HaDAk
31 Ann Arbor, United States
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My self-summary
I could talk all day about what I like, what I enjoy, and how nice of a guy I am... but isn't that what everybody says? You're reading this because you want to know what *I* can do for *you*. Fair enough. Here's what I bring to the table:

Stability. I've got a stable job, I'm levelheaded, I think before I act, and measure twice before I cut. I'm rational, and that translates to no big surprises, no drama, and no bullshit. In essence: what you see is what you get. No surprises.

Affection. I am an affectionate person. You like cuddling? Great. So do I. You have a cat? Great. I like cats, and I would love to pet it. You have a dog? Great. I like dogs, and would love to pet it. You have a goldfish? Great... but I'm not going to pet it. On the flip side of that coin, I realize that you are well established in your life, and what you probably don't want is somebody doting on you, pressuring you, and making you feel like you can't take a single step without them asking what you're doing. You need space? So do I. I have hobbies now, and they don't include you. Would I love to show you my hobbies? You bet your ass. Do I want you ALWAYS up in my space while I'm doing the things I used to do, and enjoy, all by myself? I doubt it. I'm sure you feel the same way.

No bullshit. Let's face it: you've got better things to do than beat around the bush. So do I. No drama, no bullshit, and no time wasting. You want to know if we're compatible and can build a future together? So do I. I don't want to talk to you for a week or two on OkCupid, only to realize you have no actual interest of meeting up for a drink. Or, we talk, and then you disappear. Worse yet, we meet up, and then you disappear. We're adults. Let's act like it. If you're not feeling it, say so. You're not going to hurt my feelings. I don't need you to justify my ego. I'm a big boy, and I can take you telling me that you don't think we're a good match. Likewise, I'm not going to tell you that I think you're the cat's meow and then stop talking to you. That mentality carries over into other aspects of life, for what it's worth.

A future. If my past is any indication of where I will be in the future, you'd better buckle in. I spent almost a year homeless (there's something to ask me about over drinks), and less than 5 years later: I'm making nearly six figures. Is money everything? Hell no. Is proving that you've got what it takes to succeed, even in the light of personal tragedy everything? I'd like to think it's a damn good start.

Intelligent conversation. I'm educated, and in tune with my surroundings. I have a vast wealth of knowledge, and I am happy to share it (or, if you prefer, keep it to myself). If I don't know about something that you do, chances are I'll ask you to tell me more... so I can have a more intelligent conversation later.

Honesty and openness. Open communication. Let's talk. Curious about something? Ask. You'll get a full, honest answer. Just remember... you asked. ;)

Empathy. You had a bad day? It's ok. We all do, sometimes. I'll be happy to listen to you, and no, I won't always offer advice. Sometimes you just need to get it all out. Hey, I feel you there.

Oh, and I'll remove your mom's viruses from her computer. I promise, she'll love me.

Now... what can you do for me?
What I’m doing with my life
Setting goals, and meeting them. Two degrees? Check. Dream job? Check. Being the single parent of the most adorable little girl ever? Check. Kicking ass in that role? Double check.
I’m really good at
Doing what I say I'm going to do. Being where I say I'm going to be, and being there precisely when I say I'm going to be there. Being chivalrous and respectful to women. No, that's not a sign of weakness. It's a sign of respect.
The first things people usually notice about me
I've got hair and I'm dashingly handsome.

All joking aside, I'm an INTJ (95/74/84/74), so I can be rather elusive.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I am a movie aficionado, and my collection varies from old Swedish films about life and death (Det Sjunde Inseglet), to the summer blockbuster of yesteryear. You like to curl up on the couch and watch movies while munching popcorn? Boy, have I got the evening for you.
The six things I could never do without
My DSLR
Great micro-brewed beer
Google
Good movies
Easy access to information
Articulate communication
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Good guys don't always finish last. Instead, we choose very carefully about who we finish alongside.
On a typical Friday night I am
Almost always at home. Sometimes, watching a movie. Sometimes, watching tv. Sometimes, playing a game. Mostly, enjoying the quiet after a busy week at work.

As much as I love my alone time, I'm ready to start spending my Friday nights with somebody else. If not trying new things, and meeting new people, than having company in what I do by myself normally. Or, enjoying whatever you do on a Friday.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I used to be overweight by a fair amount. I lost 50lbs. I look good, and I feel great. Could I do more? You betcha. Will I? Hell yes. But for now, that's for me to worry about, and you to not give a shit ;)
You should message me if
If you're not afraid of considering commitment, and if you're serious about grabbing a cup of coffee or some sushi, then let's talk.
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