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My self-summary
Greetings! Alright so I tend to ramble with directions as vague as a basic self summary, but here goes.

I am an emotional and thoughtful person. I love introspection and am a relatively typical introvert. I'm empathetic, genuine, and creative. I have a playful spirit, but tend to reserve it for closer relationships. I get overwhelmed in crowds and vastly prefer individual contact or small groups to parties or gatherings. I tend to get overwhelmed by the constant onslaught of sensory information we all get bombarded with regularly.

I believe that no person is ever done improving themselves and that sort of apathy-of-self bothers me. The moment we stop trying to know and become our true selves is the moment we may as well stop living. I also call people out on their shit. If you use a lot of ego defences or hide behind passive aggression, I will tell you I don't like while it happens. I'm blunt and won't indulge mind games. I don't handle the discrepancy between actions and words well.

I am a feminist. I get so tired of the misconceptions over feminism being man-hating. Those "feminists" are misusing a word that means equality. My belief is that stereotypical gender norms are just as damaging for men as they are for women. I'm not the type to flip out if you open a door for me. That's just considerate.

I have ongoing mental health issues that anyone who gets to know me should be aware of. I'm very open about it, but please don't ask me about it if you can't handle the response. I have anxiety, bipolar disorder, and PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder) from long-term emotional abuse. This is largely why I tolerate absolutely no bullshit in any areas of my life. I don't like aggression, but will have undying respect for you if you know the difference between that and assertion. I'm also in the process of relearning normal social boundaries that most of us learn during childhood. I get it wrong a lot but at least I'm trying. Patience is appreciated. I'm very good a respecting individual boundaries too.

In terms of what I'm looking for, I am mainly just wanting to meet and connect with some new people. I like beginning any new relationship as a friendship and seeing how that goes. I am non-monogamous and that is non-negotiable. I have been polyamorous for just over a year now and I absolutely love it. I identify as queer. I tend to have an easier time meeting and connecting with men, but would love to challenge my hesitance over trusting women. I likely have something amazing to discover in terms of how I can relate to other women, both emotionally and sexually. I would love to meet some ladies who are open to exploring, but it really doesn't need to be sexual.

I don't handle jealousy well because it is entirely unnecessary to me. If someone is working on their issues around it I can be patient but under no circumstances would I allow rules to be made if jealousy is the voice behind them. Jealousy seems to be a frequent off-shoot of poor communication and insecurities so I believe anyone can conquer it. I firmly believe in accepting what each person can give. I have many emotional needs and I need many forms of contact to feel balanced and content. I have no interest in shaming or being shamed for not meeting a need I am not able to give naturally. I'm still very receptive to criticism and change (especially in a relationship dynamic), but it has to be constructive.

Other more general and less intense interests include writing short stories and bad poetry on my blog. I enjoy any literary achievement that plays on the discomfort of situations. I'm big on playing on the things human nature tends to avoid. If you are interested, ask me :) I love lots of different forms of art and expression. I love music and to sing. I love mushroom foraging and baths enough to mention them too xP
What I’m doing with my life
I'm currently taking some time away from school to deal with some medical issues. I have chronic pain issues and am in the process of learning how I need to alter my life so that I can still do the things I want to do (and am determined to do no matter what). I spend a lot of time at the pool working on mobility and strength but it is slow going. I'm also learning a lot about how pain works in the brain so I can fool mine into thinking I have less. Brains are neat.

I want to finish my English degree and pursue creative writing. I want to be a published author eventually. I realized very late that picking one career would never work for me. I have a partially completely psychology degree I may or may not complete.
I’m really good at
Helping people open up and relax about their sexuality. This may seem like a weird thing to mention, but I am one of the least judgemental people you'll meet and find desire fascinating. I have been told I give great advice. Also, reading out loud and singing. I am a great listener and love in depth conversation so please feel free to be as delightfully weird and thoughtful as possible xD
The first things people usually notice about me
My height is the first thing noticed as women don't tend to be 6'3 xP I tend to be very outspoken and have a natural volume when I'm discussing anything I'm passionate about. I also have better than average eye contact, but many people seem to feel unnerved by it. I'm perceptive and I think it can be overwhelming.

