33 Madison, United States
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My self-summary
I'm a quiet, nerdy, intellectual, fat, queer guy in a non-monogamous relationship. Looking for people in or near Madison who find people like me interesting, and staying optimistic that they're out there even though I'm pretty sure I've already met both of them.

At this point in my life/level of free time, I am not looking for any sort of new long-term commitment or romantic connection.
What I’m doing with my life
I returned to school later in life, so that's been my primary focus for the last several years. That chapter is coming to a close as I prepare to graduate with a degree in computer science at the end of this semester. What comes next is anyone's guess, and that's kind of how I like it.
I’m really good at
I have this working hypothesis that if you're really good at something, (a) you won't feel like you're good at it because it comes effortlessly, and (b) it will confuse you when other people aren't good at it, because it seems so trivial to you.

By this metric, I'm really good at teaching/training people how to do things, writing and passively absorbing bits of obscure information.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm an introvert, and I tend not to speak much in groups. I've been told that my quietness can come off as aloof, and I am often frustrated to find out after the fact that people thought I was angry when they interacted with me. I'm working on trying adjust my behavior to change this impression, but that's a work in progress. As far as I know, it's not something that extends to one-on-one interactions.
The six things I could never do without
1. Quiet spaces
2. RFC 2616
3. Opportunities to learn something new
4. A select handful of interpersonal relationships
5. Podcasts
6. [Intentionally left blank]
You should message me if
You are enthusiastically down with non-monogamous relationships.

You would enjoy spending an evening getting to know me better, and if you expect I would feel similarly about you.

You understand that if we go out, even if we have sex, even if it becomes a regular thing, that I am NOT looking for a romantic partner.

As a matter of policy, I am extremely unlikely to send an initial message if you have indicated some sort of fundamental incompatibility in your profile (particularly if it says you are looking for people who are single or if I'm outside of your age range.) If something like that applies and you wish to talk anyway, feel free to message me.