I want still more out of life, though. I'm a future-oriented person, and I'm looking at the coming decades as a time to expand my horizons and do a lot of new things--the next stage in my life is definitely going to be different from my past. My life up to now would have been a lot more fun had I found the right partner in crime, and I'm still looking for someone to share the adventure, and to open up the possibilities I've never tried: marriage, creating a home, raising a family.
This requires that I find someone who's not much more than half my age, which obviously doesn't work for everyone. Some couples do very well with a big age difference, though; over the long haul other things are much more important in making a relationship work out. Like cheese, wine, and whisky, men can become more complex, mature, and interesting as they age--so if those are the qualities you're looking for, and not finding in thirtysomethings, you might want to make my acquaintance.
Single; never married; no children
Oldest of three boys; parents deceased (Mom in 2008 at 89); nieces, a nephew, lots of cousins
Grew up United Methodist; at times involved in Episcopal and Lutheran (ELCA) congregations but not currently active
Politics similar to Mr. Obama's on most issues, though I wish he'd do more about some of them
Native Virginian but have lived much of my life in the Northeast, particularly Philly and Beantown
No tats, no piercings, no interest
Member of Chesapeake Bay Foundation, Friends of the Rappahannock, Nature Camp Foundation, Nature Conservancy, Wild Virginia; also Planned Parenthood, ACLU
2009 Corolla (36.2 MPG)
A long, long list of assorted facts about me that the okcupid staff robot mostly pulled over from Facebook:
I'm the only person ever to find a lost symphony by Haydn, in the Library of Congress in 1976. It will appear in print in the Haydn complete works in 2011. I've also found some chamber works by him that have been published and recorded.
I wrote 19 articles for the New Grove Dictionary of Opera, including those for all the parts of an opera where there's no singing or dancing ("Overture," "Intermezzo," etc.).
On November 22, 2009 I played my 149th Gilbert & Sullivan performance (of The Pirates of Penzance, possibly my favorite of their shows). The one I've played most is another favorite, Princess Ida, 23 times (can I make it a hundred?).
I once lost a game of Monopoly to an invisible unicorn named Med. (This has nothing to do with Dungeons & Dragons, though I have been known to play that as well.)
My oddest odd job was filling the humidifier in the room where they kept the cabinet where Beethoven kept his underwear. (It's in the Albrecht Music Library at the University of Pennsylvania.)
I'm a 17-gallon American Red Cross blood donor (as of April 21, 2010).
I've been the program annotator for the Philadelphia Chamber Ensemble since 1996.
I saw the Philadelphia Phillies lose at least one game every season from 1974 to 2004. In September, 2009, they broke a losing streak of 7 games for me going back to 2003. I was at Veterans Stadium for the entire doubleheader with the Padres on July 2-3, 1993, ended by Mitch Williams's RBI single at 4:40 AM. Oh say can you see by the dawn's early light....
On my 60th birthday I ran 14 miles and played viola in a Mahler symphony.
I attended my first session at Nature Camp (Vesuvius, VA) in August, 1959 and I'm still going back there. My particular natural-history interest is entomology. These days I normally photograph bugs rather than collect them, but I did deposit some cicada specimens in the collection of the Academy of Natural Sciences in Philadelphia a few years ago.
I have also been cited in a scholarly publication for my expertise on the history of battleships, and some of my recent work has required me to learn something about silver mining and refining in the eighteenth century.
I am intellectual, playful, and musical
My most important avocational activity is playing the viola. I'm usually playing in groups several nights a week: symphony orchestras, chamber groups, sometimes shows. After playing the viola exclusively for 41 years, I started dabbling in violin/Old Time fiddle at age 61 and got my first violin for my 62nd birthday. The first thing I ever played on the instrument was a Haydn piece I had rediscovered.
I published a few science fiction and fantasy stories a long time ago (one of which won a prize for newbie writers) and still write the stuff, hoping to get back into print one of these days. I have appeared as a guest writer at many science fiction conventions and have met a lot of the top people in the field. A hundred years after I'm dead people will still be referring to my scholarly work, and I'd like to reach the point at which they'll be reading the fiction as well.
I get to 10 or 12 baseball games a season. While the Phillies are my real loyalty, I get to Nationals Park several times a season and also catch minor league games around the state. My other big thing just now is racing, which I started last year at 61. I ran my first 5-miler on July 4, 2009 and took second place in my age bracket in a half-marathon a few months later. I run about one race a month. I haven't tried a marathon or a triathlon yet, but might with a bit of urging.
Some women who've known me a while find my outstanding characteristic to be my sanity.
Some favorite movies (alphabetically): Bull Durham, Fantasia, A Fish Called Wanda, Impromptu, The Incredibles, The Lord of the Rings, Porco Rosso, The Princess Bride, Raiders of the Lost Ark, Sink the Bismarck! Spirited Away, Topsy-Turvy, Young Frankenstein.
TV Shows: not watching anything current, but going through the DVDs of Buffy the Vampire Slayer (my all-time favorite) in alternation with Horatio Hornblower and Jeeves and Wooster.
Music: classical first and foremost (heavy on the Germans--Handel, J. S. Bach, Beethoven, Brahms--with a strong taste for some of the less self-important ones--Haydn, Mozart, Rossini, Sullivan), but I do listen to other stuff and have been known to play Broadway shows and a little Old Time fiddle.
Food: I eat food. Sometimes too much. Mostly plants, but probably not as much Michael Pollan would recommend (though I like his books anyway). I'll try all sorts of stuff and enjoy most of it. When I cook it runs to easy dishes: chicken, seafood, pasta, stir-fries. I don't think I'd click with a vegan but could probably work things out with someone who's meat-aversive. At dinner I usually have a glass of wine or a beer (no hard liquor); otherwise I'm a tea drinker.
(I'm taking health, food, oxygen, and such for granted here, but they're really means to an end.)
You think that the Symphonie fantastique is the best piece of workout music ever.
You think that 25 km on the Appalachian Trail is a nice way to spend a day (and you can keep up with me on a hike).
You'll put up with a few thorns in order to eat the blackberries straight from the vine.
You know what the third baseman does when the count reaches strike 2.
You think that 16 bookcases and a Steinway sound about right to furnish a 2-bedroom apartment.
One of your criteria for a relationship is that we should be able to spend several enjoyable years reading each others' books.
You sometimes fail your saving throw, but never underlead an ace and always go for the triple word score.
Your favorite Mel Gibson movie is Chicken Run.
You've written something at least as abstruse as “Die C-dur-Symphonie KV6 Anh. C 11.14: Ein Jugendwerk Anton Eberls.” Mitteilungen der Internationalen Stiftung Mozarteum 31 (1983): 21-26. (Send me your title and we can see who does best at guessing what the other one was writing about.)
You had an "Aha!" moment when Fujimoto called Ponyo by her real name.
You're toying with the idea of seeing the Ring cycle when the Met does it in 2012.
Du magst eine Rheinschiffahrt.
Your approach to religion can be summed up in the line from Life of Brian: "You have to work these things out for yourself!"
Having children is one of your top priorities for the current decade.
You can apply many of the things I've said in this profile to yourself.