My eyes are also a rather deep shade of green.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Literature is likely my greatest passion. I'll try to keep it brief. I love modern drama, science fiction (especially Soviet sci-fi such as "We" or "Heart of a Dog"), fiction in all forms, some fantasy... Most inspiring and admired authors would include Virginia Woolf, Margaret Atwood, Alice Sebold, George Orwell, Sylvia Plath, Oscar Wilde, A.M. Homes, T.S. Eliot.... This list really is endless.

I am open to most genres but have a unique appreciation for the slightly odd or extremely psychological... I love Fight Club, The Hours, Never Let Me Go, The Greatest, A Dangerous Method, Moonrise Kingdom, Away We Go, Rabbit Hole, The Help, Garden State, Constantine, Troy, 50/50, The Pianist, A Beautiful Mind, Enemy at the Gates, Benny & Joon, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, The Reader, The Shawshank Redemption, The Art of Getting By, Proof, American Beauty, The Secret Life of Walter Mitty... Again this list is endless. I also love all zombie films and ACTUAL vampire movies. I also tend to enjoy most action and war films...

Doctor Who, Sherlock, Stargate, Fringe, The Big Bang Theory, South Park, Game of Thrones, Adventure Time!, Happy Endings, Bored to Death, The Walking Dead, Band of Brothers, The Pacific, The Oblongs, Clone High, Invader Zim, Star Trek, Spartacus... I've likely forgotten some.

Another extremely long list... As for genre, I like electronica, indie/alternative, folk, rock... Pretty much anything that moves me to feel something beyond myself. Here are just a few... Metric, Death Cab For Cutie, The Boxer Rebellion, The Zolas, Arkells, VitaminsForYou, Said The Whale, The Beatles, Jethro Tull, The Temper Trap, Local Natives, The Naked and Famous, Walk Off the Earth, Library Voices, Rah Rah, The Yeah Yeah Yeahs, Jonsi, Mum, The Middle East, The Album Leaf, She Wants Revenge, Tokyo Police Club, Arcade Fire, Assemblage 23, Beck, BSS, B.R.M.C, DeVotchKa, Humans, Holy Fuck, Humans...

I stand by my statement about this just being a few...

Anything Italian, sushi, Thai food, fresh bread, avocados, COFFEE... I think it would be more accurate to just said I love food xP
The six things I could never do without
Trees (and nature more generally)
Art (in all its forms)
My limbs
I spend a lot of time thinking about
It would be simpler to ask what I don't think about but here goes... I think about the nature of people, whatever book(s) I'm currently reading, the effect the past has on the present, how to better myself as a person, the death of creativity, the patterns of behaviour, those I love, what "progress" means to others, what my contribution will be, the way some people can truly change you, how I would survive the zombie apocalypse, peace vs. chaos...
On a typical Friday night I am
Probably relaxing at home reading or watching a movie. Maybe chilling with a few close friends, drinking, going to a show or pub if my wallet allows for it...

I tend to be a recluse by nature, but I hate it when things become "typical".
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have a very difficult time interacting with other women to the point where I'm awkward and impossible to read. I would like to change that…

Also, more recently I have found out that I am somewhere on the spectrum for autism (likely with an eventual diagnosis of Aspergers or High Functioning Autistic). I actually think this makes me better able to handle relationships in a healthy way. Ask me about it if you are curious xD
You should message me if
You enjoy in depth conversation and cuddles.

You wish to bond over shared fandom of pretty much anything! (Doctor Who and Game of Thrones are safe bets)

You got this far and are more intrigued than off put by the intense degree of detail I feel required to express at any given moment of any day xP