69Modesto, United States
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My self-summary
I'm a native, full-time, small town Californian, born and raised on the edge of the Bay Area, back when the state had a much smaller population, was more quiet, and was more true to its core values. How sweet it was!

I'm a mix of many things. Romantic, practical, deliberate, whimsical, routine, doing the unexpected. It all depends on what is going on. I try to do the right things at the right times, but I'm human enough to exhibit a few flaws here and there. I troubleshoot objects that don't work at home, but will listen to you with focus when you want to talk to me. I tend to grow on people, and as my characteristics get shown, people like me more and more. The first impression of me is far different from later impressions, believe me. Everyone I've been around at my workplaces will verify that.

I'm quite spontaneous, thoughtful, caring, active, dedicated to one woman. I prefer a woman who can embrace her entire self an artful way (she doesn't have to be an artist). In some ways, I appear to be a conflict, but think of myself as being comfortable with being eclectic. I live a rich inner-life, and although considered (by some) to be a bit older than others on OKC, I have a very youthful outlook on life. I enjoy exploring the beautiful natural world we live in, I love discovering new experiences – live music performances, swimming, hiking, and meditation, reading. I also enjoy conversations, mild political discourse, philosophy, solutions, intimate subjects that need understanding, and then witty banter because life can be funny.

Some friends have told me I'm one of the funniest people they know, but I take them by surprise because I'm so low-key. I'm also about the inner you, and not your possessions. And equally, I care more about your mind, heart, your kindness, and your passions, than about the outer you, as long as you respect and take care of yourself, avoid being obese or are in an exercise plan to be more fit, and have self-respect. Swimming at the Sierra rivers is something that is fun for me on a hot day, and I skinny dip a lot. Care to join me in that? I'll really be into what what's inside your mind and heart, and if you are an honest, loving, sexual, sensual, happy person, who likes lots of affection each day, and otherwise are seeking the same, I have a sense we could be compatible.

You are a gracious, intelligent, graceful woman who has lived a full life, but knows that joy does not have an age limit. You deserve respect for the choices you've made, for the life you've lived, and for the woman you are. You have a big heart and desire a relationship with someone who knows how to have fun, someone who knows himself and feels confident enough to be himself. You like to be surprised, you enjoy spontaneity, but you also value solid values and integrity. You love to laugh, and you know how to cry. You have no body shame learned from your parents, or you have overcome that sort of thing.

Once you have developed a trusted relationship, you enjoy the physical aspects of being with a man who cares for you and respects you, and can make you feel valued and loved. You might enjoy places like the Sierra. Day or weekend trips in our area interests you. Once the time is right, deep intimacy is something you desire, but you don't want to be rushed too quickly into anything. You love feeling held, feeling safe in the arms of the person who loves you more than anything and anyone else in the world. You value the experience, the caring, the knowledge that comes with someone like me, who has lived a very rich inner-self life.
What I’m doing with my life
I like to stay mentally and physically active. I am at a junction in my life where many of my old friends have moved away and I'd like to make new friends, and that one special woman who share similar interests and passions.
I’m really good at
I'm a wonderful friend, but am looking for a partner and lover at OKC. I show I care in big and little ways. I love deep or light conversations across a range of topics. I have always needed to know how things work, which makes me a very capable fix-it guy. (But I won't try to fix you, unless you ask me to.) I'm good at how to unplug the sink, or how to plant daffodil bulbs. My friends tell me I'm an excellent confidante and that I offer good advice, without being judgmental. Most of the time, though, I will simply listen and offer a long hug. I vary between the court jester, and the serious thinker in weightier problems in life. I've been told I give great massages.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Too many kinds of each to mention. I cover a lot of bases, so to speak. Let's talk about these things.
Six things I could never do without
Being a positive, happy guy, books, spiritual exploration, friends, romance, the outdoors, intimacy, being caring, and you.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Solving problems, and next year's events
On a typical Friday night I am
Enjoying conversation with friends, preparing a wonderful meal, making plans for the weekend ahead. Wondering what you are doing, and hoping we'll have a chance to meet in the near future!
You should message me if
You are an adventurous, caring, gentle woman with a big heart who desires to be respected, loved, and cared about. If you love your life, and like to have fun, love to try out brand new experiences, we might be a good fit. If you do like the above, you like what you read.
The two of us