59Ann Arbor, United States
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My self-summary
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I am a happily married man- 32 years- but in a mono-poly relationship. My wife chooses to be monogamous (so far) and I am polyamorous/swinger. We are very happy with each other and our marriage has no secrets and is open. I consider myself pansexual, but bisexual will do too. My bf of 5 years is mostly monogamous too, but he and I do like to play with other people occasionally.

I am trying to learn all I can by talking, asking, watching and LISTENING to others. I have few limits but always mutual respect.

I am also hiv positive. I always play safe, now! If you are truly having safer sex, your partners' hiv poz status (mine is undetectable thanks to LOTS of medicine and healthy life-style) should not matter so much. But you have to decide your limits.

I am active in the metro Detroit BDSM scene. Love it!

I do consider myself to be a well rounded fellow. I have interests in agriculture, science, nature and the arts. I work in the performing arts and enjoy what I do for and as a living, the backstage aspects and also in Info.Tech.
What I’m doing with my life
Working, being a good husband boyfriend and father.
I’m really good at
Doing what I said I will do, but usually 5 minutes later than I said I would.

Helped raise a great daughter. My wife and I are a great team and our daughter is a fascinating and engaged young adult!
The first things people usually notice about me
I hope they notice I am smiling. But I am 6 foot 3 inches tall with a nose ring, so I bet that is the first or maybe the second.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
TV- not much but I do love
American Horror Story, Justified, House of Cards and PBS
Radio- NPR almost all the time
Six things I could never do without
my family (wife, boy friend and daughter)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
work, politics and balancing my life (BF, wife and daughter).
On a typical Friday night I am
In a theatre (live kind), working, talking to my daughter, at home reading the paper, at City Club, hot tubs with my wife or out with friends for dinner and light drinking. Yep- there is no pattern!!!!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I own more than one whip, and I know how to use them.
You should message me if
You have ANYTHING at all to say- I will answer all. I do enjoy witty chat, invitations to share coffee, etc. The point (for me) is to get to know other people. If you are a non-smoker and not a recreation drug user that would be great too.
The two of us