HedonistPoet
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My self-summary
Debauchery. Wit. Charm. Coffee.
If those words resonate for you, read on...

I dropped out young, and then dropped back in and ended up in a PhD program. Academia had me in its grip, but after a few years it became clear to me that happiness lay elsewhere. Now, I travel often, to places both exotic and mundane (mostly mundane).

I'm immersed in a life of quiet, happy debauchery. I've long since stopped writing poetry, but even though my pen has been replaced by the sterile keyboard, I still feel like a poet in my heart. I laugh at people who think "queer" is an insult, and I am probably too in love with ellipses...

Be bold and write me.
What I’m doing with my life
In many ways, I'm in a place where I'm looking at the world anew; change may be a constant in our lives, but more than ever I feel open to new possibility.

Despite my best intentions, in small ways I've succumbed to neoliberalism, making myself a product. Luck, hard work, privilege, and a little talent all came together to make it happen, but I'm ever so grateful that it did, despite my reservations; now I am making a life out of my joys instead of grinding it out at a shitty day job.

This means I travel a lot. I love living in Madison, WI, and the more I travel, honestly, the more I love coming back home.

Upcoming travels, below!

May: Richmond, Nashville, Montreal
June: Detroit, Omaha, Las Vegas, Columbus
July: Toronto
August: Minneapolis, Denver, Indianapolis
September: Washington, D.C., Providence
November: Atlanta, Portland
December: Oklahoma City, New York City
I’m really good at
Listening; giving a shit; connecting with people; connecting the dots; theory; idea-crafting; words; thoughtfulness; passion; and engaging in the back-and-forth of indulgence and restraint.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Authors:
Margaret Atwood
Milan Kundera
Carol Queen
Andrew Vachss
Octavia Butler

Movies:
Good lord. Why not just ask me about which organs are my favorites? (Though, to be fair, Shortbus manages to embody parts of my version of utopia...)

Music:
Last.fm tells me that my most listened to music of this year is, in order:
Liz Phair
PJ Harvey
Nine Inch Nails
Chris Pureka
Bishop Allen
Screamin' Cyn Cyn and the Pons
Johnny Cash
Faith No More
Tom Waits
A Tribe Called Quest
(... probably subject to change frequently)

Food:
See movies, above.
Six things I could never do without
Those I love, a wonderful home, my wits, the tools of my trade, challenges, and passion and intimacy...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Privilege. Neo-liberalism. Queer theory. Post-positivism. Situated Knowledge. Intersectionality. Rhetoric. Sexuality. Narrowcasting.

Other random thoughts:

I travel a lot. Sometimes when I'm traveling I find myself wondering what the hell I'd do if a zombie apocalypse broke out at that very moment. I think if it happened when I was home I might survive that first wave, but out in the unknown, could I make it without really knowing the lay of the land?

Which states are a part of 'the Midwest'?

What does "Short-term dating" mean to people?

What is the nature of demi-fame?

Why isn't there enough time for everything I wish I could do?
On a typical Friday night I am
On the road in some random city... Lazing in bed with good food and a movie... At a show letting the music hit me...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
- People keep telling me I'd make a great Companion (a la Inara); I take that as an incredible compliment, and amusing, given some of my history.

- I met my dear friend wildenights on OkC, so I have high expectations of just how good a connection is possible here.

- I use the profile name 'HedonistPoet' on things like FL and other internet places.
You should message me if
An incomplete checklist for the organized types - not all need apply...

* You view yourself as a stand-out
* You are queer-identified (or understand what that framing means)
* You have an excellent grasp of social rules so that when you break them, it is with a purpose
* You are smart and can be challenging without being obstinate
* You like to reward yourself with little treats
* You know that something fun and casual can also be rich and deep
* You rock

Or, in other words:
*** strong guts, warm heart, bright eyes, sharp mind, hot breath... hopefully, all in the same package, though others may apply...
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