I approach everything as friendship, and if it turns into more, then cool. But admittedly... I've found the latter to be a pretty rare occurrence. I click best with people who are intelligent, open minded, active while being a good sport, make me laugh when I least expect it, willing to tell me fun stories from their childhood, and like to learn constantly (not necessarily academically, but just life in general). I also like to cuddle and tend to be huggy with my good friends. My favorite sounds are thunderstorms, waves crashing on the rocky shore of Bois Blanc Island, and my children laughing uncontrollably.
I'm now branching out my life in more than one direction and loving it. I've never been very athletic (although I sometimes surprise myself), but I do like staying in shape though team sports. In yoga, I achieved a full wheel, just days before my 40th! I love to try new things - whether it's a food or an experience. So far, I've found few rushes that can top jumping out of an airplane solo at 3,000 feet.
I love new places and historic spots, but find myself in Chicago at least every other month for one reason or another. I love that city!
Movies: I like about anything except slasher or horror. Documentaries are great.
Music: I'm an 80s girl, grew up in it and still love the music, but can also appreciate many different types (but no headbanger). Most of the time, my radio is on talk or public radio.
Food: I love to try new things (Bulgogi is a favorite), but can also enjoy the classic comfort foods of meat and potatoes. I love milk and drink a ton of it. After years of working and traveling with Asian journalists and government officials, I perfected my chopsticks technique under their watchful eyes. I recently tried eel and thought it was fantastic. I'll basically try anything that isn't looking back at me. I hope to get there someday, but not quite yet.
2. Exploring the world around me (I've done 83 of the things on this list and still counting! http://www.buzzfeed.com/samstryker/how-many-items-have-you-checked-off-your-bucket-list?s=mobile but only 23 of these.... I need to get out more. ;) http://www.dailymail.co.uk/travel/article-2598724/The-50-visited-tourist-attractions-world-revealed.html)
3. Staying active
4. Being smart with my money and bargain shopping
5. Hugs and cuddling
6. Finding the "Fuck, Yes!" in my life in friends, life experiences, and love. (See article) http://markmanson.net/fuck-yes/#.uohers:nMJO
EQ.... emotional intelligence is important. No one hits them all exactly, but you should recognize yourself in many things listed here.....
I am open and loving, but very strong. You need to be ready to date someone like this. ...
Also, you must be very open minded to other cultures and people different from yourself. You need to be comfortable with people who are homosexual. The father of my children is gay, and we work very closely as parents.
I have had many kind people contact me on this site, which is flattering, and have even met a couple of good friends. Please feel okay to send me note (that is more than a generic greeting), but also understand if we don't seem to be a match. The last thing I want to do is hurt anyone's feelings, but as much as I wish I had the time to get to know everyone who wanted to chat, I simply don't. Thanks for understanding.