I'm looking for something real with someone that I can trust.
I'm not at all sure what to put here because I feel like that's totally cheating if I write out my entire life story -- where's the thrill in getting to know me if you could just read all about it and already know? Here's what I will tell you, though:
I am Asian-Italian and just as my profile will tell you, I am twenty-seven years young and I'm looking for something long term. Please do not enter my life if you do not plan on staying.
For starters, my name is Jess. I attended Rock Hill High School, (Class of '08) and some York Technical College, but dropped out (of College) because I didn't and still don't know what I want to do with my life. And since changing majors means starting over with everything, I decided to put my education on pause until I find something to stick to. Unfortunately, I still have no idea what I want to do; there's so much to pick from these days that I become too overwhelmed.
I adopted my "daughter" in early September, and since then, she has taken over my entire life. I'm leaning more towards Veterinary work and learning more about animals and their behavior, though, thanks to her. Perhaps when school opens up next semester, I'll start over for the millionth time and go into that field. Who knows?
"What are you looking for?" Now, this...this seems to be a question that I get most often, and because I am so fucking old fashioned, I often find myself back at Square One. Apparently asking for a gentleman in this day and age is too much to ask for. I know it is, too; too many awful women have taken them for granted, and now there's none left! Just my luck, huh?
Before we get any further, let me go ahead and tell you that I'm technically off the market; I'm in a long-term relationship that I'm extremely unhappy in. Actually, as far as I'm concerned, the relationship ended several months ago. Though despite how unhappy he has made me, I will not abuse his trust and become unfaithful, no matter who I meet. I'm not going to become a cheater and ruin any other potential relationships with the whole "she cheated on him, so she'll cheat on me." No. I'm not like that; I'm going to save up first, and move out on my own because Jess is and never will be (or become) a cheater. Sorrynotsorry.
We are to be friends first and foremost; men like to think that just because we met on an online dating website/app, that we get to be in an automatic relationship and I'm sorry, but that's not how I want things to be. Get to know me, first; see if you actually like me. Don't go jumping into something that you might not want -- but if you don't want to wait, that's fine. Go find someone else, because I'm not going to chase you and I'm not going to beg you to be here for me. I know when I'm not wanted, fellas.
I am not a christian and I don't quite care if you are or not unless you're one of those hardcore "I love jesus" fanatics. That's cool if you want someone as religious or christian as you are, but that person is not (and never will be) me.
I do not have human children and I do not want them at this point in my life. I kind of really loathe them, so the idea of having them is not something that I would likely to consider. I will also likely not consider dating a single parent.
Also, I do not care how well written you think your messages are to me, but if there are grammar mistakes, I'll likely not answer them. Grammar matters to me. It's a shame that I even have to add this to my profile. Educated men should know how to write.
If you like me, please message me. I'm not a premium member; I can't see who likes me. I'm an "old soul" with traditional values; I won't send the first message out, ever.
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Out of 430 likes on OkCupid, only a few of you has swnt me a message?
You may message me if If you are looking for something serious and long term, and if you're honest. I'm tired of having relationship after relationship. If you don't know what you want, have the balls to tell me. I'll respect you more for being honest, but don't put me and my feelings on the backburner just because you're not sure.
You may message me if you are a sweet, loyal gentlemen who's putting serious effort into finding a nice, caring woman that'll do anything to make the people in her life smile, friends included.
You may message me if you're not a selfish bastard. I realize that careers and life come first, but if something sparks between us, I expect to be become a major part of your life. You need to relocate? Give me a moment while I pack my belongings.
You may message me if you are in the area, or out of -- so long as the distance isn't too terrible.
You may message me if you can write more than an introduction sentence with proper grammar. Messages like hey how r u isn't going to work.
You may message me if you're willing to work things out. If you're the type of person who is just going to abandon your partner when things get rough, then scram. Seriously, that isn't how things work in a relationship. I can't fi things if you don't tell me what's wrong. Ignoring me completely and shutting me out does more damage then good.
If you can capture my attention with an original non-generic message that makes you stand out - then you're good as golden. If not? Go waste your pathetic time on someone who gives a damn, because I surely don't. I want someone who can capture my attention with the first sentence, and not just your average joe.