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My self-summary
I'm open-minded, adventurous, adaptable, intellectually curious, a voracious and passionate reader, traveler and seeker of new experiences, but low key and allergic to drama when it comes to interpersonal relationships. Despite a generally easygoing approach to life I have a competitive streak, and can be stubborn and uncompromising about things that matter to me. I have my outgoing phases but am an introvert at heart and need my quiet time. I'm generally a pretty happy person, but have known a bit too much loss in my life not to have a melancholic streak as well. I'm basically your standard mishmash of contradictions and complications.

I like to cut loose every once in a while and know how to have a good time at a party, but I also have a profoundly geeky side and enjoy reading, role-playing games, and dreaming up fantastic scenarios and stories. I am a Japanophile, but more interested in the language and traditional culture than in the anime/manga stuff. I enjoy both physical activities (cycling, hiking, swimming, team sports) and mental ones (Scrabble, chess, crossword puzzles, intellectual conversations). I'm a big nature lover and enjoy being outdoors - I'm not conventionally religious but unspoiled landscapes are cathedrals to me. I have what I like to think is a passable sense of humor but if you don't appreciate the occasional whimsical reference, nerdy intellectual joke, or cheesy pun, you may not agree. I like animals and share my apartment with two cats and a fish tank.

I am at heart an intensely passionate person, and when I have feelings for someone I am very affectionate and expressive. This, however, does not happen often. Experience has put some dents in my inborn romanticism and while I'm not a cynic I have become a lot more cautious about opening myself up. I tend to take things slow emotionally.

Meyers-Briggs type: INFP
What I’m doing with my life
The travel bug bit me early and hard and I spent the first decade of my adult life succumbing to a bad case of wanderlust, living in three different countries and traveling to close to thirty others (lifetime goal: 100+ countries and all seven continents). Job-wise I have worn many hats, including teacher, editor, magazine writer, actor, and professional translator. None of them quite fit, so I went to graduate school, and recently completed a Master's Degree in International Business at UC San Diego. I just moved to the DC area in April to work as a market research analyst.
I’m really good at
Writing, cooking, taking photographs, changing light bulbs and getting things off the top shelf, killing cockroaches, parallel parking, remembering useless trivia, massacring 80s and classic soul tunes in a musically unsophisticated but entertaining way when I go to karaoke.
The first things people usually notice about me
My height. I can't count the number of times "do you play basketball/football?" has followed "what's your name?" and "where are you from?" as one of the first questions somebody has asked me. For the record, I used to play both competitively, but am more into lighter exercise activities since I hope to still be getting use out of my joints when I'm sixty.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
BOOKS: As a recovering English major I could go on all day about the books I love. Suffice it to say I am a huge reader of fiction (literary and genre), nonfiction, and poetry alike. Some favorite authors/poets: Jonathan Franzen, Haruki Murakami, Jeffrey Eugenides, T.S. Eliot, John Keats, Leo Tolstoy, John Keats, F. Scott Fitzgerald, Mark Twain, William Wordsworth, Jane Austen, Shakespeare, Alfred Tennyson.

MOVIES: Again there are too many to list them all. Some of my all-time favorites: "Seven Samurai", "Lost in Translation", "This Is Spinal Tap", "Star Wars", "Groundhog Day", "Blade Runner", "Goodfellas", "Rashomon", "Fargo", "Amelie", "The Godfather", "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind", "The Princess Bride", "Network", "Pan's Labyrinth", "WALL-E", "City of God".

TV: I fell out of watching TV during grad school but some of my favorite shows of the last few years are "Breaking Bad", "Mad Men", "Game of Thrones", and "Friday Night Lights". My favorite drama of all time is "The Wire" and my favorite comedy is "Seinfeld".

MUSIC: I grew up as an indie/alternative kid but have since worked my way backward into a deeper appreciation of not only classic rock but also jazz, blues, bluegrass, and classic country. I also like classical music but I lack the training to appreciate it for more than a pleasing sound. Some favorite groups/artists: The White Stripes, The Beatles, The Kinks, New Pornographers, Howlin' Wolf, Otis Redding, B.B. King, U2, The Magnetic Fields, Outkast, Muse, Blonde Redhead, Pogues, Roy Orbison, Marvin Gaye, Smokey Robinson, Miles Davis, Talking Heads, Adele, Johnny Cash, Bruce Springsteen, Wilson Pickett, Son House, The Clash, Arcade Fire, Yeah Yeah Yeahs, The Hives, The Killers, The Black Keys.

FOOD: Favorite cuisines are Italian, Mexican, Vietnamese, Korean, Indian... but I'll try anything once, an approach which has resulted in gustatory encounters with stewed jellyfish, steamed silkworms, and raw cod testicles, among other delights. I also like to cook and to invent my own recipes, several of which have proven to be edible.
The six things I could never do without
(In no particular order) friendship, music, the Internet, books, my passport, cheese.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Human behavior, politics, economics, energy efficiency, the nature of reality, how to live an ethical life, how to cook the perfect pasta sauce, Doug Pederson's future as an NFL head coach.
On a typical Friday night I am
Relaxing at home. If I'm going to go out, it's usually on Saturday after I've had a chance to unwind from the week.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I actually enjoy the occasional chick flick or cheesy pop song, typical straight male profile aside.
You should message me if
1.)You really want to talk to me but don't have much in your own profile. I've found that 75%+ of OKC messages go unanswered so I don't bother taking the initiative unless I'm really intrigued. When I do, I want to write more than "hi" or "you're pretty" so you have to give me something to go on. If your profile is mostly empty space I'm unlikely to message you even if you have a 99% rating and I think you're the most beautiful woman I've ever seen.

2.)You aren't the type to wait around until someone you like makes the first move. I like women who are willing to be proactive!

3.)You can make me laugh. Seriously, if you do that right away, you're already halfway to winning me over.

4.)You do for a living or study something challenging and interesting. Smart, talented, accomplished = incredibly attractive!

5.)You do not, however, live only for work. I've noticed that DC seems to be full of type-A people whose entire lives and identities center on their careers. I don't judge that as a life choice, but it's not my cup of tea in a partner. I want to date someone who means it when they talk about wanting work-life balance.

6.)You like (or at least can tolerate) cats. I have two, I love them, and keeping them around is non-negotiable.

7.)You aren't vain or high-maintenance, and are just as comfortable (or more comfortable) in a pair of jeans, a tee shirt, and sneakers as you are in a fancy dress. I'm a no muss, no fuss kind of guy.

8.)No matter what happens you will be honest and straightforward. I don't go into this with great expectations, but I don't have time for games. I'm not going to wait three days to return your texts or repeatedly cancel on you or say things I don't mean to butter you up. All I ask for is a similar level of maturity and respect.

9.)Lastly, you approach this whole thing as something open-ended and fun, not something goal-oriented and mildly embarrassing. I am interested in a serious relationship with the right person but I don't start off every interaction with that in mind. I'm always happy to have additional friends, or even just a stimulating conversation with an interesting person over a good cup of coffee. I prefer to interact with people who have the same attitude about meeting people through sites like this. Even if things don't click I still want it to be a pleasant experience.