With that in mind, I don't want to be generically attractive on here. I want to attract the right person, and I actually want to scare away the wrong people. At the risk of being too intense in my first impression, I'm going to start with the polarizing part. If you make it through, there's regular dating profile stuff further down.
Okay, [cracks knuckles] to start with the scaring: I don't want to get you a diamond ring at any point. It doesn't make sense to me to spend a month's salary on a shiny rock that was sourced from a war-torn and exploited area, to prove that I love you. What am I, buying you or something? A friend has these. They seem better.
Okay, if that didn't do it, let me try another tack. Here are some quotes I like and take seriously:
“If the world were merely seductive, that would be easy. If it were merely challenging, that would be no problem. But I arise in the morning torn between a desire to improve the world and a desire to enjoy the world. This makes it hard to plan the day.”
― E.B. White
"The unexamined life is not worth living."
I want to be purposeful with my life. If I'm going to have a life partner, we need to be able to push each other. Not necessarily in the sense of ambition, but in the sense of examining how we want to live our individual and shared lives and holding each other to those paths. I need you to judge me when I'm playing some stupid game on my phone for no reason. If it's not fulfilling, useful, or nourishing, then why do it? I'm not actually super good at living up to this, but I've learned that a requirement for a life partnership that won't drive me insane is for us to help each other be better. This is the way I want to be better.
This doesn't mean I never want to chill or do something for the enjoyment. Of course I do. That's the first part of the first quote! As I see it, appreciating (and possibly making) beauty is a huge part of being human. The point is that I want to purposefully enjoy things, not just do whatever is the most convenient or "normal".
Some innocuous facts
If I haven't scared you away by now, that's exciting. As a reward, have some random facts from before my profile got so serious:
My name is a sentence, and I try to make it true when I can. (What could that mean? I'm so mysterious.) I like to sing and play music, though not necessarily well. I play guitar in a just-for-fun band. We do a mean the fox. I like to run barefoot. You should try it. It's amazing.
Right now, I work on content for a nonprofit education website. I get to play around with math and science while helping to address a major social and economic human problem. It's really my dream job.
Part of me wants to become a super influential person who helps affect the course of human history, and another part of me wants to forsake all my possessions and just wander off into the wilderness. Neither is very likely, but hopefully I can find some happy medium that satisfies both of those parts of myself.
The Better Angels of Our Nature – This is one of those books I plan to reference often and go through many times during my life. It spans biology, psychology, sociology, history, and mathematics, all toward answering the question of why violence has declined over time. It might not seem like it given the news, but we kill each other at historically record low rates. This progress isn't sure to continue, but our chances to maintain it go up if we understand what has contributed to it so far.
The ABCs of How We Learn – Still working my way through this one, but it's incredible so far. Also one of those books I intend to reference and reread many times. Each chapter is one letter of the alphabet, corresponding to one important learning tool or principle (e.g., A is for Analogy, B is for Belonging). I work in education, and most education books are honestly trash. This one is gold. It's a great read whether you intend to teach others or structure your own learning.
Full Frontal Feminism – This is the book that kicked me in the ass and made me realize that I should identify as a feminist. I don't know that it's definitely the best book out there on the subject, but a friend recommended it to me, and it made a difference in my life.
Mistborn – I figured I should include a fiction book. I enjoy reading them, but no particular one stands out to me like crazy. I picked Mistborn as my fantasy book because I thought it did a good job of making an interesting fantasy world and slowly letting the reader discover it, from the specifics of the magic to the history and social implications. Things like Lord of the Rings and Harry Potter are good in their own ways, but they both have the quality that magic is just magic, and you can't really have a great understanding of the world.
Lolita – Including Lolita because I felt super nerdy after that previous paragraph differentiating between kinds of fantasy novels. Lolita is fiction set in the real world. I won't spoil it for you if you haven't read it, but it makes you empathize in ways you wouldn't expect.
Six Easy Pieces – The first few chapters from the larger set of
Feynman Lectures. As someone in education with a physics background, this is an inspiration in terms of using plain language to say things that are true and get at the main ideas.
Okay, here's where I reveal the full scope of my nerd-dom.
I don't have a TV or a Netflix subscription. What I do watch is people playing dungeons and dragons on the internet. There's a long story arc, and it's almost completely improvisational. It's like a reality show flipped on its head. Real people being filmed, unscripted, in real time, but inhabiting a completely imaginary world.
Okay, I'm tired of putting links to everything, so I'm just going to list them, and you can look them up if you want.
The Ezra Klein Show
The Methods of Rationality Podcast (rationalist fanfiction)
Those are my mainstays, but I sample from all over based on what people post on facebook.
I tend to listed to electronic music while I work, and my tastes have drifted in that direction. I mostly just don't like country music, and I can find most things interesting outside of that. I used to listen to a lot of things on the rock/metal spectrum, so that will always hold a special place in my heart.
Stuff to learn
How to get people with different politics to build from their commonalities rather than tear at their differences.