38Grand Rapids, United States
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My self-summary
Update: I am currently involved in a successful poly setting. I've been getting a lot of questions on here and welcome more if you have them.

I am an adventurous, intellectual hedonist who is looking to expand his circle of close relationships and social friends. I am looking for meaningful relationships. The exact flavor of those is open to negotiation.

I am a clear communicator who is able to explore complex emotions honestly.

I have a pile of education and experience in spirituality. If you're looking to expand your horizons or resolve deep conflicts, I'm happy to participate. I consider myself agnostic and spiritual.

I am a royal nerd. By that I mean if there is any topic you dork out to, we probably share it.

I'm active and enjoy running, tennis and general exploring. I ride sport motorcycles and mountain bikes. I actively participate in organized sports. I game frequently and diversely. I love to dance and entertain.

I'm the sort of person who understands other people and why they feel the way they do, even when I strongly disagree. This was an essential skill growing up in West Michigan as a budding liberal.

I am a sex-positive feminist/profeminist. Bonus points if you can elucidate the difference between feminist and profeminist and make an argument for either. I am a LGBTQ ally.

I'm married to Hansel_gr. I'm open to romance in a polyfidelitous setting, with a MFF triad being my top preference.

I have had committed poly partnerships before. I excel at satisfying those I'm with. I love easily and heal quickly from hurt. I experience jealousy at a lower intensity that most people seem to.

If I message you, it is not a secret attempt to lure you into a threesome. Good group sex takes a lot of effort and dishonesty pretty much ruins sex. I will inform you of my intentions when I message; be it lover, friend or foe.
What I’m doing with my life
I enjoy helping people. I mentor younger professionals. I've moved from years of employment in the non-profit field into for-profit technology work. I am currently managing the technology for a large manufacturing site within a fortune 100 company.
I’m really good at
-pondering any question.
-helping people feel safe, cared for and passionate.
-getting into mischief.
-trying new things.
-solving problems.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm tall.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I recently read:

The Road by Cormac Mccarthy. The chapters where they find the bunker are my favorite moments in a book.

I have seen a great number of movies and I struggle picking my favorites. I've seen Shawshank Redemption and Army of Darkness many times, which bridge my tastes well. I cried during Up.

I listen to a lot of pop music. This is a result of a past job, where our clients listened to it almost exclusively. I slightly prefer break up songs by female artists. Everyone in my life thinks this is weird, seeing as how few break ups I've actually had. I like intense feelings.

I'll eat anything multiple times. I'm weak for tomato-based foods and things cooked or bought for me. I enjoy cooking for company and throwing dinner parties.
Six things I could never do without
1.) Love.
2.) Thought.
3.) People.
4.) The Internet or at least some pre-tech book version.
5.) Sexual Energy.
6.) Experiences.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Games and theory.
How people and systems interact with each other.
Loves held and loves lost.
Human sexuality.
How to survive varied apocalypses:

I have led 2 dozen people to survival against a couple hundred zombies in an outbreak enactment. In the end, I sacrificed myself and a contingent of brave high school track athletes, knowing that zombie players were so upset at not having killed me that they would chase me down and not even notice the bulk of the survivors fleeing to safety. I was rent limb from limb six feet from the helipad.
On a typical Friday night I am
Snuggling with someone.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I won the naked mile in college and years later saw myself on America's Most Extreme Videos, while I was in the same room as my parents, who are not at all liberal.
You should message me if
-You are a kind person, who seeks kind people.
-You have passion and commitment as skill sets.
-You have the will to do silly things like fly to Paris to repaint a terrible picture.
The two of us