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My self-summary
Me? It may be a well worn cliché, but I find the idea of “defining” myself daunting. My original profile was written a long time ago, and I have since gone through some changes that I would say have changed me and the way I define myself in profound ways.

I will start this off by saying that I am happily married to the love of my life and partner Aeaf. We have a non-traditional partnership that is defined mostly by communication. Since people on this website seem to have a thick fascination with labels I would guess our relationship would be called open relationship (polyamorous). I think I saw a flowchart about this a while ago that describes in its own special way how these labels don’t always fit in a box.

So back to the topic at hand. Originally I had written here “I'm a geeky guy who likes to hang out with friends” but on some level I guess that lacks the depth of what makes up me. I am geeky, for sure, with an IT diploma and a career as a sysadmin and software engineer. I grew up playing D&D and wouldn’t think twice about jumping right back into a game (hints!). I tend to be more sensitive than others, and have enough empathy that it shakes my own emotions when someone else gets upset around me. I hide it rather well, unless you know me.

I love electronic music, play video games, play board games with my friends, read science fiction and fantasy, go to festivals… and I know more than I probably should about liquor (definitely craft beer). I am made up of so many different interests that I would find it incredibly difficult to drop myself into one category. What I could say is that I like to have fun and to enjoy life. I am a doer, someone who will make entertainment for myself and make my own world fun when I need it.

I am on this website with my partner to meet new people for hanging out, going on dates, or other types of fun. We are together or apart for the right people. (polyamorous)
What I’m doing with my life
“Have you tried turning it off and on again?” I work in IT. My official title is IT Specialist, which roughly translates to “if it has power it’s your problem”. I do a bit of programming and I would over an average day define myself as SysAdmin since the majority of my time is managing servers.

I love my job and my career path. If you have any technical questions I am always willing to talk about computer theory or assist with understanding.
I’m really good at
Breakdancing! I am rather excellent at pop and lock and spent years of my life training to become a better dancer. I don’t always get a lot of time to dance now but I will always find some time to bust a grove. Computers are an obvious choice. Video games? Is that something I can be really good at and impress people with? I swear my TTK is crazy high!
The first things people usually notice about me
I get super excited and loud for no reason at all. Or a reason that makes 100% sense to me and not to anyone else.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Brandon Sanderson's "The Way of Kings" and a few others, I read a lot and would love to talk with anyone about books or movies. Music I am into a decent amount of electronica as well as rock.

Recently read "The Words of Radiance" the second book in the storm light archive. This series is still topping my list. I would say Radiance bumped Kings for top book.
The six things I could never do without
Gaming (video, table, other)
My Childlike Enthusiasm

No particular order they are all important

*I feel like this needs clarification. I don't "need" the internet or computers. I am totally comfortable away from a computer but I have spent the majority of my life building a career around computers. I find them fascinating and it would be difficult to start a new career at this point in my life. With the amount of time I have invested into my knowledge base. It's more of a life sustaining "never do without" than a compulsive need.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The state of our country. This used to be something I casually ignored. I don’t really feel like anyone can ignore this anymore, we have so many issues that are being addressed right now. Everything form Net Neutrality to Environmental policy and we have the opportunity to shape the Canada we want to give to our children.
On a typical Friday night I am
I have so many different hobbies and types of friends this could be any number of things. I will leave you with the thing I love doing the most with my friends. Board games, I have an extensive collection of board games and getting together with everyone to play some Small World or Settlers of Catan is always a great evening. Recently picked up Lords of Waterdeep, fantastic game and looking to spend some more time playing it soon.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I mentioned earlier that I am really sensitive. I find this very private. Gender roles in society tend to force men to “act manly” and I find that quite often I cannot live up to that stereotype and it leaves me feeling lost.
You should message me if
You want to hang out with me or you’re itching to play a game. This site is about meeting people to experience life and have fun. If you’re interested in anything in my profile message me and let’s talk. I will respond to everyone but do try to put some content in your message.