I like to cut loose every once in a while and know how to have a good time at a party, but I also have a profoundly geeky side and enjoy reading, role-playing games, and dreaming up fantastic scenarios and stories. I am a Japanophile, but more interested in the language and traditional culture than in the anime/manga stuff. I enjoy both physical activities (cycling, hiking, swimming, team sports) and mental ones (Scrabble, chess, crossword puzzles, intellectual conversations). I'm a big nature lover and enjoy being outdoors - I'm not conventionally religious but unspoiled landscapes are cathedrals to me. I have what I like to think is a passable sense of humor but if you don't appreciate the occasional whimsical reference, nerdy intellectual joke, or cheesy pun, you may not agree. I like animals and share my apartment with two cats and a fish tank.
I am at heart an intensely passionate person, and when I have feelings for someone I am very affectionate and expressive. This, however, does not happen often. Experience has put some dents in my inborn romanticism and while I'm not a cynic I have become a lot more cautious about opening myself up. I tend to take things slow emotionally.
Meyers-Briggs type: INFP
MOVIES: Again there are too many to list them all. Some of my all-time favorites: "Seven Samurai", "Lost in Translation", "This Is Spinal Tap", "Star Wars", "Groundhog Day", "Blade Runner", "Goodfellas", "Rashomon", "Fargo", "Amelie", "The Godfather", "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind", "The Princess Bride", "Network", "Pan's Labyrinth", "WALL-E", "City of God".
TV: I fell out of watching TV during grad school but some of my favorite shows of the last few years are "Breaking Bad", "Mad Men", "Game of Thrones", and "Friday Night Lights". My favorite drama of all time is "The Wire" and my favorite comedy is "Seinfeld".
MUSIC: I grew up as an indie/alternative kid but have since worked my way backward into a deeper appreciation of not only classic rock but also jazz, blues, bluegrass, and classic country. I also like classical music but I lack the training to appreciate it for more than a pleasing sound. Some favorite groups/artists: The White Stripes, The Beatles, The Kinks, New Pornographers, Howlin' Wolf, Otis Redding, B.B. King, U2, The Magnetic Fields, Outkast, Muse, Blonde Redhead, Pogues, Roy Orbison, Marvin Gaye, Smokey Robinson, Miles Davis, Talking Heads, Adele, Johnny Cash, Bruce Springsteen, Wilson Pickett, Son House, The Clash, Arcade Fire, Yeah Yeah Yeahs, The Hives, The Killers, The Black Keys.
FOOD: Favorite cuisines are Italian, Mexican, Vietnamese, Korean, Indian... but I'll try anything once, an approach which has resulted in gustatory encounters with stewed jellyfish, steamed silkworms, and raw cod testicles, among other delights. I also like to cook and to invent my own recipes, several of which have proven to be edible.
2.)You aren't the type to wait around until someone you like makes the first move. I like women who are willing to be proactive!
3.)You can make me laugh. Seriously, if you do that right away, you're already halfway to winning me over.
4.)You do for a living or study something challenging and interesting. Smart, talented, accomplished = incredibly attractive!
5.)You do not, however, live only for work. I've noticed that DC seems to be full of type-A people whose entire lives and identities center on their careers. I don't judge that as a life choice, but it's not my cup of tea in a partner. I want to date someone who means it when they talk about wanting work-life balance.
6.)You like (or at least can tolerate) cats. I have two, I love them, and keeping them around is non-negotiable.
7.)You aren't vain or high-maintenance, and are just as comfortable (or more comfortable) in a pair of jeans, a tee shirt, and sneakers as you are in a fancy dress. I'm a no muss, no fuss kind of guy.
8.)No matter what happens you will be honest and straightforward. I don't go into this with great expectations, but I don't have time for games. I'm not going to wait three days to return your texts or repeatedly cancel on you or say things I don't mean to butter you up. All I ask for is a similar level of maturity and respect.
9.)Lastly, you approach this whole thing as something open-ended and fun, not something goal-oriented and mildly embarrassing. I am open to a romantic relationship if I meet the right person but I don't start off every interaction with a woman with that in mind. I'm always happy to have additional friends, or even just a stimulating conversation with an interesting person over a good cup of coffee. I prefer to interact with people who have the same attitude about meeting people through sites like this. Even if things don't click I still want it to be worth my time!