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My self-summary
Okay, Cupidites, I found someone absolutely amazing on this site. I'm not available or interested. I won't reply to inquiries. Might as well deactivate, but this is easier for now. Good luck on your searches, everyone! You might find what you looking for, or you might find what you need--or if you're lucky, both!


I'm a funny mix of tastes old and new, art high and low, conversation goofy and serious. I'm a left-leaning music historian who values values: respect for all people, always. Honesty, openness, communication, hard work, inspiration, creativity, thoughtfulness, and being in the moment--these are some things I am and strive to have.

Speaking of communication, I'm not paying to see who likes me. If you're interested, drop me a note!

Here are some of my research interests: French modernist music, Appalachian old-time, representations of Appalachia by American modernist composers, music on the African-American stage (Toni Morrison, August Wilson, etc.), the pickle of the American symphony orchestra, the pickle of contemporary Turkish composers. Pickles, apparently, but don't think too hard about that!

I grew up near Boston, have lived in the Midwest for eight years, in California for twelve, and Germany for one. No kids, never married, though I want both a family and marriage one day.

I consider myself in good shape in every way--physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually. Physically, I like hiking and running and target archery. Mentally I go for poetry and non-fiction, historiography and Michael Chabon, the New York Review of Books and Spike Lee. Emotionally--well, if you aren't emotionally plugged in, then good luck. And spiritually, I lift weights daily. Sufism has been important to me, but also Bonaventure. I love St. Anthony's battles with demons.

I'm most myself when I'm goofy and funny. I'm attracted to smiles, optimism, depth, good will, and honesty. Excess sarcasm, being judged and tested, an unwillingness to talk through things, and high drama--I find none of these attractive.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a professor of music history. I focus on 20th- and 21st-century classical music, but I also teach much earlier music, the history of rock, musicals, etc. When I'm not preparing to teach or meeting with students, I'm researching and writing books.

And when I'm not doing that, I'm meeting with friends, taking photographs, collecting records, Facebooking at my standing desk, tasting whiskies, running, browsing book and record stores, practicing target archery, forcing myself to clean my apartment, planning concerts to attend, playing my viola or fiddle in an old-time jam, skating, glancing at pop culture from a distance, scratching my chin.
I’m really good at
Procrastination, productivity, writing style and mechanics, owning my part of the problem and doing something about it, being affectionate and patient, being creative in interpreting music and culture, wondering where the time went, running to class, and showing my passion for good music and new places.
The first things people usually notice about me
I have no idea. Probably that I'm easy to be with, straightforward, and thoughtful. Sometimes a little intense maybe. Sharing thoughts and feelings comes easier to me than just lying around blank and silent like a shadow. I'm verbal.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Poetry, Classics, Shakespeare. Orhan Pamuk, August Wilson, and Michael Chabon. Lots and lots of books: geology, history, opera, contemporary culture.

Movies: I like movies, but I'm no buff. I feel that I should know more about directors, but go to superhero movies instead. I love oldies, great dramas, action films that minimize explosions, brilliant acting, and beautiful and creative cinematography. Spike Lee rocks. Coen Bros.

Music: Music of the 13th, 14th, 18th, 19th, 20th, and 21st centuries. Haydn, Mozart, Stravinsky, and Messiaen. See what I did there? There's a lot of classical music out there! Chuck Berry, Beatles, Stones, Neil Young, Simon and Garfunkel, Joni Mitchell, John Denver. Appalachian old-time and American folk. Protest songs. Ladies and gentlemen, Pete Seeger! Newer stuff too (my ears are open). Anything from Brazil and Turkey. A curious love for older musicals (Kern, Porter, Gershwin, Rodgers, Berlin) and slight revulsion for newer ones.

Food: Unfortunately, spicy food makes me melt (not in a good way). But I'm pretty adventurous: yes to all culinary traditions but no more sea cucumber or other rubbery-textured slimy foods. I cook Turkish cuisine, LOVE to cook (with cookbooks and wish I did it more), like wine and whisky, trying to eat smart.
The six things I could never do without
1. My books
2. My music
3. My other sources of food for my soul
4. My identity as an open, honest, kind person
5. My friends and family, of course.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
why music matters, how this country got into this mess, how I've grown in the last two years, how I'm going to finish all my work...
On a typical Friday night I am
doing a whole lot of nuttin and catching up with a thousand projects. Sometimes I need to work, sometimes I veg in front of the TV, sometimes I hit a concert, sometimes I'm on the phone, every once in a while I go ice-skating.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Boxer-briefs. I believe in compromise.
You should message me if
you live near Pittsburgh and aren't planning to leave, you're cool with classical music, you pretty much have your life going as you want it, aren't not too picky or bossy, and have a ready smile. I want a communicative, loving, sweet, demonstratively affectionate, intellectually curious partner. With the right person, it'd be for life. I want that person to want kids of our own one day.