50Highland Park, United States
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My self-summary
Not long since the end of a two year relationship--I'm not exactly jumping in again with both feet yet. Which isn't to say I'm looking to "date around." Wouldn't mind going slowly and seeing what happens. Hoping to find an amazing connection at some point.

I'm a little off-beat. I'm good with that--I haven't always been. Sometimes serious, sometimes silly. I'm very playful with the people with whom I'm most comfortable. There are few character traits that I find more grotesque than false confidence (or more transparent for that matter). I value kindness and consideration in others and strive for the same.

I'm divorced since 5/13. I have two beautiful young daughters who mean the world to me. I'm conversant in a pretty wide array of topics: sports, rock, science, history, psychology, politics...

It's very important to me to treat people the way I want to be treated and to be honest about who I am. I think that one of the greatest gifts we (people) can give each other is understanding. It's very important to me that the people who matter to me know who I am, without any misrepresentation or dishonesty, otherwise, why would their opinion matter. As a result, I'm very open and honest with the people closest to me. Kindness and compassion are qualities that I try to refine in myself and seek in others.

I think I'm a good listener (though I find it hard to quantify that quality in myself--it's very subjective, put it this way: I try to be....) and I'm told that I have a very calming voice.

I consider myself kind of a music geek, a sports geek, a poker geek.....I like sci-fi, and am interested in all kinds of real science (esp. cosmology and theoretical physics, anthropology, psychology, biology), history......

You can get a little more of an idea about me if you check my explanations to some of my answers in The Questions (and maybe a laugh or two).

If it weren't for the snow, I'd probably wear flip-flops about every day of the year....jeans, t-shirt
What I’m doing with my life
Co-parenting. Developing a much healthier lifestyle--eating better (or at least much less), starting to get a little more exercise (it's all rather easier that I expected it would be, I've been at it for a couple months as I write this and the results have been rewarding).

I was a successful professional poker player for many years. I can engage in endless discussions of philosophy of poker and how it relates to life--and vice versa. Retired for now, unless I find something that really drives me.
I’m really good at
Words With Friends--wanna play? My name on there is: WorfRat
Understanding people, what makes them tick, what motivates them, helping put things in perspective...have to get to know 'em a bit first though
Curing hiccups--discovered a surefire cure when I was young, it works for everyone, my young daughters can do it--please feel free to ask if you want to know.

I'm really good at other things too--you'll see.
The first things people usually notice about me
Dunno, you tell me.....when I was younger, people (woman) used to often tell me that I looked like "someone," not necessarily someone specific.....never knew what to make of it....in retrospect, I think that it was generally a compliment, maybe even a line, but I might've been too naive to notice......doesn't happen quite as much as it used to.....ah, the ravages of time.....did I just say that?

Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Too many of each to name right now, maybe I'll fill this in later. Until then, feel free to ask.

At this moment (yes, I realize that the moment is gone as you're reading this), I'm watching RUSH being inducted into the Rock and Roll HOF......very happy for them, they deserve it. I really like RUSH, but they're not quite in my top five all-time favorites. Should I add RUSH and make it six? It's close....does it make up for not having "six things I could never do without" below?).....just thought I'd throw that out there. I think I've been told that RUSH is to music what the Three Stooges are to comedy......guys love 'em, girls don't.....anyone care to share an opinion on this? Dave Grohl is inducting them, does that help?.....wow, Neil Peart is incredibly eloquent, no wonder the complexity of his lyrics.

Okay, here's some: Auel, Douglas Adams, Richard Bach, Terry Pratchett, Vonnegut, I liked Ayn Rand when I was young and more self-centered--I've grown up a bit now.

Movies: so many.....Python, Mel Brooks, Full Metal Jacket, Goodfellas, Kill Bill I, II, Rocky's, Star Wars, Indiana Jones, Midnight Express, The Invention of Lying, Defending Your Life, Godfathers, Shawshank, LOTR

TV: old sitcoms, almost anything about physical sciences and history, sports, some news, Bill Maher, John Oliver, Newsroom, Curb, Boardwalk Empire, Pawn Stars (a little burnt out on it lately), Star Trek (and TNG).....I don't watch much reality TV--not a snob about it, just don't wanna get sucked in.

Here's my top five: Beatles, Grateful Dead, The Who, Led Zeppelin and Steely Dan. Pretty standard you say? Hey, most of these bands are not among the most popular of all time for nothing. I REALLY love them. Also like: the aforementioned Rush, Dylan, Neil Young, James Taylor, Elton, Cheap Trick, Supertramp, Indigo Girls, Natalie Merchant, the solo work of most members of the "top five".....many more. I used to be a pretty big music geek.

Food: meat, lobster, Greek, Italian.....a lot really, though I'm a little picky about a few items.

Six things I could never do without
My daughters

Never? Internet, iphone.....

Not sure that I can make it 6, I hope that's okay for now.

Okay, here's another: parentheses

......and 4-shot iced, venti, non-fat lattes, from you know where.....it has to be VERY cold for me to switch to the 4-shot non-fat grande cappuccino. Okay, there's six.....

flip-flops maybe
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My kids, relationships....PERSPECTIVE...the orange idiot...the Cubs
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'd really like to love and be loved again. I want to fall in love with someone who will become my best friend among other things.

On a lighter private note:

I cry at the end of some of the Rocky movies.....well, tear up anyway.....not all of them.....just three.....no, not III.....I, II and IV.....IV? you're asking yourself.....what can I say, I'm a sucker for the idea of world peace.....maybe Rocky can come out of retirement (again) and fight someone from Al Quaeda, ISIS, or Iran, or N. Korea...."if I can change, and you can change....." Cheesy, you say? I can't argue......well, I could, but........
You should message me if
If you think that we'd make a fun, awesome match. I'm not and never have been any kind of a "player." If I write you, it's because I have a pretty sincere interest and think that there's something special about you that really makes me want to meet you. If you're not interested, feel free to say so. I'm never going to be nasty about that or stalk you--I have way better things to do than waste my time on someone who's not interested.
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