I'm here looking for more fantastic friends and angels. I am happy to have befriended kindred souls on here who I am proud to count among my friends and/or partners.
I'm a teacher/imparter of dubiously useful information about contemporary post 1789 Europe based in Albuquerque, NM.
I'm 47, I am Hispanic, single (although I imagine many of us have our important, meaningful, and responsible--non-monogamous, physical friendships), straight, professional, worldly, witty, articulate, well-educated, intelligent, confident, independent, fun, safe, tested regularly and negative, childless, sterile by vasectomy, yada yada yada. I don't smoke. I enjoy social drinking, bathe at least once a day, brush my teeth at least twice a day, and find myself in the gym (less and less, alas, to play racquetball) about five days a week... or I'm out running or bicycling in the warm elevated desert sun.
I frankly don't know what other labels I can or should apply to myself at this point though I feel compelled to underline that I am not monogamous nor am I seeking to be in a monogamous relationship, unless it's a platonic friendship (Lest you exoticize and/or make erroneous assumptions of non monogamous folks, I do have any number of Platonic friendships with women, and I'm proud of those as well). At my age I believe I've earned the right to do whatever the hell I like and I thrive in multiple, simultaneous relationships of meaning, friendship, and love. In addition, I'm completely done forsaking or stalling relationships with secondary loverfriends because of some monogamous woman's fear-and/or-scarcity informed, desire to own or rent me, and my genitals. I don't find a spirit of abundance, honesty, and transparency in monogamous relationships, but if it works for you, great; I'm not saying we cannot be friends, even great friends, but I'm probably not a romantic match for you. So I seek more friends who, like a few here on OKCUPID, practice polyamory or some sort of responsible, open, and consensual non-monogamy. I am not inclined to stomach people believing in and harping on the argument that even though we are statistically doomed to fail as a married or serial monogamist couple when we're in those situations, we need to be serial monogamists and cannot grow any other relationships--especially friendships that may include a physical component--with other friends.
Though I straddle the line between a quiet confidence and insecure self-deprecation, I am happy that I strike a chord with so many fascinating people. Still, I never know when a woman is interested in me until she surprises me and starts playing tonsil-hockey with me.
Hmmm... and I speak fluent Spanish, struggle through low-intermediate French, and know a few cuss words in Catalan.
I am multi-faceted, uncategorizable, and ADHD-rrific...
But I'm also often feeling stir crazy in Albuquerque and the dearth of suitable romantic leads here. I have a sexy newish Hyundai Elantra, and would welcome the possibility or opportunity to drive to your community for a weekend or to meet someplace new and in between.
I have a ridiculously eclectic tastes in music running the gamut from Lyle Lovett to Cold Play, from Astor Piazzolla to Depeche Mode, from Radiohead to Philip Glass, and Imagine Dragons. I have been known to rock out to a lot of punk rock Social Distortion, Offspring, Flogging Molly, and/or Me First and the Gimme Gimmies when I hit the gym. I had a blast at a recent Neighbourhood, aka NBHD concert in Kansas City though I suspect any number of the teenaged girls there loomed at me and wondered: " Who brought their dad?!" I subscribe to XM Radio for my car even though I have one of the shortest commutes in America, and am usually tuned in to Channel 36, Alt Nation.
As for food, I am pretty much omnivorous though not a huge fan of seafood and shellfish. I truly love to cook, and crave opportunities to do so for friends who are potential lovers/partners.
Allegedly Lucinda Williams had herself a great show in Madrid while I was last there recently, and it's too bad I missed it. I love her music, but when I saw her in Santa Fe, NM a couple of years back, perhaps when she was in depression phase, she had the charisma of a cold cod.
I find almost all the dramatic series FX and AMC put out to be quite compelling, and occasionally binge watch a great deal of stuff on Netflix or Amazon Prime.
Jenny Lewis's "Handle me with care".
I've also been mulling how many (NOT ALL) of my beliefs parallel this woman's: http://solopoly.net/2013/01/10/rules-for-myself-what-makes-solo-polyamory-work-for-me/
If OKC thinks we are an 80% or better match that suggests (from past experiences) we will get along swimmingly. Well I imagine that the "hot but vacuous" will eventually bore me. So read this:
I'd like to meet an intelligent to brilliant conversationalist who is confident, sexy, witty, and happy... Someone who is looking for a confident friend (and maybe a primary partner/lover) with whom she can be free to be herself and allow me to be the same. Someone who understands that though I am content with a lot about my life, I am insatiable when it comes to surrounding myself with thoughtful, challenging, beautiful, and interesting friends.
Someone who sings out loud while driving in her car; loves flannel sheets because they allow you to sleep in the buff with a lover in the winter; is a cat and a dog person, or just a cat person; can hold her end of a conversation; is athletic, healthy, and/or knowledgeable about sports; is a barfly and a discerning drinker; isn't into power or pain because the best adult play is between friends and equals; has a little black cocktail dress and doesn't think it's weird that I crave opportunities to wear my tux; someone who respects my relationships, and who expects the same; someone who digs my cooking; someone who doesn't impose her beliefs about people's private lives on others; someone who is sure of herself and mostly comfortable in her own skin.