33Oakland, United States
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My self-summary
Haven't been on here or updated this in a bit, seeing someone seriously now, so now this profile is one of those borderline creepster ones where we're looking at girls together. She and I are looking for a girl who is down to have some fun, and everyone is feeling it, see where that goes.

I'm happiest when driving down Highway 1 to Santa Cruz and then setting up a tent at a campsite. I go from zero to beardly in 6.5 seconds. I enjoy banter, getting out to nature, and I'm still pinching myself all the time since I finally moved back to the Bay Area in July after 5 years in L.A. I'm more of a combination of atheist and Jewish, in that I think god is silly, but I love brisket.

One of my best friends and his soon-to-be wife asked me to officiate their wedding this June, so I'm now an ordained Dudeist Priest because The Big Lebowski has its own fake religion. I am an expert campfire-maker, I'm pretty good in the kitchen, and your mom and her partner will love me if we date long enough to get there.
What I’m doing with my life
Biking around Oakland, winning trivia at Room 389 (it did happen once, and it was glorious), and nostalgia tripping about Santa Cruz or Jewish summer camp (they're really basically the same thing).

I'm a Clinical Social Worker in SF on a team for clients with really complex medical and mental health problems. I ran a homeless intervention project in Santa Monica before that, and worked as the mental health specialist in a homeless drop-in center in Venice Beach before that. I find my work fascinating and fulfilling, and it's easy to see how simple it would be for any one of us to end up in those circumstances. I'm grateful for every moment that I have the freedom and privilege to do what I want, so I'm kind of a goofball most of the time.
The first things people usually notice about me
Walking through the Tenderloin, a toothless woman with an orange soda mustache was passing by me and shouted, "What up, sexy bald!" That and the beard, I suppose.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
The music list is too long, but it's a lot of white people with guitars (indie, new folk, old folk), stuff that some people still call "alternative," even though it's mainstream now (Radiohead, The Flaming Lips, Spoon), R&B like Aloe Blacc, and old school hip-hop (Tribe, Pharcyde, etc.).

Louie, Curb Your Enthusiasm, The Wire, Breaking Bad, Game of Thrones, Comedians in Cars Getting Coffee, The Walking Dead, The Daily Show, Mad Men, Girls (how do we feel about this show? Strong female characters or more pixie manic dreamgirl male fantasy archetypes? I remain undecided)

I was a vegetarian for 10 years, vegan for 1, and now I eat it all, but still go meatless when I don't feel like clogging an artery with bacony goodness.

A Confederacy of Dunces is my favorite novel, but Philip Roth is my favorite writer (or maybe it's Hemingway? I go back and forth). I'm currently reading the Game of Thrones (ASOIAF) books, because I couldn't wait to see what happens on the show.
Six things I could never do without
Mountains to hike
Bourbon and craft beer
Comedy to watch and listen to
A balance between affection and space
Live music
I spend a lot of time thinking about
A combination of things that make me laugh- Louis CK, Jeff Garlin, Doug Benson, Tig Notaro, etc., and the impermanence of all things- it really helps me not internalize the shit at work.

Whether or not bulletproof coffee sounds good. It could be disgusting or delicious, but it is definitely not going to be somewhere in between, and I don't know if I want to know.
On a typical Friday night I am
One of three things: Low-key evening with friends and probably some wine or bourbon at somebody's place, out for dinner and drinks, or camping.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm actually just six feet tall (not 6'1" like I listed), but I found out that all the 5'9" dudes are lying and saying that they're my height, so fuck that.
You should message me if
You think it would be fun to get to know each other. You're not offended by Cards Against Humanity. You'd rather be in a tent in the woods than partying in Vegas, but you'd have fun in both places. Bonus points if you have curly hair.
The two of us