attracted to smiles, optimism, depth, good will, and honesty.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm surrounding myself with joy, beauty, and wonder in order to get better at those things. This is what my research in musicology is about. I just published some articles, edited two books, and am now drafting a book proposal.

I'm teaching, running, practicing target archery, cooking, forcing myself to clean my apartment, planning concerts to attend, discovering book and record stores, lifting. Sometimes biking, playing my viola, tasting whiskies, skating, glancing at pop culture from a distance.
I’m really good at
procrastination, productivity, writing style and mechanics, owning my part of the problem and doing something about it, being affectionate and patient, being creative in interpreting music and culture, wondering where the time went, running to class, and showing my passion for good music and new places.
The first things people usually notice about me
I have no idea. Probably that I'm easy to be with, straightforward, and thoughtful. Sometimes a little intense maybe. Sharing thoughts and feelings comes easier to me than just lying around blank and silent like a shadow.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Poetry, Classics, Shakespeare. Orhan Pamuk, August Wilson, and Michael Chabon. Lots and lots of books: geology, history, opera, contemporary culture.

Movies: I like movies, but I'm no buff. I feel that I should know more about directors, but go to superhero movies instead. I love oldies, great dramas, action films that minimize explosions, brilliant acting, and beautiful and creative cinematography. Spike Lee rocks. Coen Bros.

Music: Music of the 13th, 14th, 18th, 19th, 20th, and 21st centuries. Haydn, Mozart, Stravinsky, and Messiaen. See what I did there? There's a lot of classical music out there! Chuck Berry, Beatles, Stones, Neil Young, Simon and Garfunkel, Joni Mitchell, John Denver. Appalachian old time and American folk. Newer stuff too (my ears are open). Anything from Brazil and Turkey. A curious love for older musicals (Kern, Porter, Gershwin, Rodgers, Berlin) and slight revulsion for newer ones.

Food: Unfortunately, spicy food makes me melt (not in a good way). But I'm pretty adventurous: yes to all culinary traditions but no more sea cucumber or other rubbery-textured slimy foods. I cook Turkish cuisine, LOVE to cook (with cookbooks and wish I did it more), like wine and whisky, trying to eat smart.
The six things I could never do without
1. My books
2. My music
3. My other sources of food for my soul
4. My identity as an open, honest, kind person
5. My flexibility that enables me to stop at five things
I spend a lot of time thinking about
why music matters, how this country got into this mess, how I've grown in the last two years, whether to get a cat, how I'm going to finish all my work...
On a typical Friday night I am
doing a whole lot of nuttin and catching up with a thousand projects. Sometimes I need to work, sometimes I veg in front of the TV, sometimes I hit a concert, sometimes I'm on the phone, every once in a while I go ice-skating.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Boxer-briefs. There, now you don't have to ask.
You should message me if
you live near Pittsburgh and aren't planning to leave, you're cool with classical music, you pretty much have your life going as you want it, aren't not too picky or bossy, and have a ready smile. I want a communicative, loving, sweet, demonstratively affectionate, intellectually curious partner for life. I want my partner to want kids of our own. I'm taking care of my body and hope you are, too.