50 San Jose, United States
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My self-summary
In no particular order: I am an authentic man seeking a woman who likes authenticity. Playfulness, kindness, and connection are values that I hold dear. I will always put the toilet seat down. I strive to be a compassionate communicator and appreciate others who share that goal. I'm an Olympic-caliber hugger and a passionate kisser. I eat vegetables AND meat. I haven't traveled all over the world. I am a dreamer who lives in the real world. I am both Pooh and Grizzly. Born and raised on the East Coast. I live with two great cats. I say "please" and "thank you". I really don’t like rules or absolutes. My least favorite phrase is, "this is how we've always done it." Carl Jung’s’ concept of “shadow” is fascinating to me, and I like exploring my own shadows. I am not vanilla. I prefer "both/and" versus "either/or". I can never remember if the period goes before the quotation marks or after. Bugs Bunny and Leo Buscaglia are two of my role models. At this time in my life, I am mostly interested in hot monogamy. Oh, and by the way I smell good:-)

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What I’m doing with my life
For money: Training volunteers to be crisis counselors.

In General: Discovering what it is I really want; not just what I have been told I should want. Striving to be be a better human being. Creating more balance, pleasure and well-being in my life.
I’m really good at
Listening. Connection. Holding space. Giving massages. Singing in the shower or car. Telling the truth. Believing in and acting on contradictory ideas. Facilitating orgasms.
The first things people usually notice about me
Personality traits:
* I am usually pretty laid back (except when I'm not)
* I prefer hugs rather than handshakes
* I tend to smile a lot

Physical Traits
* I have very soft hands
* I am a hairy Jewish man
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Favorite books/authors: Illusions, The Red Tent, Many Lives Many Masters, The Five Love Languages, Non-Violent Communication, The Tipping Point, The Time Traveler's Wife, The Gift of Fear, The Holy Man, The Alchemist, The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex, Philip Pullman's Dark Materials series, The Cat Who series, Harry Potter, and almost anything by Pema Chodron, Richard Bach, Carl Hiaasen, Mitch Albom, Paulo Coelho, Leo Buscaglia, Brian Weiss, Faye Kellerman, Daniel Silva and Lee Child.

Movies: Shawshank Redemption, Grosse Point Blank, A League of Their Own, The Truman Show, The Princess Bride, Lord of The Rings, Bound, The Godfather, Chicago, Mr. Hollands Opus, Swordfish, 50 First Dates, The Usual Suspects, Nothing in Common, Longtime Companion, Exit to Eden, Kinky Boots, The Abyss, Shrek, James Bond (older ones) and in general movies with - Jackie Chan, Hugh Grant, Tom Hanks, Gene Hackman, Morgan Freeman, Julianne Moore, Meryl Streep, and Phillip Seymour Hoffman. There are lots more, but that is a quick list.

Music: Andy McKee, Billy Joel, Jackson Browne, Dobie Gray, Harry Chapin, Dana Owens, Vienna Tang, Peter Gabriel, Big Bad VooDoo Daddy, Michael Buble, Chris Botti, Seal, Crosby, Stills, Nash, B-Tribe, Sara Bareilles, Johannes Linstead, Sam and Dave, Garth Brooks, Dixie Chicks, Ottmar Liebert, Plain White T's, Jason Mraz, Liz Wright, Seis Cuerdas, Eve Cassidy, Great Big Sea, James Taylor, The Who, Gipsy Kings, and so many more.
The six things I could never do without
Pets (I have 2 cats)
Great smelling soap/shampoo
A good mystery novel
Peet's Coffee in my big travel mug
I spend a lot of time thinking about
* How I can be of service in my corner of the world.
* What are the rules and guidelines I have been living by, and do I need them anymore
* How to downsize my belongings
* Earthquake/Disaster Preparedness
On a typical Friday night I am
Ready for a quiet evening with a friend or two and dinner. Or it might be a time to separate from the work week with a movie at home.
You should message me if
You like men who are masculine AND communicative, sensitive, sensual/sexual, and funny. I am looking for a woman; not a girl. If you say "hella" or "like" every few words we are probably not a match. I'd like to meet someone who is still learning about herself, yet has a real sense of who she is. Easygoing, smart, cares about social issues (is pro-choice and pro gay-marriage), and wants to create a really great relationship. Someone who: likes different kinds of music, is comfortable with her body, age and sexuality , can tease and joke in a kind way, likes animals (is not allergic to cats), has a sense of purpose, has a wide variety of interests, and is able to give and receive affection easily. I would like to meet someone who demonstrates her commitment to clear compassionate communication. Warm eyes, an engaging smile, and the capacity for belly-laughs would be wonderful.